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I had my gastrc bypass 4 weeks ago on february 28th. My starting weight was 322. I'm 298 right now and have been stuck at this weight for a week now. Why am I not loosing weight? It's to early for me to not be loosing weight, and its scaring the crap out of me. I've been staying between 600-700 calories a day. So theres no reason ( in my mind) that I shouldn't be loosing weight consitantly? I'm so lost. And this past week i've been feeling so hungry all the time. which i never expected. I figured in the beginning I wouldn't be feeling hungry. I'm able to eat a full cup of Soup which sounds way to much. Yet when I only eat a 1/2 a cup i'm not full. please any help would be great. I feel so alone. I don't have any friends or family near me to help with this. I never thought that even after gastric bypass that loosing weight would still be this hard. :(

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Don't get discouraged....everyone goes thru mini plateaus. I would stay away from the Soup for a while only becuz ur probably not getting a lot of Protein from them plus the liquid n solid thing isn't a good idea. U r drinking the broth first and then eating the contents right? Drink plenty of fluids n get that protein in. Ur body does through shock so that why we plateau at first...it happens to every1 but u will start losing again. Slower weight lose is great becuz u will feel better n have less lose skin at the end...hang in the n best of luck to u :)

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Don't worry so much everyone is different and loose at different Paces. I've had some stalls already to I had my surgery march 6 I've only lost 10lbs since surgery. U have to make sure u get ur Water as ur protien in. That's the most important. I've been walking a couple

Miles a day that seems to help

A little. I've talked to alot of people who have been threw this and their is advice is always calm down Just stick with protien and ur water and u will do fine :)

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I'm sorry you are so frustrated. I am too, so I understand the feeling. You actually are doing quite well. You have lost 24 pounds already, right? That is 6 pounds a week. I know it does not seem all that good to you, but that really is a good pace.

I know you are feeling hungry right now, but please try to stick with what your surgeon says you should have (most likely 1/4 cup right now?) That was one of the biggest suprises I got.... being hungry. Some people say you don't feel hunger (or fullness) for up to 3 months. I am 3 months out, I felt hunger from the beginning and still don't feel restriction. I just know we need to be mindful of portions and not overeat.

I agree with the previous poster who recommended staying away from Soups right now (unless, at 4 weeks you are still on soft foods?)

I'll tell you the same thing I have been told again and again (And I really do know is true) Just relax, do what you need to do and it will happen.

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I had my gastrc bypass 4 weeks ago on february 28th. My starting weight was 322. I'm 298 right now and have been stuck at this weight for a week now. Why am I not loosing weight? It's to early for me to not be loosing weight' date=' and its scaring the crap out of me. I've been staying between 600-700 calories a day. So theres no reason ( in my mind) that I shouldn't be loosing weight consitantly? I'm so lost. And this past week i've been feeling so hungry all the time. which i never expected. I figured in the beginning I wouldn't be feeling hungry. I'm able to eat a full cup of Soup which sounds way to much. Yet when I only eat a 1/2 a cup i'm not full. please any help would be great. I feel so alone. I don't have any friends or family near me to help with this. I never thought that even after gastric bypass that loosing weight would still be this hard. :([/quote']

First, everybody has plateaus. I didn' think it would happen with the bypass because it's so radical, but it did. It does with everyone. Walk an extra block and eat a few more grams of Protein. Are you eating carbs? They are the devil. Also, as you lose weight you will notice a weird phenomenon... One week you will lose pounds but your clothes will fit the same... The next week you don't lose an ounce but now your pants are lose. It has happened to a lot of people at my support meetings. Weird, but it happens. And a full cup isn't anything to freak out about. I remember having the same conversation with my doc! Also, bring your concerns up to your doctor. We had access to a nutritionist that would help with situations like this.

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