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My grandma, to whom I owe my life, is dying. She has lung cancer and pneumonia. It's a matter of days. Before I would stress eat or stop eating. I don't know what to do with myself. I cry and cry, it's so hard to eat or drink and I just have all this time to be upset. What substitute can I use for my typical stress response to food?

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Prayers are with you and your family in your family time of need. I will keep your family in my prayers. Honestly you can write down your feels thoughts memories ect... In a journal, talking to support people , walking and thinking, crying praying, make sure you take care of yourself eating drinking even thought you might not want to but you need to. Picking up new hobbies knitting crosswords puzzle books. Exercising and releasing stress that way . I don't know if this is helpful but that's all I can come up with at this moment. If you need someone to talk to inbox me I'm here. Remember you need to take care of yourself . Take care and keep us posted

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Lisa,

Sorry to hear about your grandma. Have you tried exercise? It will get your heart pumping and will allow you to channel your energy. My stress relief is playing soccer. Maybe check into a kick boxing class or some other class that interests you. When you start feeling the urge to stress eat try to imagine the new you. People say Yoga is a stress reliever, but I recently read a book that put it best to me - If God meant for our legs to be over our necks he would have made us that way. Find a hobby that you can do when you have that urge to eat. Hang in there and remember we are always here for you!

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I agree with music and I'm also very sorry about your grandma

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I'm less than 2 weeks post op so not hard exercise yet. I'm also in my last week of classes and I'm so behind. I just can't focus on anything.

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Lisa, I'm so sorry. Take it day by day. I know its hard to focus right now but try to focus on your health and mental well being. Your grandmother would want it that way. Knitting or crocheting is a great way to focus. Walking does help a good deal as well. Prayers and hugs!

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I'm less than 2 weeks post op so not hard exercise yet. I'm also in my last week of classes and I'm so behind. I just can't focus on anything.

Oh Lisa I'm sorry - shouldn't you have been excused for a month or so?

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Wow... You are a champion. I hope you tell yourself that each day.

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My grandma' date=' to whom I owe my life, is dying. She has lung cancer and pneumonia. It's a matter of days. Before I would stress eat or stop eating. I don't know what to do with myself. I cry and cry, it's so hard to eat or drink and I just have all this time to be upset. What substitute can I use for my typical stress response to food?[/quote']

Sorry to hear about you grandmother. Try exercising... Go to the gym @ take it out on the treadmill or elliptical machine.

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Exercise exercise exercise. When I'm crying and infuriated i just start running down my road. It gets all the misery out

- Kaylee Ann ~ Surgerversary 6/11/2012

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I am less than 2 weeks post op, and I've had incisions open and still have a ton of pain. I'm only cleared for easy walking. I've walked around the block so many times lately, it's crazy.

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It is ok to cry as much as you need ! nothing you do to full your time will make it any better in the beginning. This Christmas will be our first with out my dear grandmother she passed last year on Christmas eve. Each tear just shows how much you love her. I think a memories journal is a great idea the lessons she shared with you the funny things she has done or said things to share with others or start making a photo album or viedo slide of fun memmories. prayers for you and your gram.

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