Im having a hard time. Need some encouragement

[No game 14,437]

Aw guys! I remember those days! Just reading what you guys wrote brings me back...

Like I said even though I was warned about the natural depression it didn't make it a lot easier when I was in the thick of it. I was lucky because my husband was prepared for it to. And well lets just say he's a patient man

Wags yes how does one go to the movies? Enjoy a birthday party? Christmas? OMG thanksgiving?

They all conjure up food to me. It takes a long time to not associate birthday with cake.

Not that you can't have a piece but if you are like me that was the MAIN thing

Also for the most part everyone around you will still associate gatherings with food. We can't change that. The further out I get the more at ease I have become with it.

Sometimes people eat in front of me. And I don't partake if I'm not hungry why should I?

For instance yesterday after a bike ride, my husband and I stopped at a little cafe for coffee

He saw giant muffins and wanted one but wasn't going to because of me... I assured him it was ok, and you know what? it was! Because I wasn't hungry right then. I realized just because there is food and someone else is hungry it doesn't mean I have to eat! Simple I know but I'm a little slow on the uptake.

[Wags 549]

Thank you red bean and Laura!

You are right! food WAS the MAIN thing. I just have to find some new main things. I'm searching, but it's a process. I really love the support here. I have tried to explain this to my husband. He is sweet, but he can't understand it because he's not wired that way.

[ReDbEaN 654]

Thank you red bean and Laura! You are right! food WAS the MAIN thing. I just have to find some new main things. I'm searching' date=' but it's a process. I really love the support here. I have tried to explain this to my husband. He is sweet, but he can't understand it because he's not wired that way.[/quote']

I understand...my hubby is amazing...but just shakes his head like "I don't know..." Lol and yepyep find something new...I STAY on this blasted site!! Better than eatin all day though ;-P

[BethinPA 305]

I remember how depressed and lost I felt! I knew I couldn't go back, so I resolved to try my best and to make the best of it for 6 months, and then I would figure something out from there. It turns out I didn't need 6 months to adjust and realize vsg was the best thing for me. So I would advise to just keep putting one foot in front of the other for now - things will come together in their own time. It really does get much, much better!

[mlowell 39]

I feel like I'm having a hard time transitioning from my addiction to food no food. I feel left out of a lot of situations where people are having dinner. I feel like I've made a mistake. I feel like my coping skills have been taken away. I know it's only been a couple weeks but I'm having a really hard time. I'm just hoping that I made the right decision too late now.i cry a lot and I just need to know that I won't feel like this forever.....

My doc started me on antidepressants before surgery...I do have a history of depression and we were being proactive. My doc and the PA's in the office had NUMEROUS talks with me about how it is very easy to get depressed after weight loss surgery.....or become addicted to something else. Maybe you should get started on something. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health.