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[melonpie05 99]

Hi everyone been checking this app it for awhile and decided to share my story... I'm 21 years old I weigh 244 started my journey about 3 months ago this is the highest weight I have ever reach even when I was pregnant I didn't weigh this much I have been struggling with my weight all my life I was never skinny always the chubby one out of 3 sisters never slowed me down until recently tho I had my son when I was 18 I gained a 100lbs with him and didn't loose any and have slowly gained more and More over the last three years I have tried to loose and it's just been yo yo dieting never a lifestyle change so I decided to take the plunge and I'm so excited and have been waiting since I don't have Any of the health issues just the BMi I have to wait the 6 months and man is it dragging!! That's pretty much my story so far can't wait to be telling about my weight loss journey next. I do have a question tho how hard is it going to be for me to care for my son he's three and extremely active and his dad my fiancé works out of town and is only home one week a month just wondering if I should have family come stay with me for the first week or so or can I handle it in my own?

[bellepink77 44]

You will definitely need help for at least a week I'm 2 1/2 weeks out and I still can't bend over. There are people here that recover quickly I unfortunately am taking forever. I went to my 2nd post op appointment thursday and they think I'm doing great. My husband cooks cleans and takes care of the kids as well as works nights. I'm able to do some things as long as it doesn't require bending. I still have trouble standing up from a sitting or lying position. If I didn't have help I don't know what I would have done. Good luck chica!

[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

Welcome to the group like bellepink77 said everyone recovers different. I'm now 1 month. As soon as I came home the next day I was cooking. No cleaning yet. I'll start cleaning this week. I was slow,but not in pain. I have a 15 year old who helps me a lot. A 4 year old with learning needs. A 2 year old autism. My little one is the hardest he doesn't really talks, and bangs his head all over. I had to buy him a helmet. Well to make the story shorter. I only have my 15 year old help me around the house. My hubby didn't agree with my decision & still till this day doesn't agree. He doesn't help me clean or anything. Picking up a toy or sweeping sometimes,but that's about it. If you need help get help it's better help then no help. I have to be a tough women. My hubby isn't the helping type. I had 3 csections & I still clean-cook-laundry & got up every night to feed the new borns. I slept when they slept. I don't let him know I'm tired in pain or anything, He throws it in my face his mother had 14 kids so there for 3 kids should be nothing for me so I keep my pretty lips seal.

[melonpie05 99]

Thanks guys that's very helpful... Yeah my fiancé isn't very excited the surgery and I think I might just shedulw the surgery for the week he's off so that he can stay home with our son while I'm in the hospitial and mt aunt who is like my best friend go with me and stay Bc it's around 2 hours away from my home and she will prob be way more helpful then he would hate to say it but it's true lol I'm also a stay at home mom so I do all cooking cleaning etc etc but thanks for Ur feedback and it gives me a heads up )

[kiwiladydee 402]

Welcome to the group like bellepink77 said everyone recovers different. I'm now 1 month. As soon as I came home the next day I was cooking. No cleaning yet. I'll start cleaning this week. I was slow' date='but not in pain. I have a 15 year old who helps me a lot. A 4 year old with learning needs. A 2 year old autism. My little one is the hardest he doesn't really talks, and bangs his head all over. I had to buy him a helmet. Well to make the story shorter. I only have my 15 year old help me around the house. My hubby didn't agree with my decision & still till this day doesn't agree. He doesn't help me clean or anything. Picking up a toy or sweeping sometimes,but that's about it. If you need help get help it's better help then no help. I have to be a tough women. My hubby isn't the helping type. I had 3 csections & I still clean-cook-laundry & got up every night to feed the new borns. I slept when they slept. I don't let him know I'm tired in pain or anything, He throws it in my face his mother had 14 kids so there for 3 kids should be nothing for me so I keep my pretty lips seal.[/quote']

God mami, I don't know how you did it. I physically couldn't reach around to wipe my butt the first week. Ur Superwoman!!!

[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

God mami' date=' I don't know how you did it. I physically couldn't reach around to wipe my butt the first week. Ur Superwoman!!![/quote']

I been with hubby since I was a teenager & the woman in my family are race to cook & clean & most of the woman don't work. I was basically the 1st to work in the family but still did the cooking & cleaning. Well you won't be the 1st to say im superwoman. I was able to do it all after surgery. I'm a married wan but I live as if I'm single. My hubby only pays the bills. I'm in charge of cleaning cooking the Kids & laundry.

[bellepink77 44]

Applause to mami I am a stay at home mom and I have an old fashioned husband as well I normally do all if the household stuff except for mowing the lawn taking out the garbage and shoveling snow. But after my kids were born or if I'm sick he has no problem doing what needs to be done. And for That I'm grateful. I dont know how you did it mami I'm almost 3 weeks out and I still can't bend over.

[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

Applause to mami I am a stay at home mom and I have an old fashioned husband as well I normally do all if the household stuff except for mowing the lawn taking out the garbage and shoveling snow. But after my kids were born or if I'm sick he has no problem doing what needs to be done. And for That I'm grateful. I dont know how you did it mami I'm almost 3 weeks out and I still can't bend over.

I have god in my life I guess. I always say what doesn't break me makes me stronger.

[PaulB 346]

Mami sorry to hear of your husbans love for you (I'm sure he does love you) but what a way to say it.

I do most of the cooking my wife loves to do laundry she hates dishes . We all work together and our house with down to 2 kids now is still a mess. But my life would not be complet with out her support and love. She has done more for this surgery and learning about it then I have.I don't get it when spouses don't wat us to Change or help when we do.