Surgery a week away, having second thoughts! Help...

[TonyaA 41]

I think a lot of people have second thoughts, it's normal, having WLS is a huge personal decision. Some are fortunate to have an amazing support system, others come here and we give you all the support and help we can based on our own experiences. Honestly, I tried the six month doctor supervised diet three or four times before I finally said enough is enough. I have got to do this for me, I was tired of being tired, overweight and sitting on the sideline of my life. I had my surgery on July 24, 2013 and the morning after, I still questioned "what the heck have I done?!" Fast forward to today, two months later and WOW!! I'm 46 lbs lighter, my clothes are 1-2 sizes smaller, I'm off all my meds (I WAS a diabetic) and I feel better than I have in a long time. I have no regrets, except that I didn't do it sooner! I have had NO complications, didn't take the first drop of pain meds post surgery and love to brag about my accomplishments since surgery. As long as you listen to your doctor and nutritionist, you will do fine. I wish you the best!

[bnape29 30]

Surgery is scheduled for next Wednesday. And im thinkin of calling the surgeons office to cancel! Although ive been prepping for this day for 2 years now' date=' I am having second thoughts! Have I really tried hard enough? Do I really want to endure all of this? Do I want to risk having complications? I am perfectly fine now....I dont know what to do! Doesnt help that I have people repeating whats already in my head....wth![/quote']

Next Wednesday for me too! I think you are totally normal for feeling nervous... You have to do what's right for you. The few people that do know about mine are supportive, but have lots of skeptical questions. But I know in my heart what's right for me, I've saturated myself with information and support groups. Looking forward to the new journey that is ahead

[prsist1869 4]

It's an intensely personal decision. I didn't tell my family or friends because it's not about them, it's about me. It's about me being better, feeling better and looking better. This will affect every aspect of my life and I'm damn well worth it. I don't know if I'll be one of the lucky ones who have little or no complications, but in the long run, anything I do for myself to live is worth it. I don't want to die and if I don't do this (for me), I'll either die from co-morbidities or wind up in and out of the hospital with one illness after another.

Bottom line - you have to decide what it is you want for your life. Not what your family or friends want for you. What's going to make you happy? Healthy? Confident? Content? This is all about you - no one else. It's not just about losing weight. That's my wooden nickels worth

Take care and I hope you find peace whatever you choose to do.

[leslie1958 159]

It's an intensely personal decision. I didn't tell my family or friends because it's not about them, it's about me. It's about me being better, feeling better and looking better. This will affect every aspect of my life and I'm damn well worth it. I don't know if I'll be one of the lucky ones who have little or no complications, but in the long run, anything I do for myself to live is worth it. I don't want to die and if I don't do this (for me), I'll either die from co-morbidities or wind up in and out of the hospital with one illness after another.

Bottom line - you have to decide what it is you want for your life. Not what your family or friends want for you. What's going to make you happy? Healthy? Confident? Content? This is all about you - no one else. It's not just about losing weight. That's my wooden nickels worth

Take care and I hope you find peace whatever you choose to do.

Well said - couldn't agree more - There isn't a person alive that could either guilt or talk me out of it. I know that some opposition is borne out of concern and love but oh boy until they are in my skin they simply will not know what it's like. I told only one friend who I knew would not oppose it and of course my husband but no one else. Then there are the friends who are utterly clueless - I was out with a group of pals a couple of months ago - we all got chatting about weight as a few of them are pretty husky too so I put my two cents worth in and said how I couldn't find anything to wear for today because I'm so bloody fat, to which one of my friends replied loudly - "but you're happy though aren;t you" - I was mortified !! how on earth can this otherwise well educated woman actually think that I am happy like this ?? - good grief, nothing fits me, I ache all over, I'm miserable and yet this seems to have completely gone over her head so I can only imagine what her reaction would have been had I chosen to announce that I was having wls in Mexico soon !! - no I choose to keep it quiet. !!

[Bombs 353]

I canceled my RNY in sept 2009. I was totally terrified and had the worst feeling. Canceled the day b4. I did so well on the pre op I thought I could do it alone. I lost about 70 lbs through diet and exercise. I have gained 55 back since and just can't keep the weight from climbing. I have tried everything. Except this. I am ready! It is normal to be scared of the unknown but face it - life is unknown. You will do great. Focus on the positive!!

[beauty29 72]

Tomorrow is my pre op.... Whoop whoop!!!