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Ok so I had surgery in October and I feel great and am looking good in the outside. I have struggled with kidney stones and have had them blasted work is super stressful. No need going into the boring details. But I can't eat. No food is good to eat anymore. I accidentally skipped Breakfast so irrated all day. I usually knit but I can't seem to find comfort in that. My friends and family don't understand what I'm going through. Feel lost. In need of something. What? I have no idea :( anyone

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Ok so I had surgery in October and I feel great and am looking good in the outside. I have struggled with kidney stones and have had them blasted work is super stressful. No need going into the boring details. But I can't eat. No food is good to eat anymore. I accidentally skipped breakfast so irrated all day. I usually knit but I can't seem to find comfort in that. My friends and family don't understand what I'm going through. Feel lost. In need of something. What? I have no idea :( anyone

I go through the same thing often. Its depression. I get upset, irritated, dont want to eat, not interested in anything. Hopefully it will.pass for you soon. If not see a dr. about it.

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This is a new depressed feeling. I really thought I had depressed on lock down. I suppose you could be right. But the feeling is more frustrate and lost. Misunderstood. Once I'm cleared to start running again next week. I look forward to it. Perhaps that will help. I feel like I have lost friends as thy have been jealous of my weight loss. But it comes with a price a huge price and I need to find my new way.

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Try walking...I have felt that same way and I just took a 30 min walk with my dog....I felt so much better... Try a support group, that might help as well.

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I second the support group idea. It is hard for people to know what you are going through that haven't been through it. Which is why they become distant and jealous. WLS still has the stigma of being the 'cheaters' way out. I wouldn't put much emphasis on it. Find something else to occupy your time. Whether it be family night, hanging out at home watching a movie, or window shopping at a local mall.

Another thing is pamper yourself. Go get your nails done or your hair done. Do something for you.

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This is a new depressed feeling. I really thought I had depressed on lock down. I suppose you could be right. But the feeling is more frustrate and lost. Misunderstood. Once I'm cleared to start running again next week. I look forward to it. Perhaps that will help. I feel like I have lost friends as thy have been jealous of my weight loss. But it comes with a price a huge price and I need to find my new way.

I know how you feel with your friends. My sister in law has actually done that to me. She refuses to acknowledge my weight loss. I've expressed my feelings to her & nothing has changed... Can't believe family would act like this...

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I know how you feel with your friends. My sister in law has actually done that to me. She refuses to acknowledge my weight loss. I've expressed my feelings to her & nothing has changed... Can't believe family would act like this...

People act crazy after this surgery . I have not seen my in laws since thanksgiving so next visit should prove interesting.

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