Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

How come my husband doesn't find me attractive? I wear hat from sun up to sun down but for the past days I fix my hair & not wearing a hat. He haven't said a world. The thing is I find him so sexy & attractive. He's in the late 50's in my eyes he's so fine. He never tells me I'm beautiful sext attractive. I look nice. Or even I like that color hair you got. I'm always checking him out. His interest is only me cooking & him having sex & telling me your all mine right? Then saying I'm all yours. I can't get enough of him he is so handsome & fine. I just don't get it. I don't want him saying nice stuff when I slim. I wanna hear it now.

I'm I whining or sound like a child??

Nope not childish. I know how you feel. And it ain't fun

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I would talk to him!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

The grass is greener on the other side because its fertilized with bullshit

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Before my surgery me and my husband separated because he still wants to be a kid and my weight could of been and issue as well but he always said to me that my weight never bothered him not that I'm 70lb lighter I slowly see him tryin to sneak back in my life! But I'm not about that!! If you didn't like me when I was fat don't come around now that I'm smaller because this chick is never settling ever again I deserve way more better!!

post-15340-13813809690229_thumb.jpg

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I would talk to him!

I don't want him to know how I feel. If he doesn't know it by now he will never know after over 16 years.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Before my surgery me and my husband separated because he still wants to be a kid and my weight could of been and issue as well but he always said to me that my weight never bothered him not that I'm 70lb lighter I slowly see him tryin to sneak back in my life! But I'm not about that!! If you didn't like me when I was fat don't come around now that I'm smaller because this chick is never settling ever again I deserve way more better!!

Well said!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

How come my husband doesn't find me attractive? I wear hat from sun up to sun down but for the past days I fix my hair & not wearing a hat. He haven't said a world. The thing is I find him so sexy & attractive. He's in the late 50's in my eyes he's so fine. He never tells me I'm beautiful sext attractive. I look nice. Or even I like that color hair you got. I'm always checking him out. His interest is only me cooking & him having sex & telling me your all mine right? Then saying I'm all yours. I can't get enough of him he is so handsome & fine. I just don't get it. I don't want him saying nice stuff when I slim. I wanna hear it now.

I'm I whining or sound like a child??

You are not whining Mami you are venting.."totally different :-) I know you don't want to talk to him but seriously my husband is always asking me to please tell him how I feel about things because he said he seriously cannot tell by my actions etc. he admits to being clueless although I really do think he tries but some husbands just need it said loud and clear so there is no gray area.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You are not whining Mami you are venting.."totally different :-) I know you don't want to talk to him but seriously my husband is always asking me to please tell him how I feel about things because he said he seriously cannot tell by my actions etc. he admits to being clueless although I really do think he tries but some husbands just need it said loud and clear so there is no gray area.

He is old fashion & think there is only 4/5 ways of having sex. I want him to grab me coming threw the door of course when kids are in school. He is 55 I'm 33 this is the 2nd marriage 18 he lasted last one. If he doesn't know there's many sex position by now. Can't tell me I'm beautiful or nice things. I dont wanna be with him.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

He is old fashion & think there is only 4/5 ways of having sex. I want him to grab me coming threw the door of course when kids are in school. He is 55 I'm 33 this is the 2nd marriage 18 he lasted last one. If he doesn't know there's many sex position by now. Can't tell me I'm beautiful or nice things. I dont wanna be with him.

Can't say I blame you there Mami! My husband is 50 but he is not old fashioned and does give me compliments often. I agree it's hard to keep things spiced up if only one of you is trying.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Miami- if your husband won't do things on his own to you - then it sounds like you need to take control of the situation! Plan a night, get a babysitter, and YOU SHOW your husband how and what you want & like! I can't imagine any man not wanting to participate!! Good luck :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Jealousie is stupid. If my wife wants to run off with another man, then I am ok with that. I want her to be happy, and I want to be wanted. If she wants someone more than me, then she should go. I say that with no malice at all. I have never doubted her in 20 years of marriage, and I won't spend time/energy worrying about it. Stop the pussyfooting, and find a nice gentle decent way to tell the spouses to grow up. As for flirting in marriage: There is a definite difference between flirting and coming on to someone. If you don't know the diff, then don't flirt. Simple.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Jealousie is stupid. If my wife wants to run off with another man' date=' then I am ok with that. I want her to be happy, and I want to be wanted. If she wants someone more than me, then she should go. I say that with no malice at all. I have never doubted her in 20 years of marriage, and I won't spend time/energy worrying about it. Stop the pussyfooting, and find a nice gentle decent way to tell the spouses to grow up. As for flirting in marriage: There is a definite difference between flirting and coming on to someone. If you don't know the diff, then don't flirt. Simple.[/quote']

Love the statement!!!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Bashbee91

      Hey guys new to the process looking forward to this new life. 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Bugg

      Hi everyone! I’m brand new here. I just went through all my pre-op requirements per my insurance company and now everything has been submitted and I’m just waiting for final approval and my surgery date. I’ve been doing research, watching YouTube videos, TikTok’s, ect.. trying to prepare my mind and what to expect so I’ll be ready for the surgery. I was so sure and so set and so ready and excited. However, now that I’ve done everything & it’s almost here, I am sooooooo scared! I know why I want it bc I’ve tried everything and I just don’t feel like I can lose weight by myself. I’m tired of being overweight my entire life. I’m miserable, but I keep psyching myself out afraid of GERD bc I know how that can be and I don’t want to have to get a bypass after already gaining the courage to even get VSG. I’m scared of complications like I’mgoing to regret doing it and be depressed that I didn’t just be more disciplined and try again to lose the weight on my own even sitting here typing this knowing in my mind i just can’t and don’t possess the discipline. I’m also afraid I won’t be able to handle the restrictions of the sleeve. What do I eat? I don’t know how to eat healthy really and don’t enjoy healthy food. I don’t know how to do this! I feel so defeated!Someone tell me they felt anything similar to this or am I not ready? I thought I was. I am so tired of being sick and tired and so tired of myself and so tired of being stuck and stuck in this body and somebody different on the outside from what I feel inside. I just want to ball up and cry.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      over 20 lbs down since4 the pre surgery diet and surgery on the 14th
      · 1 reply
      1. Selina333

        Yay!! Congrats. I know how good that feels. 🤩

    • Jenopolis

      Had a sleeve in 2017, lost over 100 pounds. Had a DS surgery this year (2025) for more sustainable weight loss. 🤞
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      The 14th was my day. I am home and recovery is going pretty smooth. They even let me walk out of the hospital. Picture of me in recovery curtesy of my boyfriend lol. 

      · 3 replies
      1. DaisyChainOz

        Glad it went well!! Wishing you a speedy recovery and wonderful success!! 🤗

      2. buildabetteranna

        Thank you ❤️

      3. Selina333

        Neat you have a pic of this day! I was sooo happy to get my surgery. It was well worth it! And I'm not even near my goal. I had surgery Dec. 2!

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×