Feeling Like A Failure!

[KevinsBabyGirl85 364]

now with everything going on I really feel like crap

[LosingItForMe2011 320]

Vamp....look at how well you've done! Girl...you've done amazing! Please don't be so hard on yourself because truly just think.....68 pounds is a lot of weight! I know it's discouraging to not be heading where you want to be but, you will. It's not uncommon for RNY folks to go through stalls. Our bodies rebel! Think about it, our bodies have been trained to hold onto the weight especially women. It will move....that scale will start going in the right direction again for you. Journal your food choices and exercise, and really look at it. Are you getting in enough Water, are you eating enough? Are your eating times spread out to keep your metabolism going. How about weighing and measuring your food....break out the measuring cups and food scale. Go back to basics with your eating and se how it goes.

I'm here for you and besides.....in a few months I maybe be going through the same thing and you'll have to kick my butt Deal?

You go girl! You can do this and you will break this plateau. I have no doubt in my mind. ((hugs))

[josee67 40]

Oh girl your anything but a FAILURE. Look at your waist size you started at a 53 and look now your a 38 that's pretty fricken good if u ask me you are my inspiration girl There's enough people in this world quick to beat u up don't do it to yourself. You are doing great.

[john 181]

Vamp hang in there , you're an inspiration to me and I'll pray for you!

[KevinsBabyGirl85 364]

Thanks girls and guys (lol) I did manage to loose some more weight I probably weigh less than this because aunt flow came to visit but I didn't weigh in last week but did weigh during the week and I was back up to 188 but weighed in again at 181 I would really rather not say how I lost the weight (ashamed) but here's my latest weigh in!

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[KevinsBabyGirl85 364]

Oops didn't mean to post twice!

[Panda 354]

No fair! I need to know ALL of the secrets to weight loss! I might need a boost one day.....PLEASE!!!!¡

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[KevinsBabyGirl85 364]

Believe me Panda its not something you want to do!! I'll private message you though!

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[sweet 98]

So happy for you vamp

Sweet

[KevinsBabyGirl85 364]

Thanks sweet!

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[shellb 9]

I'm four years out, let me pass on the one piece of advice that keeps me sane: stop weighing yourself since it is the worse measure of 'sucess' that we can use.

As you loose the fat you will exercise more and gain muscle. Who on earth thinks that body builders are fat? Ask any buff trainer you know and they will tell you that they do not fall within the weight limits for their age - if they only measure weight and inches these buff ones are fat. Eventually gaining a little weight (muscle) is a good and heathly thing for us (though it does scare you when it happens).

If you want to measure something it should be body fat percentage. There's a special scale and/or hand held device to measure if for you most gyms or doctors offices will have a one. There's a formula too you can Google if your a math-y and want to calculate it yourself. Find the chart of body fat percentages for age and gender by level of fitness (athletes/fit/acceptable/obese) on Google as well.

About 5 months out I too was feeling bad, like I was failing. After talking with my doctor, my trainer, and other RNY folks, I got off the weight scale and switched to body fat %. You know I was just inside the acceptable range and within 3% of fit!? Holy s**** I was HEALTHY!! Now I had a new goal, I wanted FIT. A few more months of eating well and exercise, tada, I got there and never once did I check my weight.

But even the % of fat thing got old, now I use the ultimate in simple to measure my success: Do my 'little' clothes still fit right? As soon as something feels tight I buckle down again and get on track. I crack out the food diary and exercise routine until I'm back in the little sexy black dress I bought to Celebrate reaching the 'fit' level.

I have no idea how much I weigh and haven't for 3 and a 1/2 years, all I know is my clothes still fit! Even when I go for a checkup I tell the nurse before I get on the scale that I don't want to know the number, then I turn my back and get on. I keep my eyes closed for good measure (no pun intended).

Getting off the a scale maybe the kindest thing to do for yourself, there are better measures of success for you then a number. Maybe for you it's playing with the kids, or walking up stairs, or running a marathon... Pick something and step down off that madding machine.

[Panda 354]

Well said Shellb! I here of late gave been referring to the scales as the devil's device! Lol

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[KevinsBabyGirl85 364]

Well said Shellb! I here of late gave been referring to the scales as the devil's device! Lol

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Definitely the devils device lol!!

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[KevinsBabyGirl85 364]

And thank you to everyone who has left me encouraging words, it's really helped me get through this rough patch!!!

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[aarval 89]

Vamp there are days that I don't lose anything or that I even feel bloated. I finally am learning my body. I realized that since surgery I don't go poo every day like I use to. I go every other day now. So sometimes I get on and I gain a pound or didn't lose anything then a few days later after I went poo all day then next morning I weigh in and lose like four pounds. So don't get discouraged. Maybe your like me and the bowels get backed up a bit.