13 days til surgery and now I'm scared :-(

[mrs.mda 6]

Hello, I'm new here and so glad I've found rnytalk!

Surgery has been my goal for the past 6 months and now that everything's a "GO!" I'm so anxious and afraid. I feel like my concerns may be a bit invalid/vain however I still feel this way. But I figure this will be the place to help me through-- 1. What do I tell my coworkers about my "mysterious" weight loss? I shouldn't be ashamed about the surgery but my weight has ALWAYS be an embarrassing subject for me!! 2. How do I not have/reduce the issue of excess skin as I work toward my goal weigh? My heart is beating fast as I type cause I'm so scared. I feel like I can't admit my fears because my support people will be like "well, don't have the surgery then!" But they don't really understand what this is like for me :-( I have a few other concerns but these are the most pressing issues right now.

[music1618 879]

Welcome to the group.

I have always been honest about telling people. I was scared they would think I had a disease like cancer, but it is a personal choice. You do not have to tell anyone. When asked about the weight loss say you are working hard on your New Years resolution.

As for the skin question there are a lot of factors. Age, genetics, amount of weight loss. I am 33 and have found working out is the best thing to stay toned. I have some flabby skin, but hopefully my increased work outs will help. I 7 months post op down 89 pounds.

This group is wonderful and no question is off limits so if you have more let us know!

[kristy3k 1,133]

Welcome to the group. Glad you found us

[Vicki Loichinger 444]

Glad you found us. And if you weren't nervous or scared then something would be wrong. It is perfectly natural, this is a big deal But you will be fine. As far as co workers go, the above advice sounds good to me. Tell them what you are comfortable telling them, if you don't want to tell about the surgery, don't just say you are on a new eating and exercise plan, which you will be. Keep comming here in the next few days reading and asking questions. We will help you through. You got this.

[mrs.mda 6]

Thanks everyone! I look forward to having your support!

[kparadisek 115]

Hello! I think this is my first post but thought I'd say that I also feel like you I don't want to share my surgery details with my coworkers. I've got one girl in the office that had the surgery but won't admit it. She looked sick when she first got it done but now she starting to look normal. It could've just been the way she looked after surgery. My HR department is known for gossip so I wonder how I'm going to keep it a secret? Good luck!