Im Not Telling!

[jessica143 23]

I only told my best friend.. my siblings would ridicule me even though some of them also need it..and all 7 of them are drug. And alchohol dependant.. my mother died of at age 50 of obesity and now I'm gonna be 42 on november 27th with 3 children and a 2.5 yr old grandson I want to live the rest of my life as healthy and fulfilling as possible. Unfortanely I only told my 16 yr old daughter that still lives home and not my other children don't want to risk them accidently slipping and telling my x husband or one of my siblings...can't pick family but you can limit the negative impact they have on you.. so sad sometimes

[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

I only told my best friend.. my siblings would ridicule me even though some of them also need it..and all 7 of them are drug. And alchohol dependant.. my mother died of at age 50 of obesity and now I'm gonna be 42 on november 27th with 3 children and a 2.5 yr old grandson I want to live the rest of my life as healthy and fulfilling as possible. Unfortanely I only told my 16 yr old daughter that still lives home and not my other children don't want to risk them accidently slipping and telling my x husband or one of my siblings...can't pick family but you can limit the negative impact they have on you.. so sad sometimes

That sucks!

[jessica143 23]

That sucks!

It's okay grew up so dysfunctional this is normal to me...I have a lot of.wonderful friends... Unfortunately because of my up bringing and a bad marriage I have some trust issues.. So I tend to keep my personal matters to myself in fear of being judged.. But I have a great best friend..

[mizzlaw 130]

Connie, you need to do what is best for you! My husband was soooo unsupportative, he did not even visit me in hospital, not even a damn phone call, im still pissed about it..... My surgery was 10/3/12.... Anyway, wishing you all the best!!!

[litlsisred 20]

I too am struggling with when to tell my mom and sister.... when I firstly started thinking about surgery I told them and they said 101 reasons for me not to. That was 3 months ago. My surgery is Tuesday and don't know when I'm going to tell them.

[jessica143 23]

I too am struggling with when to tell my mom and sister.... when I firstly started thinking about surgery I told them and they said 101 reasons for me not to. That was 3 months ago. My surgery is Tuesday and don't know when I'm going to tell them.

If you think they will be a discouragement to you..then maybe you shouldn't tell them..we are on a very difficult life changing journey that out of lack of knoweledge some just assume we are taking an easy way out.. and can get very judgemental for various reason maybe out of concern or even out of jealousy...in either case ..my surgery date is Wednesday and I know I will need to completely focus on posiive things which is why I chose only to tell my best friend and one of my children cause she still lives homes..I'm 42 yrs old and my whole life went to putting others first even to the point of my safety...NOW ITS MY TURN!!! And everyone else who is going through the same thing.. DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU..

[pointer 92]

My mom, sisters, and hubby know about my surgery but only my husband knows it Wednesday. I'll send my mom and sisters a text on Wednesday morning to advise..... bc their not to keen on it and I don't feel like neg vibes before my new beginning.

[jessica143 23]

My mom' date=' sisters, and hubby know about my surgery but only my husband knows it Wednesday. I'll send my mom and sisters a text on Wednesday morning to advise..... bc their not to keen on it and I don't feel like neg vibes before my new beginning.[/quote']

When and where is your surgery mine is Wednesday also..at wareham surgical in mass.. best wishes for a speedy recovery

[litlsisred 20]

Their reason is more because they have horror story experiences with people they know... and they think worst case scenario .... current plan is to tell them on Monday.

[litlsisred 20]

Husband's family is super supportive and encouraging. Hubby has initial appointment to get the sleeve the day I have surgery...

[jessica143 23]

That's great hope the best for both you and hubby..it will be super for the both of you to have each other to go on this wonderful journey together...great to be able to lean on each other when support is needed and share the joys together.. almost like getting married again..

[pointer 92]

When and where is your surgery mine is Wednesday also..at wareham surgical in mass.. best wishes for a speedy recovery

My is at highland hospital in Rochester, ny.... best wishes for u as well and definitely a speedy recovery

[jessica143 23]

I'll be thinking about you.

[worm2872 635]

thanks mamio' date=' it is weird and so nice to know somebody understands.

Hugs to you and your crew today,[/quote']

Vicki, oh I understand. I love my mom but wow the world revolves around her. She loves me and yes I was glad to have her here yesterday with me before my second surgery she still didn't understand what I "did". I lost my dad last year. He got me.

[litlsisred 20]

Well I told my family.... uggh..... sis went all flipping medical on me.... ugh