Tammy1975 36 Posted November 8, 2012 People who know you had surgery and its seems out of disrespect eat big Mac in front of me, and then laugh about and say.it sucks to be me...ok for one you eating it doesn't bother me its the dang smell. I just had my.surgery last week and some foods make me sick just.from the smell. Has any one else.gone through this... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
slowtogo 301 Posted November 8, 2012 Not quite the lack of sympathy...as you have dealt with. Walk away. Don't eat with them again. They are no support to you... 2 babygirl901 and Cheryl Barfoot reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgie 8 Posted November 8, 2012 Timtammy, I have the same issue with the smell of certain things. Mines comes and goes. Hang in there!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280 Posted November 8, 2012 Ignore ppl like that Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LosingItForMe2011 320 Posted November 9, 2012 Well depending on WHO it is you can always walk away. If it's your immediate family that you live with well.....that's harder. Let me just say that when I started this journey I made it a point to keep reminding myself that this is MY journey and no one elses. Not my husband's, son's, co-workers' or neighbors. That I was going to have to live with my decision and other peoples food choices. That's right...their food choices because if they are eating around me, I can't make them stop eating the foods they love or help with their food issues. With that said, it was fortunate that the surgery helped me barely want to eat let alone crave foods that weren't good for me. I was so thankful for that! Later on, as I could eat more and moved through the food stages, it got to me sometimes what people around me were eating and I couldn't or was too afraid to because I felt it had too much sugar or fat in it. There were times I got mad...not at the person eating but, at the lack of being able to eat myself because the choices available were all bad or I was sick of salads! ON a recent trip to Disney, being 3 months out from surgery...it was tough trying to find foods that worked and were healthy. I managed and when I started getting aggrevated with hubby's choices I just reminded myself again that I chose this for myself and I can do this for me and for the reasons I had the surgery. It helped me alot. So while he ate his Burger King at the airport, I walked away to find something healthier for me. It's not easy, and at times you'll have to walk away too...but you can do it YOU'RE WORTH IT! 6 ladyspl, worm2872, Uniqueladybug and 3 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
slowtogo 301 Posted November 9, 2012 Losing, You make a good point. However, while we certainly do this only for ourselves, others often helped to put us here. It's not unreasonable to expect those who love us to support us. Healthy eating is one way. Sharing meals is another. Being considerate is a third. I have a good friend that is behind me all the way. Hubby not so much. So...I have less Tolerence AND belief that he really cares about me and my health. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
babygirl901 173 Posted November 9, 2012 I'm odd. The smell of food didn't bother me..............it was FEBREZE. LOL 1 ladyspl reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kristy3k 1,133 Posted November 9, 2012 Timtammy ... All I can say is wow!!! The gall of someone saying it sucks to be you is just crazy. Keep your head up and ignore the jerk... Hope you aren't related.. And keep moving on to a healthier you!! 1 babygirl901 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lebim 381 Posted November 9, 2012 People who know you had surgery and its seems out of disrespect eat big Mac in front of me' date=' and then laugh about and say.it sucks to be me...ok for one you eating it doesn't bother me its the dang smell. I just had my.surgery last week and some foods make me sick just.from the smell. Has any one else.gone through this...[/quote'] Yeah.... sucks to be you, you healthy bastard. *noms on grease ball* - Kaylee Ann ~ Surgiversary: 6/11/12 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
babygirl901 173 Posted November 9, 2012 They won't think it sucks when you look better than them. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tammy1975 36 Posted November 9, 2012 Thank you everyone. I know I can be strong, it just super hard because I use to use food as a comfort. ...but I will make.it through this and look.great.in the end..already getting compliments. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites