The Break Up

[TryingtobeSuperwoman 17]

Sadly, I lost a friend today. She didn't die, but our friendship did. I received a text from her a little while ago informing me that our friendship brought her too much sadness.

Now I will attest to the fact that I have been difficult to plan outings with in recent months. I have tried hard to be a good friend. This is the second friend to drop me post RNY. It's only been four months. Am I going to lose more? Have you guys experienced this? Wow, what a crappy day.

[foxy747 11]

Wow thats just awful and with due respect there not genuine friends.

With this weight loss and the new life your gonna get you will find new friends. Good luck with the new life

[Vicki Loichinger 444]

Wow, Hate to hear this. I am hoping to make friends not lose any. Most of my "friends" are family. I think they are stuck with me.

But I do think my poor health over the years has caused me to stay away from people and events and you do lose contact with a lot of people. I want that to change,

I want to go to the things I am invited to (provided I want to, don't want to feel I HAVE to) I want to make new friends.

I am hoping the same for you,

I wish you the best and hope your life is filled with joy.

[slowtogo 301]

Sadly, I have lost a few. And those did a pretty good job of ripping my heart out as well. But-let's face it. We drastically change, and I do mean drastically. Friends are often based on similar interests, regardless what they might've been. We change. It's not surprising that some relationships do as well.

[kristy3k 1,133]

I have lost a few. I am more active now and I think they liked having the fat grumpy friend around that was always ready to bitch and complain with and Im just not that way anymore. But am happier now then with all that weight...which includes my not so true friends.

[jennamommy 80]

If people are not going to love you for who you are and what you are going through then maybe it's time for them to move on. You deserve to be loved by friends unconditionally in your life no matter the circumstances. There are times and seasons for friends. But the good ones will live you forever and that's who you need to surround your self with. I say there loss. I'm sorry you have so much hurt. Focus and you and being the best you can. That's what matters most right now.

[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

I haven't lost! I have my limited friends & they are thin. Very supported but I'm the only housewife so we don't have that big bond to have cafe or go out.

I'm sorry you lost your friend. Everything in life isn't eating out & having drinks. A friend should be there in good times & bad times.

[sexycanadian 3]

I have lost my boyfriend before surgery and also sadly a few family members that didn't support my surgery . I took it very bad at first BUT I do have another circle of friends that are great supporters and have help me get true this. All I could say is don't worry about the friends that you lost if they where real friends they would have been there for you. If they don't support you that mean that they don't deserve your friendship.

[Jerrie Ann 57]

I lost a friend. At least she used to be....when I was no longer her fat friend that made her feel thin, she began to show her true colors....I decided that I didn't need people in my life who couldn't support me on the basis that I was their token fat friend! My true friends have always supported me through "thick" & "thin"!!

my superpower is......

[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

I have lost my boyfriend before surgery and also sadly a few family members that didn't support my surgery . I took it very bad at first BUT I do have another circle of friends that are great supporters and have help me get true this. All I could say is don't worry about the friends that you lost if they where real friends they would have been there for you. If they don't support you that mean that they don't deserve your friendship.

Agree

[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

I lost a friend. At least she used to be....when I was no longer her fat friend that made her feel thin' date=' she began to show her true colors....I decided that I didn't need people in my life who couldn't support me on the basis that I was their token fat friend! My true friends have always supported me through "thick" & "thin"!!

my superpower is......[/quote']

Was your ex friend thin?

[Jerrie Ann 57]

Was your ex friend thin?

Yes. Apparently, I became some kind of threat after surgery!

my superpower is......

[TryingtobeSuperwoman 17]

Thanks to each of you ... I am incredibly appreciative of the ability to vent as well as educate myself in this space. I'm even more appreciative of your support.

[michelecaples 224]

Sadly' date=' I lost a friend today. She didn't die, but our friendship did. I received a text from her a little while ago informing me that our friendship brought her too much sadness.

Now I will attest to the fact that I have been difficult to plan outings with in recent months. I have tried hard to be a good friend. This is the second friend to drop me post RNY. It's only been four months. Am I going to lose more? Have you guys experienced this? Wow, what a crappy day.[/quote']

Your true friends will begin to shine through and the others are most likely jealous or cant get with the non food outings. Many overweight friends may feel judged like you dont like being big, so if they are big you mudt not like them. The new you will have true friends .

[PaulB 346]

I can live wit not being the fat friend. And to hell with the people that want to keep you that way. What a bunch of shallow minded people that inhabit this world. Could we all go back to caring about one another. Uninformed people make me sad

Surgery Anniversary 7/30/12