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My husband and my doctor right now are the only ones who know that I am planning RNY surgery in April 2013. My husband had it 6 yrs ago and regrets telling so many people he did it. Is is even feasible to think I could do this without telling anyone? Not even my parents?? Anyone do it and not tell anyone??

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I'm hoping to do the same--not tell anyone except for a select few of supportive people... Good luck to you :)

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Yes... it can be done. I only told my sister, my 2 BFF's and 3 people in work with one being my boss. Your business is YOUR business.. you don't have to tell anyone!! In my opinion... the less people you tell the better off you are. When people say "wow you lost weight you look good", I say thank you :) if they ask how am I doing it I say diet and exercise.

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I told my BF hubby and only once the surgery was scheduled my mom. No one else in my family knows. I did not even tell my boss. It can be done. :-).

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My husband and my mom are the only ones that know i had it done. I had my gallbladder removed at the same time. so when people ask about my weight loss i just tell them i had my gallbladder removed and now there is food i cant eat plus i gave up sugar cause of family history of diabetes.

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My husband and my doctor right now are the only ones who know that I am planning RNY surgery in April 2013. My husband had it 6 yrs ago and regrets telling so many people he did it. Is is even feasible to think I could do this without telling anyone? Not even my parents?? Anyone do it and not tell anyone??

I don't feel the need to tell anyone.... Except u all lol. Only because people r so judgmental and I don't have time for that mess. Also because I no they will start telling me all the reasons as to y I shouldn't do it. Like someone said, once u start losing the weight and they ask how, I will say I started watching what I was eating and exercise, because that would be the truth.

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I don't feel the need to tell anyone.... Except u all lol. Only because people r so judgmental and I don't have time for that mess. Also because I no they will start telling me all the reasons as to y I shouldn't do it. Like someone said' date=' once u start losing the weight and they ask how, I will say I started watching what I was eating and exercise, because that would be the truth.[/quote']

I did not feel the need to broadcast it! I have not for any other medical procedure so it would be unlike me. It a change and I make lots of them and in this area I have not have had as much success as I would like. So, till I have that and know that i can be successful I will be working with this support. The support of people who really get the challenges of not having seccess at other weightloss and saying this is for me!

Dawn<br />Sent from my SPH-L710 using RNYTalk

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Thanks everyone! I am down 6 lbs in just two weeks as I have begun following a 1200 cal plan and am religiously walking 30 min each day on the treadmill. I guess the surgery will just be a continuation of my weight loss!! Keeping my lips zipped!

RNY Planned 4/2013. starting wt 248. BMI 43.9. Sent from my iPhone using RNYTalk

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