Pre Op Blues

[nikkiba75 276]

I'm thinking of leaving my bd (baby daddy) I've been thinking about it for a while. We are going in different directions, he's an alcoholic and a drug addict which I used to be as well. But when I got pregnant I stopped getting high and he hasn't. He says I Want to leave him because I'm having surgery but the truth is I just want to be free of the hassle that is him. Need some advice, help please

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[chunkypudding 22]

Does he lift you up or try to put you down? Do you want your child to think he is a good role model? Get a good support network! Find friends who want the best for you and get away from him if he can't stay sober long enough to actually journey through life with you move on without him.

[nikkiba75 276]

Thank you I think its time to move on

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[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

I'm sorry to hear this. I guess if it's not wiring out & he isn't willing to change it's time to move on. I'm in marriage counseling. It's helping out a lot. He was finally ready to admit he has been treating me badly.

[working4shoes 55]

Figure out your priorities. You Are making changes to have a healthy life for you and your family. Will he fit into this new healthy lifestyle? This road isn't easy And you won't need other outside stressors bringing you down. Only you can make this decision for you and your family. Good luck. Definately get a positive support network and do you!!

[JustJenn 542]

Yes, figure out your priorities.

Mentioning your reasons are because of surgery is probably out of fear and manipulation. Hang in there & be strong!

Best wishes!

[nikkiba75 276]

Thanks needed that

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