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I opted only to let my wife know. I have learned from the past too many family members are too negative about the surgery

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Only let a few close friends know that I was having WLS the rest found out after. It took a long time to get to the point of surgery to listen to skinny people tell me I'm taking the easy way out. So far I love the Chang in me and so does most everyone that knows me.

Good luck

Surgery Anniversary 7/30/12

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I pretty much told my family and work mates. My family has been completly supportive and my work mates have been suprisingly supportive in a different way.

They have asked questions, smart questions, and been completly non judgemental, plus when I went back after 4 weeks they had got together, passed the hat, and gave me a 200$ gift card for a nice mens store to go Celebrate when I get to my goal. People on he edge of my life, you know the ones you see every few months or neighbors you just wave to , I will tell if and when they ask but I dont actively bring up the subject.

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I pretty much told my family and work mates. My family has been completly supportive and my work mates have been suprisingly supportive in a different way.

They have asked questions' date=' smart questions, and been completly non judgemental, plus when I went back after 4 weeks they had got together, passed the hat, and gave me a 200 gift card for a nice mens store to go Celebrate when I get to my goal. People on he edge of my life, you know the ones you see every few months or neighbors you just wave to , I will tell if and when they ask but I dont actively bring up the subject.[/quote']

The fun part will come after you have drop a lot of weight and you run across friends that don't know you have had WLS and ask what happen to you.

Surgery Anniversary 7/30/12

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My co- workers and company have been behind me and have supported me on this Journy to better health. We have had 2 other people go though WLS so the company know that it works for both them selfs and the worker that is now not losing time from work and is much healthier.

Some of my co workers now call me a frail old man after losing 68 lbs. Ok I can live with that.

Surgery Anniversary 7/30/12

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I am super excited. doc's office called Tuesday and my surgery date is 12/13

WHOOOOEEEE!!

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My friends, sister, mom/dad, and colleagues know. Sometimes family can be so judgmental. So, not ever planning on telling them. Esp. if I have issues, etc. Of course they'll say I should not have had the surgery! At this point in my life, I can and will only have dealings with positive people.

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I told my friends in my building, my mom/dad, one uncle. I was originally going for the sleeve, but found out a couple weeks ago my insurance won't pay for it. I told may sister and brother that I was having the sleeve, when I thought I was, I will fess up after surgery because my sister does not want me to have the bypass. But it's my decision, and I am not changing my mind.

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I only told my husband, ,sister and best friend. People can be so judgemental, and try to talk you out of it. I figured it was no ones bussiness but my own.

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I am super excited. doc's office called Tuesday and my surgery date is 12/13

WHOOOOEEEE!!

Am down to three days before the gastric bypass. Have gone thru more medical tests in the last five weeks than in my entire life it seems. My wife is nervous but I am not and sooo ready for surgery

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I'm new here too, don't have a date yet but I was wondering what y'all thought of me not telling my 3 grown boys that have chosen not to have anything to do with me that I'm trying to have this surgery ...

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If I were in that situation, I wouldn't tell them . For me, I felt it best to only tell people who I knew we're gonna be supportive of me only!!! It made me feel better going into surgery that way and I am so glad I did

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If I were in that situation' date=' I wouldn't tell them . For me, I felt it best to only tell people who I knew we're gonna be supportive of me only!!! It made me feel better going into surgery that way and I am so glad I did

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I probly won't tell them , I feel like if they wanted to be in my life then they would... I've only told a few friends and of course my very supportive hubby... And my awesome lil sister!!! Thank you so much for giving me an opinion of someone that doesn't know me!!! I was beginning to feel bad for not telling them,,, this is me time !!! :)

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I probly won't tell them ' date=' I feel like if they wanted to be in my life then they would... I've only told a few friends and of course my very supportive hubby... And my awesome lil sister!!! Thank you so much for giving me an opinion of someone that doesn't know me!!! I was beginning to feel bad for not telling them,,, this is me time !!! <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' />[/quote']

Well good luck with everything!!! I know that having positive people around prior to surgery is a wonderful feeling....

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