Best and worst "compliments"

[nsharrah 60]

I lost mine too. Haha

[gamergirl 4,610]

I just got a fantastic one! One of my clients said "Girl, you look like a coke bottle!"

[skikyd 165]

Ok so I have not told my mother.. She loves to gossip about people's weight.

When I was Pre-op and had already lost 27 pounds. She was telling me about everyone that had gained weight..... I said its not nice to talk about people... Especially to tell them to their face they have gained.

She insisted it was OK if it was the truth.

Then she told me I had gained.

I shot back at her ... bTW I am DOWN 27 pounds.

She had to admit it.

I am now 6 weeks post op and down 60 pounds.

I told her I have a thyroid condition that causes me to lose weight.

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[ImLooznit 171]

My sis in law who had the surgery a year PLUS before me. Now keeps making such a point that I need to stop losing weight, and I have not lost any more in more for several months. YEAH cause your starting to gain yours back from all the drinking that you are doing! SLAP in FACE~~~~ ( No I did not tell her that, but it is the truth)

[zenandnow 514]

Went to visit my sister last week - her MiL said to me "you look good, you've lost some weight?"

My sister said "she's lost a truckload, she only has half a truck to go"

B*tch.

[jdmama911 224]

I was wearing an orange hoodie last week and my mom said "wow, last year you used to look like a rotund pumpkin, now you just look like a pumpkin. That hoodie is so loose on you now!..Wow mom, thanks...

[sifford1 27]

The nicest complement was from a mom that goes to my sons school, she basically said that she never comments on people's weight but noticed how much I lost, and continued to say how gorgeous i looked! The nicest part was when she said she had always thought I was gorgeous but I was a different slimmer kinda beautiful now! The whole approach and the sincerity was so nice!

[CrazyJaney 775]

I really believe that fat-shaming is kind of the last frontier of things we're allowed to make fun of in public with little impunity.

I have really appreciated this thread, probably more than any other. THIS is the stuff that I worry about. Not drinking liquids for weeks or extra skin but how to navigate through the negative people out there. I work in a hospital. I'm a manager. I probably have a decent to good relationship with the majority but as a boss, I'm a natural target. And nurses LOVE to judge and comment. I've told only 3 people outside of my family that I'm doing this (I'm pre-sleeve) but I'm not naive that some will figure it out. When I've lost weight before, I felt sabotaged by others comments, the good and the bad. I'm not a shallow person and I just can't wrap my head around people who only see peoples physical features. I told my doc and np that I was worried about how to respond. They suggested having come backs planned. I appreciate all the clever ideas here. The good thing (one of the many) is that this time I'm doing it for good, and old enough to not care what people say (at least not like I did at 25). I tell people being in your 40's is liberating. I need no ones approval. It feels good when you share in my success but unsolicited comments won't be received well.

Best compliment when telling my close friend I was gonna do it: "I'm so happy for you, you're so bubbly and full of life but you will be even more so and feel so much better". She's a keeper!

[scarlet333 386]

Thank you for this great thread. I have laughed, cried, and cringed in horror at peoples experiences.

Best Compliment - My 14 year old son told me he was proud of me.

Worst Compliment - My sister in law said I now look like I finally "go" with my husband. He is naturally thin.

The other thing is my mother in law is also Filipino and has absolutely not said one word to me about my weight loss (she doesn't know about my surgery). NOT 1 WORD... But I guess I can't complain since she never said anything about all the weight I gained either.

[Seela 1,187]

My favorite so far... "Well, I can't see a difference, I think you're gonna have to lose about 100lbs before it's really noticeable". Well thanks! Especially considering that's all I have to lose and I'm sown from an 18/20 to a 16!

[SoccerMomma73 1,867]

My favorite so far... "Well, I can't see a difference, I think you're gonna have to lose about 100lbs before it's really noticeable". Well thanks! Especially considering that's all I have to lose and I'm sown from an 18/20 to a 16!

that's atrocious

[SoccerMomma73 1,867]

My favorite so far... "Well, I can't see a difference, I think you're gonna have to lose about 100lbs before it's really noticeable". Well thanks! Especially considering that's all I have to lose and I'm sown from an 18/20 to a 16!

that's atrocious

[Hunter 159]

My 100 year old Grand Father was in the process of telling me how good I looked and then explained to me I would have already been married and had a kid or two if I had not gotten fat! Wow he failed to noticed I raised my ex girlfriends daughter and now I am raising her son also. ???? but life is good and I am 80 pounds lighter to enjoy my Grand Son!

[slw260 23]

Tomorrow will be 4 weeks postsurgery and I work from home so I haven't seen many people so far.

One of my favorite compliments came from my thin, beautiful sister before I had surgery. She said, "You are already beautiful. People tell me all the time your sister is so beautiful. Now you're going to get your confidence back that you lost somewhere along the way, and when you do, look out world!" I will never forget how that made me feel.

My absolute favorite, though, came from my 5-year-old granddaughter who said to me last week on Face Time, "Nana! Why does your neck look so long?" I think she is noticing my weight loss.

[ReDbEaN 654]

The hubby and I have some really good friends - another couple. The guy of said couple is a total prankster/jokster/KID (in his 30's)...ANYWAY...the other day we were together and he asked me how much weight I've lost, I told him, his reply

"Well, I swear you've lost 12 lbs in your HEAD!!"

His poor wife, I thought she was gonna die from embarrassment!