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I am selfish...possibly for the first time in my life.



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Humor me.

BE SELFISH.

do it for you

you and you alone.

doing all of this for someone else makes it about someone else.

ALL OF THIS IS FOR YOU.

nothing pisses me off more - since I was a very young kid - feeling like I “needed” to loose weight for someone else...for society - for a certain clothing - for a “look” - for prom, for graduation, for college, for that job, the engagement, the wedding dress, the pictures, the honeymoon, the pregnancy, the kids, because the TV says I should, because PEOPLE Magazine says I should, all the time for someone or something else - I am doing this for ME...NOT for my husband...NOT for my kids...I’m doing this for ME...and me alone...this is year of ME. Sure they get the byproduct of my ME-NESS...and they get to enjoy the new ME but not for one second am I doing all of this for anyone but ME.

xoxo.

LOVE ME.

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Good for both of you!!

You have to do this for yourself and no one else. It is such a personal and emotional experience. I hope my hubby finds me more attractive but it is me, and me alone that has to live with the choice I made. So far, it was the right choice.

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I have said that 2013 was MY year. I chose to have this surgery for ME as well. And being a mom of 3 and a wife, and always doing for someone else, I deserve to do something just for me.

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Dr.’s have said to me - but you gotta do it for “X” - usually they mention the kids - as if guilt would guilt me into weight loss - If I didn’t do anything up to now for ME - this is for ME and ME ALONE - yes - I LOVE THEM TO PIECES - but they don’t motivate me - I motivate ME.

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Me too. Me too! It's all for me right now. My family is following me, after some resistance.

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GOOD FOR YOU!!!! I copied this and I will read it everyday!! I have always been so self conscious of my weight/looks. This year my new years resolution was to not think about what others say or think. So i say THANK YOU for writing this. Take care:-)

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I have to remind myself to be as good to me as I know I am to everyone else. I know I sound like an snl skit or a Shampoo commercial- but I am soooooooo worth it.

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I feel the same way. In the past my doctors made me feel as though I needed to lose weight because society demands that. I definitely made my decision to have surgery because I want to be healthy and feel better. This decision is a personal one because we are the ones who will experience the whole thing. It's okay to be selfish for once and do this for you. Good for you!

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Same hear my family asked what are your plans for 2013 and I told them this year will be all about me. They look startled and said wht bout ur kids n hubby. Well of course my family has always been my priority its always someone else thts why this year its my turn. Its never about me. N ur Wright Im doing this for me n no one else my hubby says he loves me no matter what I look like n I thank him for that But Im doing it for myself n my health

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Exactly!!!! I feel the same way. I love my husband and my kids dearly. I knew I had to do something about this weight. My husband like yours loved me just as much at 300+ pounds. And yes thats great BUT if i wanted to be around to see our 20th, 30th anniversary and see my daughters graduate from college I (Lena) had to do this for me. Because no one is walking this path but me. For the 1st time ever In my life I'm putting Lena first. I printed the quote out and have it at my desk and on my fridge at home. My husband said to me good for you because it's about time.

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