female only Body image/clothing issue

[SeriouslyChange 319]

This past weekend, I went to the store with a friend and I wanted to buy some cute jeans, but they didn't have a size 16. I grabbed the size they had, a 10, and told my friend, "I'll fit in these one day, they are my new goal pants"

Came home, my friend was insistent that I try them on. So I took off my pants and told my friend, "they're not going to make it past my thighs... I don't know why you're doing this to me..."

The jeans fit. They fit perfectly. I could probably go down another size if I wanted them tighter.

My friend told me that my clothes are always so big and that he had a feeling there was a smaller body under there somewhere.

I'm still shocked.

How have some of you gotten over this problem? I don't see my smaller self. When I look in the mirror I see a bigger girl looking back at me. It kind of makes me wonder what I really look like and if it looks healthy...

[piercedqt78 658]

I was cleaning out my closet, and moving my previous "goal clothes" up to the front so I could start wearing them. They were all 14's and a few 12's. My husband said that the 14's were too baggy, so I tried on some of the 10's that I bought thinking they would be my final goal size. The 10's fit me perfectly. I was stunned. I still have 13 pounds to go, and I haven't even started looking into plastics yet. Sometimes I totally see a size 10 in the mirror and sometimes I still see my 22-24 looking back at me. My daughter says that my old clothes are way too big and she was relieved that I donated them this week. We have a local thrift store that supports a domestic violence shelter, and when I go in I can find nice things for $1 each. I bought a bunch of stuff in every other size when I had surgery. So I had 18's, a few 16's, a bunch of 14's and now a bunch of 10's. Today I picked up some 8's and that still seems like an impossible dream, but I tried them on and one pair fit very nicely, the others are still really snug. Wearable, but in 5 pounds they will be perfect. It's weird, I always felt sexy when I was big, I was a bbw and knew how to dress my curves to look nice. No one every believed I was as heavy as I was, I guess I used clothing to hide it well. And now that I'm getting thin, I have body issues. Go figure.

[dork 114]

I'm down a few sizes in tops, but I still have my flabby belly so i need the larger size to cover it which makes my shoulders too big.....My shorts are about falling off now...but waiting for about 10 more pounds before i go try on new pants. Hoping to go from a tight 22 should be 24 to at least an 18 or 20. And that's after losing 65 pounds.

[NMJG 1,266]

It does happen and I think it just takes time. I just bought some smaller sized things from another member on here, thinking it would be a long time before they fit, but they fit perfectly now. Give it time and your head will catch up with your body. I remember when I thought I should be in a smaller size than what was currently fitting. So glad it's moving the other way now.

[da1stladie 63]

This past weekend' date=' I went to the store with a friend and I wanted to buy some cute jeans, but they didn't have a size 16. I grabbed the size they had, a 10, and told my friend, "I'll fit in these one day, they are my new goal pants"

Came home, my friend was insistent that I try them on. So I took off my pants and told my friend, "they're not going to make it past my thighs... I don't know why you're doing this to me..."

The jeans fit. They fit perfectly. I could probably go down another size if I wanted them tighter.

My friend told me that my clothes are always so big and that he had a feeling there was a smaller body under there somewhere.

I'm still shocked.

How have some of you gotten over this problem? I don't see my smaller self. When I look in the mirror I see a bigger girl looking back at me. It kind of makes me wonder what I really look like and if it looks healthy...[/quote']

I have the same problem, but the way I deal with it is taking full length pics of myself. Then compare them to the before surgery or even the last month photos. When shopping I now try to see what's the smallest size I can fit in. I ve lost 91# since April 30, 2013 and many inches. I'm about 5'10 and working my sleeve. :-) Yes some days I still find myself in the plus size department even though I can't wear anything over there. It takes time.

[Carlotta 57]

From what I have read on the wls website...taking pics of yourself along your journey would help the perception of yourself. Also, lay down and trace your body on a roll of paper..

[Sassygirl06 962]

I am just now starting to realize my real size now. For the longest time I would automatically go to the plus size section. I finally see the skinny girl looking back in the mirror. I like it!

[Sassygirl06 962]

I am just now starting to realize my real size now. For the longest time I would automatically go to the plus size section. I finally see the skinny girl looking back in the mirror. I like it!

[PokeyJo 47]

A friend at work told me on Thursday it was time to donate the outfit I was wearing. Friday, I tried on a pair of jeans I haven't gotten into in 4 months. They fit beautifully. I have clothes in my closet in a wide range of sizes - from 22 pants to 12 pants. Tomorrow, I need to try on some smaller size pants and see how they fit.

I don't know how I'm going to see myself once the weight comes off. I find myself looking at clothing in catalogs and thinking "I'll never be able to get into it" When I finally get to go shopping, I'm going to bring a friend with me who promises to be completely honest no matter what.

I'm really interested to see how other's deal with this also....

[PokeyJo 47]

A friend at work told me on Thursday it was time to donate the outfit I was wearing. Friday, I tried on a pair of jeans I haven't gotten into in 4 months. They fit beautifully. I have clothes in my closet in a wide range of sizes - from 22 pants to 12 pants. Tomorrow, I need to try on some smaller size pants and see how they fit.

I don't know how I'm going to see myself once the weight comes off. I find myself looking at clothing in catalogs and thinking "I'll never be able to get into it" When I finally get to go shopping, I'm going to bring a friend with me who promises to be completely honest no matter what.

I'm really interested to see how other's deal with this also....

[TJL 222]

i've done the same thing, I bought some jeans at the thrift store thinking that they would be a goal to work toward, but when I got them home and tried them on they fit perfectly, go figure. I look at myself in the mirror everyday but don't really see the changes. however the proof is in the clothes.

[TJL 222]

i've done the same thing, I bought some jeans at the thrift store thinking that they would be a goal to work toward, but when I got them home and tried them on they fit perfectly, go figure. I look at myself in the mirror everyday but don't really see the changes. however the proof is in the clothes.

[Sweettart702 8]

I remember once going into the clothing store and the plus size section. Then the girl that worked there said "I think you're in the wrong section. This is the plus size clothes"

I guess it takes awhile before you see yourself differently.

[AvaFern 3,516]

I feel like I'm always going to see myself as the "fat girl" no matter how thin I am. This time last year I was 150, and I look at pictures and I'm like...ugh why can't I be that thin now! Of course at the time I looked in the mirror and I thought, you fatty, why are you eating so much! Even when I'm at my low weight of 130 which happens maybe every other year, I always feel like I'm a giant, even when in actuality I'm normal sized or even considered thin. I was kind of a chunk as a kid, not huge, but when all the other girls were 60 pounds I was like 90. I still remember this one girl calling me "fatso queen of ice cream" and as an adult, even when I look pretty good, I look in the mirror and I see the kid that everyone made fun of. On a positive note, I remind myself that no one else sees that fat kid and I fake it til I make it! When I'm thin, no one knows on the inside I still feel like a hefferilla.