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[DaveR 0]

My wife and daughter are totally against me having RNY surgery. They are giving me no support. They feel I can lose weight on my own. I just wasn't trying all those other times I dieted. I'm still pressing on and doing everything to get the surgery no matter what.

[JW3 5]

I had a friend get a lap band and he had lost a 100 lbs. I spent about an hour talking to him about it. I went home and asked my wife what she thought. Right away she told me she would support my decsion if I wanted to go ahead with the surgery. Duenoing the workups to the sugery she found people that we knew that had the surgery and hooked me up with them so I cold ask questions. Based on my discusion with those people and my surgeon, Dr Shadle (Sacramento, CA) I had thevertical sleeve sugery.

So my experience is completely the opposite of what you are ging through.

However, hind sight being 20/20 don't let anyone get in your way. I am 3 months post op and have lost 75 lbs, I don't take blood pressure medicine anymore, my jpoints don't hurt and I feel great.

Find a good surgeon to help you decide which proceedurte is right for you and go for it! It is your life and your decision to make.

Good luck

[James Marusek 5,244]

My wife was the one who urged me to undergo this operation and she has been supportive. The only person who has not been supportive has been my mother. She is somewhat dependent on me and is more focused on anything that might interfere with that support.

[micmt 120]

I wanted to get started in January. Had the first appt scheduled but my wife was very against it so I canceled it. Then I needed a colonoscopy or two and 50 precancerous polyps were removed. Blew through my max out of pocket nuttin flat. Told her its now free and I want to do it. She still thinks one more diet is all I need. But she knows I really want it.

[Whey2lovely 5]

So I am just curious did you have the Surgery

[micmt 120]

I'm on my first day of liquid diet. My surgery date is nov 4. My wife knows I really want it done and she has come around mostly. She is worried of course but she is ok with it.

[Mayaresearchmom 104]

I'm on my first day of liquid diet. My surgery date is nov 4. My wife knows I really want it done and she has come around mostly. She is worried of course but she is ok with it.

Congrats on taking control of your life. Hope all is well after your surgery.