My Journey Begins

[rabrijumo 140]

My name is Rachael. I am a mother, a nurse, and a very fat person. I was given my first diet pill at age 10 by my mother... I couldn't take pills so I struggled to get the huge pill down. I don't know that I ever did or that it worked or if I even really needed it! I see pictures of my self and I am a bit chubby but not obese at all at that age. I remember being teased about being fat and large at an early age. I remember carving the word fat into my arm at around 12 years old. I remember hating my body and thinking my life would be perfect if I weren't fat. Years flow by I am in high school I am 5 7 my wt a HUGE 155. In retrospect that isn't that tall or fat but at the time I felt unattractive. I had a period at age 16 were I had a lot of dates no sex but boys asked me out and told me I was pretty....... I did have big boobs and a full soft figure. I think I undervalued myself in some respects but was a fun, gregarious person. I met the man I eventually married he seemed to think I was attractive. We moved in together 2 years later. I did my first "successful" diet at age 20 . It was a Liquid Protein diet run by a doctor. My dad paid for it and I achieved my ideal weight of 130 lbs. I bought a tiny bikini short skirts and tight jeans. I went to community college for 2 years then nursing school. By the time a graduated in 1983 I had regained the wt I lost plus 30 or 40 lbs. I married at age 22 wt 170 ish ....continued to gain year after year hitting 270 when I got pregnant for the first time. I lost wt during the pregnancy but regained during breast feeding. Rinse and repeat x 2 more kids over 7 years. At age 33 I was 300 plus lbs but active and healthy. Years flow by my life hits a snag or two my husband developed into an alcoholic and we have marriatal problems. We split for the first time when I was 38 wt 345 lbs 3 kids ages 12, 7, and 5.

Living as a single mom for a year was hard we got back together kind of to buy a nice house in VA and be a family. The difference was we kept separate rooms. I had become used to sleeping by myself reading if I wanted to and did not want to hear my husband snore or reek of alcohol.

Today I am thinking about why I decided to have the surgery. I have become increasingly UNABLE. I can not: walk up stairs, walk any distance comfortably, fly comfortably, ride a bike, get up from a sitting position with anything like ease, and take care of myself alone. I have a laundry list of things I want to be able to do a BUCKET list if you will.

Chase my grandson

walk up or down stairs without a rail

fly to Africa on a mission

ride a bike

take a hike

buy a small car and fit in it

ride a motorcycle

Meet someone and be attractive enough to attract them

I sometimes want to do a skit like Jeff Foxworthy (not that its very funny)

YOU MIGHT BE MORBIDLY OBESE IF

you can't wipe yourself without hurting your wrist

you can't climb a stair without a reinforced rail

get up out of a low couch without assistance

well you get the idea i have a million and they all make me want to cry

life as a fat person in America is not much fun .....the ridicule is one thing ......the discomfort of chairs that bind you is another...... and the comments people feel free to make is yet another.

Yes I am responsible for my situation I know that but it does not make me sub human or less valuable as a person. I know I have lost friends, one in particular that I relate to my weight and my inabilities. This makes me sad and mad.

I am a disappointment to my children though they love me they worry about me when they should not have to. They miss being able to do things with me or having to do things for me. They want a Mom they can count on and not have to worry about. I want them to have that as well. That's why I am doing this surgery to be ABLE.

[2ndTimesTheCharm 68]

Sounds like you put alot of thought into this decision and that you are doing it for the right reasons! I wish you lots of luck throughout the whole process and that you get to have your surgery done soon!

[jenneliza 257]

It does sound like you are ready for change for the right reasons. This is a great source for support. Welcome!

[berniec 166]

I wish you the best on this new journey. All of us that are overweight have different issues. I'm glad you joined us on his forum. We support and help each other. Just know that you are not alone.

[kiwiladydee 402]

Hello - welcome to the group!

Please don't say your a disappointment to your kids - that just hurt my heart! You've made a few bad decisions regarding food and exercising. You sound like a wonderful mother - deciding to do the surgery shows that!

[americas_suiteheart 53]

Welcome ! Congrats on making your first steps toward a healthier lifestyle and healthier YOU ! Everyone here is amazingly nice and full of information !

[rabrijumo 140]

Thank you all for commenting. I am glad to be here for support through this process. It is wonderful to look at pics and see the successful outcomes. Not that it didn't come without struggle but that it seems attainable and worth it.

[Krystyneh 55]

Welcome and congrats with taking the first steps on your journey. I wish you all the best on your journey. YOU CAN DO IT!!!