Let's be friends, I need your HELP!

[swilkins 34]

I had my surgery 8/12, I'm down 52lbs. I have done great so far with my weight loss however, I am beginning to pick up old habits. I drink soda everyday, started eating Cookies, and my solution after a stressful day of work is to have a cocktail. I'm pretty much a loner, so its easy to come home and find comfort in these things.

[kristy3k 1,133]

You have come to the right place. If you haven't done so already I would suggest getting an app like my fitness pal where you can track everything you put in your mouth. Remind yourself every day why you had the surgery. At this point you should find other ways to relieve stress... Exercise is a great way... Even if its just walking. You might want to think about seeing a therapist if you aren't already. The mind will trip us up more then anything. This tool is a great opportunity to change your life but you have to want it. Come on girl don't fall back on old habits... You got this

[swilkins 34]

Actually, I have MFP and a therapist. I thank you for the reminders. I utilize my therapist for other reasons, but I guess she can also help me process this as well. Are you on MFP??? I am swilkins12 on there, let's be friends...

[Lebim 381]

I had my surgery 8/12' date=' I'm down 52lbs. I have done great so far with my weight loss however, I am beginning to pick up old habits. I drink soda everyday, started eating Cookies, and my solution after a stressful day of work is to have a cocktail. I'm pretty much a loner, so its easy to come home and find comfort in these things.

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No one here can help you with your problem. Your surgeon can't help you either. The only person who can help you is you. You need to take responsibility for you actions and do something about it or you'll be another failed surgery and gain your weight back. You knew going in to this that it was a complete and total life change and that if you don't change your eating habits your body won't change either. Stop looking for comfort and do something.

Soda and Cookies and cocktails is what made you fat. If you decide to keep eating them post op then you deserve no sympathy.

- Kaylee Ann ~ Surgerversary 6/11/2012

[swilkins 34]

Wow, so blunt...

[shortythick.rb 0]

I had my surgery 8/11 and I lost the weight but not as fast as they want me to. I am frustrated

[worm2872 635]

Actually' date=' I have MFP and a therapist. I thank you for the reminders. I utilize my therapist for other reasons, but I guess she can also help me process this as well. Are you on MFP??? I am swilkins12 on there, let's be friends...[/quote']

Yes, talk to your therapist! I hear you and this frightens me too. Lebim was blunt but she is right. We are here to support you and help you but only you are there at night. Just like me. I have to fight this hurdle as well. Yes!! We can do it! I know I'm going to need therapy as well and a new coping mechanism.

I'm on MFP as well and would love to be your friend. I'm worm2872.

[swilkins 34]

worm2872 thanks, I do put a lot of effort into to my new life style, but its tougher for some than others. Ultimately, I do have to make better decisions. Thank for putting it into a better perspective. I will link with you on MFP.

Shorty, it can be frustrating but keep signing on here everyday and read others testimonies and give it your best. Good Luck!

[hpineda1988 6]

I had my surgery 8/12' date=' I'm down 52lbs. I have done great so far with my weight loss however, I am beginning to pick up old habits. I drink soda everyday, started eating Cookies, and my solution after a stressful day of work is to have a cocktail. I'm pretty much a loner, so its easy to come home and find comfort in these things.

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dont buy the these things ur taken in un wanted calories try carrying some meat and cheese with u and get some poweraide zero they have alot of flavors its not as good as soda but it works. i am a avid soda drinker but i havent had ne in a long time. i still get cravings for all kinds of sweets;( but then i realize im only cheating my self if i give in to the temtations whiche are everywhere!

[hpineda1988 6]

I had my surgery 8/11 and I lost the weight but not as fast as they want me to. I am frustrated

u will get to where u want to be!!! if u ever want to talk about food plans or exercises im here;) i need helpful insights i have a pretty healthy older sister who works out and trys new things all the time and has sucesses im just starting out so im not sure how much ill loose, but im hoping ill reach my goal by my surg anne. 11/29/12

[Lebim 381]

Wow' date=' so blunt...[/quote']

Sugar coating this wont do you any good.

- Kaylee Ann ~ Surgerversary 6/11/2012

[cnocon 36]

Sugar coating this wont do you any good.

- Kaylee Ann ~ Surgerversary 6/11/2012

Sugar coating this wont do you any good.

- Kaylee Ann ~ Surgerversary 6/11/2012

Sugar coating this wont do you any good.

- Kaylee Ann ~ Surgerversary 6/11/2012

Sugar coating this wont do you any good.

- Kaylee Ann ~ Surgerversary 6/11/2012

I understand the need for directness but its not at all okay to tell any one of us that we don't deserve something. While I'm sure you meant well, there are ways to be both truthful and supportive.

That kind of "Tough sh*t" thinking is definitely helpful to some people (myself included) but it can actually be harmful and counterproductive for a lot of people, like a few members of my WLS support group.

Swilkins, you can do this, and there are many strategies that will help you find success. I'm cheering for you to find the one that works best for you. It will be hard. But believe in yourself and love yourself.

[cnocon 36]

Oops looks like I quadruple quoted

[swilkins 34]

Thanks Jane C and hpineda, I truly appreciate your words of encouragement. As for the other young lady, please don't get it twisted. Im doing extremely well with my weight lost. I would appreciate it if you would not continue to comment on my thread. I utilize this site to work on behaviors I struggle with, BUT I feel get and look even better.

[swilkins 34]

*feel great