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Well honestly I'm not sure how I feel right now. My surgery was scheduled for next Thursday. I've been jumping through their hoops, lost over the 40% they wanted me to. Today I have my pre op appointment. They drew labs, prescribed all the thing I'm going to need to take afterwards, even talked to the anestesalogist. Just for the to tell me that the psych doesn't think I'm ready. I feel like I failed. I feel like I'm letting my husband and son down. I feel like this was my last chance.

I just hope my work doesn't decide to be douches about the time I need off.

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Have they given you a new surgery date? Have you talked to the pshchologist for an explanation of his/her concerns? Pshcy evals are usually pretty dynamic and can change pretty quickly following a meeting or two. I wouldn't panic. Just get the details and let us know what they say. Bumps in the road won't stop you from getting to your destination!!

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No new date, no explanation. The psych they want me to see is on vacation until the end of September.

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Well honestly I'm not sure how I feel right now. My surgery was scheduled for next Thursday. I've been jumping through their hoops' date=' lost over the 40% they wanted me to. Today I have my pre op appointment. They drew labs, prescribed all the thing I'm going to need to take afterwards, even talked to the anestesalogist. Just for the to tell me that the psych doesn't think I'm ready. I feel like I failed. I feel like I'm letting my husband and son down. I feel like this was my last chance.

I just hope my work doesn't decide to be douches about the time I need off.[/quote']

My psych decide the same thing and put my surgery on hold (ended up being almost a year!) BUT in that time I was able to make great strides with my mental stability and that preceded the major life changes I was able to make which have been incredibly helpful in the aftermath of surgery, I hope all the best do you and things work out the best for your situation :)

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Keep the faith! I too am waiting! And it sucks!

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We're are you currently? Keep the faith and in the long run it will be well worth it

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We're are you currently? Keep the faith and in the long run it will be well worth it

Whatdo you mean where am I?

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