Anyone Regret The Surgery?

[steph1558 3]

All I see are people who who would have it all over again in a heartbeat. Anyone regret having the surgery that had it more than 6 months ago?

[Melsauve 76]

I had my surgery a little over 6 months ago and I still am so glad I had it! I am so glad I get this opportunity to live my life as the new me!

[steph1558 3]

I'm in the process of getting all the tests done and I can't for the life of me find anyone who would not do it all over again except for some folks that are recent post ops. Thanks for your input.

[Mbrock 17]

Hi, Steph. WoW. I've been reading this site on and off now for awhile. I've deleted, re-Installed, deleted and re-installed again just one more time! And saw your question.

YES! There are , well I'll speak for me and my late brother in law (same procedure ENT

[Mbrock 17]

Hi, Steph. WoW. I've been reading this site on and off now for awhile. I've deleted, re-Installed, deleted and re-installed again just one more time! And saw your question.

YES! There are , well I'll speak for me and my late brother in law (same procedure ..the big "R" one) who 13 YEARS LATER wish now I did not have this done ...or new the consequences it has brought be and people around me. Too numerous to just blurt out....and frankly I'm tired of telling or trying to tell...NOT to you or anyone reading this. But medical Dr after medical Dr, ER visits, hospital s, specialists ++

Anyway, I told myself not to get all worked up! So, a BIG YES is my answer!

[steph1558 3]

I'm just trying to know as many stories as possible. Any one thing that you wished you had known to make you not have the surgery?

[josee67 40]

I can honestly say there is nothing i wished I had known before because I did every kind of research on every kind of surgery known to man lol and when I met my dr for the first time he gave me all the right answers to all 25 questions I had written down for him so I knew what I was up against when I did this I am 3months post op I love my new life and only I can screw it up so that's why I have chosen not to pick up any habits like I had before. This is a life changing surgery so be positive it's what u want. And good luck to u

[john 181]

What happened mbrock?

[Panda 354]

Hi' date=' Steph. WoW. I've been reading this site on and off now for awhile. I've deleted, re-Installed, deleted and re-installed again just one more time! And saw your question.

YES! There are , well I'll speak for me and my late brother in law (same procedure ..the big "R" one) who 13 YEARS LATER wish now I did not have this done ...or new the consequences it has brought be and people around me. Too numerous to just blurt out....and frankly I'm tired of telling or trying to tell...NOT to you or anyone reading this. But medical Dr after medical Dr, ER visits, hospital s, specialists ++

Anyway, I told myself not to get all worked up! So, a BIG YES is my answer![/quote']

Wooowwww! I would hate yo get you all worked up but I would love to hear you and your late bro-in laws story. Nit just because I'm curious but knowledge is power and there is a lady on this site struggling tremendously due to complications of surgery. Maybe your story can help her find which direction to go in so that her quality of life can improve.

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[john 181]

Mbrock what did you do wrong to have such complications ? Maybe the surgeon messed up. You shouldn't put down a surgery that saves lives without explaining what happened!!!

[shellb 9]

I regret the surgery. I'm four years out and I'm perfectly healthy, but I'd never do it again.

There were complications, a stoma (scar tissue made the new exit too small for even soft foods to pass) and a massive ulcer. But after pushing the doctor, the medical issues where all resolved with in 5 months. Mind you the extra cost was upsetting,I never want to purée a damn thing again, and being scared to eat wasn't fun but I worked past those issues in time. Pick a goal, I've reached it, on paper I'm a successful RNY.

It's the loss of privacy and support that came after the surgey that's my issue. Like I've said to my shrink (yeah that continued added expense really bites) I was fat, generally unhealthy but with no co-morbidity issues, and likely to die at 50 but I WAS HAPPY and had great people in my life.

I haven't changed but the world around me suddenly sees me differently. I'm not all that and a bag of chips mind you (yum, chips I miss you), it's more that I'm easy to talk to, approachable. That personality makes me a successful sales person and good friend, somehow it's a bad thing to be while I'm skinnier and in public. I was always talkative and friendly now suddenly it's perceived as flirting?

People gawk at you in a mean way when you're fat, it doesn't feel any better when they gawk at you thin. The new attention makes old friends and loved ones jealous, I've lost quiet a few in the years since the RNY over how other people behave. The divorce rate post surgey is higher then 50%.

I think its wholly unfair and rotten that no one said told me the bad things about change, that people around you don't always accept it. The support system you have love the idea of a healthy thinner you before your RNY, but come to hate it in real life. Had I known how negatively a positive change for me could affect people around me I would have been more careful along the way. As it is I didn't know jelousy was an issue until they were gone. A heads up that post RNY people who rejected you will want to approach you would have been great too.

I really wish I could come to terms with the surgery, thus the shrink, but as I am, no I wouldn't do it again.

You all have the same hopes, goals and wishes I once did, its a beautiful gift - the hope of RNY, I don't share my story to ruin it. I share it because I do regret my choice and wish with every heartbeat I didn't. I pray to stay healthy but to also be happy again at the same time. If my woeful tail helps one of you keep your love and friends I've done more for you then anyone did for me.

Please, just posting this response is a huge leap of faith in the goodness this community, be kind if you reply. I completely understand Mbrock's reluctance to talk, speaking negatively here is like wearing a Hitler mask, I suspect some my think me evil. But you asked for regrets, I've torn open a scar to share, don't be mad when you hear some.

[DLCoggin 1,788]

I think that it's important to understand that there is risk involved with any surgery and RNY is no exception. There are heartbreaking stories. No one can ever be absolutely certain that the surgery will be successful or that there will not be complications, some quite serious. It's also important to understand that there is risk involved with obesity and with the numerous secondary problems, some quite serious, that often result from being obese.There simply are no guarantees, no absolutes, whichever way you go. I'm almost 33 weeks out, 173 lbs (from a high of 285), and I'd do it again in a second. My wife is 40 weeks out, 199 lbs, and would do it again in a second. My brother is 14 years post-op, 174 lbs, and would do it again in a second. My best friend is 6 years post-op, 225 lbs and celebrates his new life every day.

Like many others, I did exhaustive research before making the decision to go under the knife. Based on the most current information available from the very best, most respected, most experienced sources I could find, I concluded that the odds are overwhelmingly in my favor for a successful long term outcome.

[john 181]

DL you hit the nail on the head!! I think you should be the president of RNY!!!! I love your approach and attitude !!! I always feel better after hearing from you!! Btw I just left my first post op, I'm down 21.5 lbs since surgery and my dr cleared me for regular food....I'm scared

[Melsauve 76]

Shelb that was very brave of you to put your heart out like that. I'm sorry you have had a hard time. With anything there is negatives to the surgery. But I think for most the good out weigh the bad. It's definitely a personal choice for all of us. For me I'm so glad I did it but now I have to say I am more self counsious of my body then before. With more attention comes more insecurities. With time I hope I will be more comfortable with the new me. Before I was glad to find clothes to cover me now I search clothes that i feel cover my flappy thighs. I feel like people judge me now then before. Maybe it's just me I don't know. I still get the people saying I could never do that like its so horrible. I just smile and say its not for everyone. There is good and bad about it. All in all it's a personal choice and you need to figure that out for your self. Good luck:-)

[john 181]

Well said Mel, btw which one are you in your pic?