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For those of you who have a high sex drive, how long after surgery were you cleared to have sex, and how long until you felt good enough to really enjoy it?

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For those of you who have a high sex drive' date=' how long after surgery were you cleared to have sex, and how long until you felt good enough to really enjoy it?

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I am 5 weeks post op. I have had regular sex since 2 weeks out but only really enjoyed it at 5 weeks out. The doc told me to wait for 1 week after the op. ????

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I don't know about everyone else but the drive died completely for me. No desire at all.

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I don't know about everyone else but the drive died completely for me. No desire at all.

My sex drive also died for a while but I didn't have the heart to say to my husband lol and now it's slowly coming back and is more enjoyable

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My doctor told me as soon as I wanted it.. but that I should bear in mind that I shouldn't lift anything heavier than 15 pounds... I spent far too long speculating exactly WHAT type of sex he though I'd be having where I was lifting more than 15 pounds.... Anyway I resumed my activity after 2 weeks.. but that was just because I didn't return home to my bf until two weeks after surgery because I was staying with my sister.... If he had been around.. I would have felt great to resume relations after three or four days.

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My doctor told me as soon as I wanted it.. but that I should bear in mind that I shouldn't lift anything heavier than 15 pounds... I spent far too long speculating exactly WHAT type of sex he though I'd be having where I was lifting more than 15 pounds.... Anyway I resumed my activity after 2 weeks.. but that was just because I didn't return home to my bf until two weeks after surgery because I was staying with my sister.... If he had been around.. I would have felt great to resume relations after three or four days.

That is too funny! My doctor told me to wait four weeks!! Let's just say I am counting down...one more week to go!

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I don't know about everyone else but the drive died completely for me. No desire at all.

I feel the same way! I think they took it out with my stomach! Lol. It is just gone! I mean completely gone! I am very worried actually. I am 6 weeks out and want to be interested in it!

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I waited a week, always very active and continue to be.. I think the week was the longest we've ever gone !! Lol it was a little painful just until we found the right position then all was good !! ;)

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I asked at my one week post op, I was told I could have been having sex since the day after. But let's be real, who wants to have sex then? But I waited until most of the soreness was gone, which was about ten days. Just remember, the more weight we lose, the better it will be! ;)

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My discharge papers from the hospital said - sexual intercourse- encouraged- no lie!!! I had asked my dr the morning of my surgery abt it in front of my husband and he said I could do it the day after surgery really but ideally it's when Im comfortable with it. Saturday night was the first time since before surgery and i was 6 weeks out on Friday. I felt awful for my poor husband. I get really insecure about sex and possibly the lack there of it but I def hurt my abdomen doing it.

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I was told a week. I have a high sex drive and it continued after surgery. However, still have pain and discomfort on the right side, Therefore, the traditional way is out! :)

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I waited a week

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I'll be 2 weeks post op tomorrow and I haven't had intercourse yet - although we've been keeping each other happy. ;)

I'm honestly a little scared to start doing it soon! It may sound ridiculous, but I'm seriously afraid of shaking my staples loose or something! LOL! :blink:

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My drive also crashed. I was so excited to loose weight and finally feel comfortable enough to want to have sex. My poor husband, I haven't had sex since July because if I don't get enough Water in I'm too dehydrated and to be honest, it hurts. :(

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