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I look at all the inspiring stories and wonder if I can do what the others have accomplished. Reading all of the stories is amazing but I seriously can't even believe that it's something I can accomplish. Anyone else who's preop feel this way?

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I look at all the inspiring stories and wonder if I can do what the others have accomplished. Reading all of the stories is amazing but I seriously can't even believe that it's something I can accomplish. Anyone else who's preop feel this way?

I guess I haven't even thought about not being successful at this. I have thought about complications, trusting my judgement, and if this is the right choice. But I have had this confidence that if I did do this that it would work. I attribute this to the therapy I do.

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I'm post op and I do. It's a process... I struggle everyday with the self sabotaging failure thoughts. I stress because the scale has only moved a couple pounds in the past couple weeks, but I'm 3.5 weeks out and lost a lot of weight in a very short period of time. I obsess over every piece of food in my mouth, input everything and stare in awe that I'm taking in a fraction of my normal calories.

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Your going to be ok just take one day at a time.

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I think a lot of us go through that....

I mean how many times have I done this (lost weight) just to never quite get there or get there and immediately put the weight back on.

I made a goal weight and never really even thought it was a possibility to get there.

Slowly and surely I am though :)

This is a long tough road but if you stick to it and remember this is for life which means lifelong changes you will successfully do it and keep it off.

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All you can do is set personnel goals and milestones to help you stay on track. We all feel this way, just have a strong mindset.

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I am not sure I worry about failing, but I sure do worry that I am going to be a slow loser. I know I am committed to the program and with time it will come off, but how fast? Probably not as fast as I would like.

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I am really excited and focused and really do WANT to succeed at this... But I have thought about it... I sometimes wonder if my story won't be as successful as others. It almost seems impossible, but I'm trying anyway... I know how you feel... But what else are you gonna do, you know? Give up? That is not an option to me. But I do hope that all our stories are successful ones :)

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I look at all the inspiring stories and wonder if I can do what the others have accomplished. Reading all of the stories is amazing but I seriously can't even believe that it's something I can accomplish. Anyone else who's preop feel this way?

I have to say I'm like you. I think it's cool, awesome, and even inspiring, but am not sure I'll be one of those. I also worry about being the woman that is skinny only from the waist up, or something crazy like that. But for right now I simply try to focus on relaxing, following my new routine, trying to keep lined up on the center stripe on my best days and keeping it between the ditches on my worst. Hope to talk to you again in a year and laugh about how worried we were so long ago! :P

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I do feel that way. All the time.

I have no kids but I suspect its how waiting for the baby feels. Like hurry up & wait.

I'm not even excited, I am feeling meh about getting approved & getting a date because I know that the rug could be pulled out from under my feet at any moment.

allons-y

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I have been at goal for months and still forget sometimes that I am not fat anymore.

I watched a Lipozene commercial and thought about getting some and then had to remind myself that I didn't need it.

I am trying to think of myself as having returned to the skinny kid I was in my teens before food caught up with me.

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I guess I haven't even thought about not being successful at this. I have thought about complications' date=' trusting my judgement, and if this is the right choice. But I have had this confidence that if I did do this that it would work. I attribute this to the therapy I do.[/quote']

What type of therapy do you do and how often?

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I'm post op and I do. It's a process... I struggle everyday with the self sabotaging failure thoughts. I stress because the scale has only moved a couple pounds in the past couple weeks' date=' but I'm 3.5 weeks out and lost a lot of weight in a very short period of time. I obsess over every piece of food in my mouth, input everything and stare in awe that I'm taking in a fraction of my normal calories.[/quote']

I think I will feel as you do after surgery. I wonder if therapy will help with my issues?

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I think a lot of us go through that....

I mean how many times have I done this (lost weight) just to never quite get there or get there and immediately put the weight back on.

I made a goal weight and never really even thought it was a possibility to get there.

Slowly and surely I am though :)

This is a long tough road but if you stick to it and remember this is for life which means lifelong changes you will successfully do it and keep it off.

Thanks so much. I wasn't sure if this meant I would totally be a failure because I'm doubting myself. But you are right, losing and gaining and doing it over and over again is embedded into my brain.

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