Anyone Regret The Surgery?

[Fourx4CieBri 7]

Amen.

[DLCoggin 1,788]

DL what app do u use hun?

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Hi Ms. Panda! Sorry for the late reply - was on a little fishing vacation. I use "Tap and Track" which I got from the Apple Apps store. That was the one that had the best reviews when I was looking and I've used it every day since last December. I love it but have heard nothing but good things about "My Fitness Pal" and "Spark People" as well. I don't know if any or all of these have versions for Android and iPhone. I really don't think it matters which one you use but I think it's VERY important to use an app or some kind of journal to record what you're eating. It has helped me in more ways than I could have imagined. I fully expect to be using it for life.

[Panda 354]

Hi Ms. Panda! Sorry for the late reply - was on a little fishing vacation. I use "Tap and Track" which I got from the Apple Apps store. That was the one that had the best reviews when I was looking and I've used it every day since last December. I love it but have heard nothing but good things about "My Fitness Pal" and "Spark People" as well. I don't know if any or all of these have versions for Android and iPhone. I really don't think it matters which one you use but I think it's VERY important to use an app or some kind of journal to record what you're eating. It has helped me in more ways than I could have imagined. I fully expect to be using it for life.

Thanks bunches

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[Mbrock 17]

Per Shell:

As of yet I have no regrets but I do feel your pain. Only down 47 lbs but already I'm hearing things like "...oh its because you've lost weight!" Or "now that you've lost weight the way you eat is boring!" . I very much am still the same person but I find the people around me are becoming irritated because I've adopted a healthier lifestyle. How in the world what I'm eating affect someone else?! . My sister hasn't come by not once since she's heard I'm losing weight. The most positive feedback I get is from my kids. I don't regret surgery but I agree when you say people around you change. And jealousy becomes more prevalent. I am a person of strong character and have already prepared myself for the loneliness I already see on the horizon. Change is growth and a lot of people don't want you to grow when they are unwilling to. My lover refuses to eat fat free sugar free or baked anything although he could stand to lose weight himself. He is totally against anything healthy. Which for the life if me has me puzzled. He won't walk with me or participate in anyway at all. Already I've gone from a relationship to having a friend with benefits. Yet and still...NO REGRETS! I've been fat my whole life now I want to see how normal weight people live and are responded and reacted to. And soon I will find out. I guess its a blessing that I've never married and only have 2 years invested into my present situation. I truly believe the Lord has beautifully wonderful plans for the skinny me when I get there! I am eager with anticipation!

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[krystacoyle 27]

Michelle B.<br />Visit my "Blog" I'm in the process of beginning!<br />Mbrockgreat.blogspot.com<br />*Sent from my Samsung Galaxy SII using RNYTalk

How do I get to this blog, I would like to hear of some things that happened through your journey. Just to be Informed could you message me the link, I cannot open it from here

[Mbrock 17]

http://mbrockgreat.blogspot.com/

Let me know if this works...I'm new at this and haven't said too much yet.

Thanks#

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[john 181]

I do

[krystacoyle 27]

I do

John u regret it, care to elaborate

[john 181]

No , sorry I meant to write I don't .

[jessamarie24 173]

I'll say at 3 weeks after being in the hospital for a week because I got so sick, I regretted it. I was crying and thing, "wtf did I do!?!?" I think it's normal to feel that way though, as a lot of people I talked to have! But now I'm a month and a half out and I don't regret it at all!

[Mbrock 17]

http://mbrockgreat.blogspot.com/

*Let me know if this works...I'm new at this and haven't said too much yet.

Thanks#

Michelle B.<br />Visit my "Blog&quote Mbrockgreat.blogspot.com<br />*Sent from my Samsung Galaxy SII using RNYTalk

Michelle B.<br />Visit my "Blog" I'm in the process of beginning!<br />Mbrockgreat.blogspot.com<br />*Sent from my Samsung Galaxy SII using RNYTalk

[krystacoyle 27]

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It just brings me to a page with an orange square and two twirling black circles in it for telecast 10 minutes.

[nish 102]

No regrets yet

[LosingItForMe2011 320]

I can say I had a few days of asking What the Heck did I do to myself but, the feeling didn't last long. I think I was about 3 weeks out, an infection had set in, in one of my incision sites and I was in the process of having it cut open in the doctors office with no pain meds at all. OUCH! But after that, it came again when I just couldn't figure out what the heck I could eat and I was tired of the same thing day in and day out. I got over it and it's been easier now that the food choices have opened up. It's definitely better and i don't regret it at all!

[aNuMe 59]

I regret the surgery. I'm four years out and I'm perfectly healthy' date=' but I'd never do it again.

There were complications, a stoma (scar tissue made the new exit too small for even soft foods to pass) and a massive ulcer. But after pushing the doctor, the medical issues where all resolved with in 5 months. Mind you the extra cost was upsetting,I never want to purée a damn thing again, and being scared to eat wasn't fun but I worked past those issues in time. Pick a goal, I've reached it, on paper I'm a successful RNY.

It's the loss of privacy and support that came after the surgey that's my issue. Like I've said to my shrink (yeah that continued added expense really bites) I was fat, generally unhealthy but with no co-morbidity issues, and likely to die at 50 but I WAS HAPPY and had great people in my life.

I haven't changed but the world around me suddenly sees me differently. I'm not all that and a bag of chips mind you (yum, chips I miss you), it's more that I'm easy to talk to, approachable. That personality makes me a successful sales person and good friend, somehow it's a bad thing to be while I'm skinnier and in public. I was always talkative and friendly now suddenly it's perceived as flirting?

People gawk at you in a mean way when you're fat, it doesn't feel any better when they gawk at you thin. The new attention makes old friends and loved ones jealous, I've lost quiet a few in the years since the RNY over how other people behave. The divorce rate post surgey is higher then 50%.

I think its wholly unfair and rotten that no one said told me the bad things about change, that people around you don't always accept it. The support system you have love the idea of a healthy thinner you before your RNY, but come to hate it in real life. Had I known how negatively a positive change for me could affect people around me I would have been more careful along the way. As it is I didn't know jelousy was an issue until they were gone. A heads up that post RNY people who rejected you will want to approach you would have been great too.

I really wish I could come to terms with the surgery, thus the shrink, but as I am, no I wouldn't do it again.

You all have the same hopes, goals and wishes I once did, its a beautiful gift - the hope of RNY, I don't share my story to ruin it. I share it because I do regret my choice and wish with every heartbeat I didn't. I pray to stay healthy but to also be happy again at the same time. If my woeful tail helps one of you keep your love and friends I've done more for you then anyone did for me.

Please, just posting this response is a huge leap of faith in the goodness this community, be kind if you reply. I completely understand Mbrock's reluctance to talk, speaking negatively here is like wearing a Hitler mask, I suspect some my think me evil. But you asked for regrets, I've torn open a scar to share, don't be mad when you hear some.[/quote']

Omg so I had to stop reading your post in the middle so I can say this every girl friend of mine had the RNY and when I spoke to her about itone of the first things she said with the situation with losing people around you from jealousy rather you be middle or female people all they want you to get healthy they're not intimidated by you because you're the quote unquote "fat friend" and I think it's a shame that people would treat someone that way when for the most part we just want to be healthy looking good it's just a bonus. As for me if it came down to me being healthy or having friends and hanging out with family, they lose because my health is more important than their insecurities. I also heard that people will try to shove food your way, honestly I think some people want to see us fail, but we need to prove them wrong in be the biggest losers.