jennifer b 15 Posted November 23, 2012 So When I went on vacation I over heard my husband talking to his sister about me having gastric bypass here I thought he supported my decision well guess I was wrong he doesn't think it's a good ideal which I understand why because his sister had lots of trouble after she had it done and later passed away but she had more trouble then I have either way I am so glad I found this support room and I have my son Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vicki Loichinger 444 Posted November 23, 2012 Jenn He is scared of losing you. It is very normal. I am sure he wants to be supportive but he is scared. Don't let it offend you or derail you. Just know that he loves you. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280 Posted November 25, 2012 Men are like that. If his sister die of course he doesn't want you to die just imagine. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Debbiebydesign 93 Posted January 15, 2013 My husband is scared, too. He supports me, but he's been avoidant because of fear. I wanted him to go to support group with me, but I think he just couldn't deal yet. He did mention my RNY to a coworker and the coworker told him that his wife also had weight loss surgery by my doctor and that the doctor was great and came highly recommended. When he told me this, I could tell it was something that gave him some relief. I think the support groups would do our spouses all some good. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pookybear 284 Posted January 17, 2013 My boyfriend is the same way. He's very supportive, but it's a touchy subject for him. He's worried about all the things that could happen. It's good that they worry, it shows that they love you Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LaurasJourney 23 Posted February 2, 2013 My husband left the entire decision up to me. He has been so supportive throughout this whole process. I am so blessed to be his wife. A good support system is KEY! Our relationship has only gotten better since the surgery (because I'm happier with me). Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dorian44 2 Posted February 8, 2013 My husband, although he is alittle nervous, supports me fully! He has seen my struggles with back pain and would rather have me have the surgery than end up in a wheelchair by 45 years old. My kids are also very supportive and excited for me. My girls talk about what fun shopping will be when I lose the weight! I honestly don't know if I could do it without the support of my family! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
agirlofaith 71 Posted February 8, 2013 My husband is super supportive, many of his coworkers and their wives have had RNY or sleeve. He is how ever nonchalant about the what it's and problems that can happen. I wish he would read up on it more just so if I have any trouble he can see the symptoms and know what's going in with me! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites