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I received a message that ask some questions I think we all deal with. I wrote a reply and thought I would share it here since I have been asked kinda the same thing many times. :-)

Hi: :-)

First not knowing you its hard to give specific advice. And at the same time I am happy to share some ideas with you

As a woman you have it much harder than me. The deck is stacked against you. Everything in your body say hold on to the weight. Now, while natures insisting you keep a little more than the men is not bad at all on our man eyes when the curves are just right, sometimes natures idea of how much more and a fair ladies just don't line up. You have already been winning this for two years, You cells think your last two years have been you going nuts!!!! Lol.

With that said does that mean you goal is hopeless? Absolutely not!!!!! Not only is it imaginable, you can shatter it! I know that after two years and feeling like your still not where you want to be that seems a bit too optimistic right?

Winston Churchill in one of England's darkest moments said, "Never, Never, Never Give Up!" It is one of my favorite quotes. It sums up what we need so many times when faced with the seemingly impossible. Yes, I really do believe attitude matters.

Attitude either reflects or shapes. In truth at various times we experience both. I do attempt to have mine be the shaper more often that not.

With that said..... First step is what my 10 yr old daughter says when she is facing something she doesn't relish but is determined. "It's time to woman up!" (Yeah she is that cute:-).

You can reach your dream goal! You know the one that is even more than the goal you set because your to afraid to admit the other because it seems impossible? Yeah I have been there also. So with the Woman Up attitude intentionally ringing in your ears throughout the day you are ready to make it happen!

Next it really comes down to a simple equation more spent than saved. Only time in life this is a good thing ;-)

We have to eat less fuel than we spend. How that happens is up to you. But there are some pitfalls to watch for.

You have to get in enough to retain as much lean muscle as you can. Here is my lose phase (yes i revert to it occasionally.

Daily

80-100 gr Protein (not fried)

60-80 carbs. Yes really. No flour based carbs or potato

80 oz non-caffeinated liquid (i do drink coffee but do not count it into my daily liquid needs)

And I jog, bike, hike. Often very early or very late (single dad of four, so i get how hard finding time can be) i jog 12-20 miles a week

I figure you already know all these things. But reminders and knowing it does work can help.

I had a great recovery nurse that had surgery also and gave me a piece of advice that has been fabulous. He told me that sometimes he finds he is not losing or maintaining and he knows that the real reason is he is slacking on eating properly or that his head lost control and food has taken over again. So to get back on track he will force himself to go on the pre-surgery liquid diet for a full 1-2 weeks. Not to lose weight but to re-orient his brain back to a place where he is in control of what he eats. Not food and not habits. I have done that a time or two. It really can be a phenomenal re-ignition.

I have made up my own version. I call it the Dog diet.

What does my dog eat? (Well, dog food of course lol) and he eats the same dog food every time he eats. So if I feel my head has lost control to the old demons. I put myself on a dog diet. I eat the same Breakfast, the same lunch (different from breakfast) and the same dinner (different also). So I have 3 different meals (i do also have a Protein Bar or shake twice a day to get my Protein goals in) the point being that for two weeks. Yes two weeks!!!!

It's the same food.

Why? Because it gets my head back to the place where food isnt The epic life, it is only Fuel for My Epic Life!!!!!

So my thoughts are this.

You haven't failed, making this choice two years ago and confronting the weight is success, these are just the details.

You are winning already!!! You have rocked! Look at yourself girl, get some old pictures out and compare. Celebrate every single success!!!! You have earn it!

Next?

So how far do you wanna go from here? Yes, I already know the answer. :-) and the fear.

And now it is time to woman up! Pick the liquid or dog diet and let me know how it feels to have you in control and not food!!!!

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great post, about staying in Control....

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Fantastic and inspiring post! Dude, you're kind of my hero now. Your 10yo reminds me of my DD when she was about that age. She'd always ask (actually, it was more of a statement), "I'm a strong woman, aren't I?" and I always answered "Absolutely!"

It is definitely "time to woman up." I am pre-pre-surgery (no date, have about 6-7 months until I get there) and am taking back control by taking the first step for me. Here I am :)

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Thank you for that post and your fantastic positive approach to life. Made for a great read!! I always tell myself 'man up woman!!' Especially when I'm lifting weights :)

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Great advice...thanks for sharing!

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Wow...thank you. This is a great "smack in the face" to regain my attention/focus to lose my remaining pounds!

It's as easy (or as hard) as we CHOOSE to make it.

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Thanks for the insight!

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