Im not ready

[Mrs.FullerRN 189]

I'm scheduled 10/14 for my sleeve. I just feel like what if I'm not ready? They said we have to change our habits before surgery. Well I have not. Tried the Atkins diet for 4 days before eating pizza in a carb-deprived craze.

Then again I feel like if my habits were changed, there would be no need for surgery. I know without surgery ill never change. I've been feeling like this is the tool I need but maybe I just am meant to be fat and miserable forever.

[gomekast 559]

Have you talked to a therapist about this? I think some doubt to a certain extent is normal with something like this.

And although I've had the doubt too, I've also come to peace with it and know I have to do it.

But I think if you talk about your mixed emotions with a therapist, you may be able to better sort it all out so you come to a decision either way.

Good luck!

[Recycled 2,182]

Then again I feel like if my habits were changed, there would be no need for surgery. I know without surgery ill never change.

"Bingo" perfectly spoken. Nothing wrong with a little help from a "tool".......(and I don't mean me )

I have done everything in my life I have ever set my mind to do.....except keep the weight off !!! I am with you on this one. Without the surgery, I will never accomplish it for the long term. And if I don't.......there will be no long term anything.

[Athinnerme 26]

Where are you having your surgery, what doctor?

[WeeWers 48]

Oh dear-heart, I'm in the same position you are in and my surgery is this Monday!! I posted something similar to what you did and I got one response that helped. PJ said that after the surgery we will want different things, that a certain hormone is reduced (or removed?) which should help with the hunger.

If any of us didn't have a problem with over-eating, and eating the wrong things, we wouldn't need this surgery.

Your post was very vulnerable and I'll bet you get alot of supportive replies -- don't let judgemental posts get you down. Don't even respond to them.

You will do well. Keep your eye on the ball and expect good things.

WeeWers

[Madam Reverie 2,958]

I'm in exactly the same boat and my surgery is in 7 days time. Not a good feeling, is it? Lemme know how you sort it out! x

[MsK1972 112]

Oh love...don't fret, God didn't put any of us here to be miserable or fat, this society is what should be changed, EVERYTHING revolves around food...holidays, birthdays, business meetings, work meetings, dates, meet & greets...EVERYTHING is about food..it's not your fault and this is going to help you. I don't have my date yet..but know this I have developed an unhealthy relationship with as well...with love & support we are on the way to a healthy happy life.

Love,

K

[Mrs.FullerRN 189]

Where are you having your surgery' date=' what doctor?[/quote']

Why is this relevant

[SuzyB 182]

There is no harm in holding off. I am not sure that will change anything. It may be benfical to talked to a therapist about what mental blocks are occuring. I do not think we are meant to be miserable, but happiness is not a number on a scale. Surgery only helps with the stomach. We have to do our own work on our head.

If I recall correctly, you struggle also about having to possibly stopping nursing. Maybe waiting until that is over to proceed.

[Athinnerme 26]

Why is this relevant

It was just a question, not that it is relevant. I'm being sleeved in October on the 18th, 2013. Noticed you were an RN, so I'm I and just wondered who you were going with.

[Mrs.FullerRN 189]

It was just a question' date=' not that it is relevant. I'm being sleeved in October on the 18th, 2013. Noticed you were an RN, so I'm I and just wondered who you were going with.[/quote']

Dr. Farhan in Flint, MI

[Mrs.FullerRN 189]

There is no harm in holding off. I am not sure that will change anything. It may be benfical to talked to a therapist about what mental blocks are occuring. I do not think we are meant to be miserable' date=' but happiness is not a number on a scale. Surgery only helps with the stomach. We have to do our own work on our head.

If I recall correctly, you struggle also about having to possibly stopping nursing. Maybe waiting until that is over to proceed.[/quote']

I guess I should clarify that. I'm happy. I have such a blessed life. Literally the only complaint I have is my weight. But it hangs over me like a black cloud, shadowing all my other happy things.

[Athinnerme 26]

Dr. Farhan in Flint, MI

I currently live in Plano, Texas; but I'm from Grand Rapids, MI. I miss home so much.

[Mrs.FullerRN 189]

I currently live in Plano' date=' Texas; but I'm from Grand Rapids, MI. I miss home so much.[/quote']

Flint is a **** hole. The west side of the state is pretty though

[kvdme 64]

My surgery is tomorrow and I am way feeling not sure about this. ALOT what if, is this really right, complications, pretty much every fear in the book and truthfully don't feel even if I wanted to back out I could. Everything paid.... sucks feeling this way