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Well, you have lots to think about now. It's up to you how and when after you look into whatever can help you and your children to get out and grow after this. You will be fine. Don't do what I did and hang in for 31 years until he left. Get your life started as soon as you can.

Much strength being sent to you!

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Well' date=' you have lots to think about now. It's up to you how and when after you look into whatever can help you and your children to get out and grow after this. You will be fine. Don't do what I did and hang in for 31 years until he left. Get your life started as soon as you can.

Much strength being sent to you![/quote']

Thanks I'm praying god will put his hands over him to change but I don't think it will work. So I do feel leaving is my best option. I don't see my self at age40 with this man. I feel more unhappy then happy. If I feel this way imagine my kids.

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You hit the jack pot. I grown comfort in my marriage. I sometimes feel like a nobody. I simply have 3 kids & I'm there mom. I don't work outside the home. I get a disability checks for my kids and that's how I can buy food clothes diapers. I use there money because that's all I have. I sit home wait till they come out of school. During the day cook & clean sometimes nap lots of time computer. I have no buddies. I lost the best relationship I had my mom. Now I can't repair it. I feel I wasted my life just having babies & being home.

I'm so sorry Mami. It will get better eventually.

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Social security for me is when you worked & made enough credit so if you get disable that's what you paid for social security.

Social security disability is for most people that never worked or kids that have special need like mine.

I want to leave the marriage. I don't have another man on the side or in this group. I want to be alone. I want to be in a regular nice building good area & that it doesn't affect my kids education. I want them safe. I don't want arguing screaming cursing them hearing there dad call me a bitch & hole. Call them retards. Say they are animals. And other names. They ate growing up & my 15 year old knows it all but I have a chance to make it right as soon as my bills are paid. I had enough. Kiddos are growing & it's getting worst. He cures everything with "I'm sorry" and I'm suppose to accept it & have sex and act like everything is fine.

If he is verbally abusing you and your kids you need to get Them out. You can get help at a womens shelter and they have advisers there that can help you get on your feet. I know your money Situation isn't ideal but every day your kids are near the hostile environment there is damage being done.

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If he is verbally abusing you and your kids you need to get Them out. You can get help at a womens shelter and they have advisers there that can help you get on your feet. I know your money Situation isn't ideal but every day your kids are near the hostile environment there is damage being done.

The only one affected right now is my 15 year old but she is in counseling. My small kids are special needs & have no idea what's going on & wants to be with there father no matter what.

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I do hope your county has Women's Services in the Executive offices. They can be a big help. Do look into it even if you aren't doing anything now. Just to have the info for when needed.

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Mami' date=' I have two special needs kids...I know how tough it can be. If I can be any help, please let me know.[/quote']

Thankyou!

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