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My surgery is Friday, and I have not told my children. They are six and three. I'm not sure what to say exactly to my son who is six is a worry wart. I do not want him to be overly concerned, but I think I need to mention something. What should I say?!?!

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Just tell them the truth and let them know you'll need their help afterwards. Go with the questions they have after that. Let them know you're doing this so that your knees, back, blood pressure (whatever reasons you have) will get better and you can do more with them when you're all healed up. Let them know they helping around the house while you're healing would be such a big help and help them decide the right chores they can do. It helps them feel part of the process :) Kids always like to help mommy :)

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I just told my kids I was going into the hospital to get healthy and I wouldn't be away long (kids are 7 and 2). Of course my 2 year old didn't care lol but my 6 year old only wanted to know if I was coming back with another baby :). I just let my 6 year old know that when I came back I wouldn't be able to do much for a week or so so I would need his help sometime. He was happy to help and everything went well!

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I told my 5 year old that was goig to the hospital so i could one day be skinny like her lol and she thinks its great she just said she hopes when i get skinny i don't go out ll the time lol

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coming back with another baby...lol

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I have a 19, 10, 8, 6,& 4 year old. I was very honest with them and try to include them in everything. I told them that the surgery would help to lose weight so that I can be healthy and be around for a long time ( hopefully ) And I would be able to do more activities. They are my biggest support and encourages well and my hubby to. They always want to look at my scars. My 4 year old daughter said. Oh my mommy your scars are getting all better:-) then she said is that what's making you get smaller. Oh how I love my children. So my advice to you is be open and honest with them. I share in the journey with them.

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I know this may sound morbid but I did tell me son and husband, but also a wrote them each letters in case some thing happened. I took the letters with me and told the Dr they were not to be give UN less,I pass away. I did have complications and was there for 6 days with collapsed lung. But please tell your kids just not in detail.. Plus I'm sure they will need to help out around the house. Maybe earn some extra money..

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Be honest with the kids...let them know why you are doing it and DO NOT show them any kind of worry or fear. If you act like everything will be all good they will feel like its all good! My 2 older kids understood more so I just made jokes about how I was going to out run my 15 y/o son and steal my 13 y/o daughter's jeans! Lol! I told my 6 y/o son that Dr Kini (who he has met) was going to fix my tummy so that I can run and play with him at the park. And I gave them all the speech about helping out around the house...they were awesome!

Good luck Hun!

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I know this may sound morbid but I did tell me son and husband' date=' but also a wrote them each letters in case some thing happened. I took the letters with me and told the Dr they were not to be give UN less,I pass away. I did have complications and was there for 6 days with collapsed lung. But please tell your kids just not in detail.. Plus I'm sure they will need to help out around the house. Maybe earn some extra money..[/quote']

I did the same, it took me 3 attempts, I sobbed like a 3 year old who just lost his all day sucker.

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I briefly introduced the idea to Alex and Laura tonight. I told him that I was going to the dr, but that I'm not sick. I feel good, but I need help to lose weight. He was very receptive and asked if we should go back to the gym. I let it go for tonight, but I plan to talk more as the week goes on...surgery is Friday.

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I just told my kids I was going into the hospital to get healthy and I wouldn't be away long (kids are 7 and 2). Of course my 2 year old didn't care lol but my 6 year old only wanted to know if I was coming back with another baby :). I just let my 6 year old know that when I came back I wouldn't be able to do much for a week or so so I would need his help sometime. He was happy to help and everything went well!

I was laughing coming back with another baby.

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I told my 5 year old that was goig to the hospital so i could one day be skinny like her lol and she thinks its great she just said she hopes when i get skinny i don't go out ll the time lol

Lolz I love these kids!

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I told my husband & daughter who were not supported at all. Now they love the new me lolz

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