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Ok so this is totally unrelated to rny but I need some advice....

I have this male friend, we have been good friends for about 2 years, and even attempted to go out but we never clicked that way. He is a great guy and often ladies take his kindness for weakness. I ended up introducing my single friend to him and they hit it off, after 4 months she ended it really bad and blew him off. Well recently we hung out and I have developed some feelings towards him and we eventually had sex. It was amazing. Lol but now I feel like a horrible friend cuz that's her ex but he was my friend first... I don't know what to think or do.....

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go with your gut. sounds like you have with this guy what relationships should be based on, FRIENDSHIP, so maybe it was meant to be all along. Hopefully your friend won't decide she wants him back and cause you all sorts of hurt. But be honest with her and tell her that he has always been a good friend to you and now things seem to be more.

Anyway I am happy for you. and sure hope it works out and you get to keep a great guy and a good friend.

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Forget the other girl she let him go & now he has someone that won't hurt his feelings.

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You're happiness is your own doing. If he makes you happy I see no reason why you can't date him especially since you knew him first and SHE dumped him.

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Thanks guys for your input. I am just so darn confused. I don't wanna hurt her but I wanna be happy at the same time. N he sure does make me happy.

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Ok, I'm a hopeless romantic. But, she dumped him. You knew him first. He's fair game. My husband was my best friend before we began dating and he is still my best friend. If he is the one for you, you need to go for it. If your interest in him is genuine and you don't you will regret it.

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Totally agree with the above most. Especially if she did him wrong an dumped him, if she has a problem with it then she ain't a good friend.

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Well not to mention that if you do truly care for him and don't go after him because of her. It will eventually ruin your friendship anyway because you may begin to resent her for it.

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I feel that everything happens for a reason. At this point in time in your life things are starting to fall into place for you. You are happy with yourself your looking good feeling good now you have a chance for a good relationship. I would shit down and let her know upfront but after that go on with you life enjoy being happy with this man. As long as your heart is clear and you know you didn't set out to hurt any it ok. She my not be your friend any more but at least you told her and she didn't find out a different way. Good Luck

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