Worried

[ktgrace 6]

I am 27 and have been looking into getting the sleeve for a few months now. I keep going back and forth on whether I should get the sleeve or the plication. I just feel like I am so young still to lose part of my stomach for the rest of my life. I know that sounds stupid, but I don't know how else to describe it. Why am I so scared about this when I know it will help me and my family in the future? I guess I just need some reassurance.

Thanks for anything you can tell me.

[thinathart 197]

I wish I could turn back the clock and have this surgery at 27, rather than 41. I feel like I wasted so much time not enjoying life because of my weight. It is the BEST thing I have ever done for myself!

[His 3]

Did any of you have people talking bad about the surgery and saying how bad the side effects are? I have surgery on Aug. 28th and now getting scared.

[Richard Foor 655]

Most of the time when people are talking bad about the surgery they don't really have any clue what there talking about. The stories are always about there friend's cousin or something, and they don't even know which surgery they had. So unless someone is telling you something about the surgery and they themselves had it, I wouldn't put to much weight to it.

Being scared is completely normal and common, just try to keep in mind your reasons for having the surgery and that will guide you through. Good Luck.

[Emilysmom 41]

Im 42..my only regret is not doing it sooner

[ElaineB 207]

I'm 3 weeks post-op. With this surgery, I have given up my stomach and so much more!!! I have given up 29.5 pounds and counting. I have given up being controlled by food, feeling like a loser and a failure, plus the resulting shame. I am giving up my beloved size 22 tents, I mean shorts. I am close to giving up sleep apnea, borderline high cholesterol, being the embarrassing fat mom, the high risk for stroke, HTN, diabetes and early death or worse. I work in a nursing home, so I know for a fact there are worse things. This surgery is scary. Life is scary. But it's worth getting in there, taking some risks, getting your hands dirty and living. This surgery isn't for everyone. It's not easy and it requires huge changes. However, for me, it is the best thing I have ever done for myself and I only wish I had done it sooner. I am loving my life and loving my sleeve. Don't jump into this. Weigh the risks and the benefits, get lots of information,like you are doing, and pray about it. Be wise, but never let fear keep you from having the life you want. You only get one and none of us are getting out of this alive anyway:). Good luck with whatever you decide!! Keep me posted. I'd love to know what happens.

[Pookeyism 1,143]

I am 27 and have been looking into getting the sleeve for a few months now. I keep going back and forth on whether I should get the sleeve or the plication. I just feel like I am so young still to lose part of my stomach for the rest of my life. I know that sounds stupid, but I don't know how else to describe it. Why am I so scared about this when I know it will help me and my family in the future? I guess I just need some reassurance.

Thanks for anything you can tell me.

I can't tell you that you are ready, that is something for you to decide. I say this after about 10 years of researching one surgery, then deciding no, looking into the "next", and again no...maybe? back to the doc's office...no...and finally- BAM! Stomach tumor, it had to come out anyway. I regret nothing...n...o...t...h..i...n...g, however.

I can't say I wish I had it sooner, cause I think I was not ready, and the surgery was not ready so to speak (I did not hear of VST till 2 1/2 years ago). I can say I DO wish I was ready and it had been available when I was 27!!!

[TwinsMama 483]

At 27 I was pushing out twins. If I could have done this by 28, I would have saved myself YEARS of trying to lose weight after having 2 big babies...at the same time. I sat on the fence trying every diet imaginable for 2 years then finally committed and had another whole year to do the work.

The older I get the harder it is to change habits. I wish I had pushed more to get the surgery back then because if I'm honest with myself, all I did was prolong the weight loss another few years. Should have went with my gut then.

[Jerseyslved 10]

I'm 28 and 6 days post op. I struggled a lot with thinking 'do I wait on this'. My thoughts were that I didn't want to be plagued by weight for my entire life. I saw where my weight has been and was going. I saw where my family members are ( morbidly obese). I've struggled with my weight since I was a kid and I didn't want it to keep going.

That being said- it's a bit tougher than I imagined. I've gathered from others that I am in the hardest part and ill feel better soon. I want soon to be here. Sometimes I wish I hadn't done it. I think I miss normalcy and not being scared (I'm constantly scanning my body for signs of leaks etc). I'm having a hard time with how things taste. Drinking feels like a chore, etc.

I try to imagine all the years of the future that I won't feel this way and it'll just be a blur of my memory. I don't want to scare you off, but I was a bit surprised by my misery and not prepared for how tough it'd be. But this too shall pass, then I get a new life. I've conceptualized this as a rebirth and with the inevitability of future weight problems, I'm sure I will come to be 100% with my decision.

I wish you well in your decisions and health!

[TwinsMama 483]

I'm 28 and 6 days post op. I struggled a lot with thinking 'do I wait on this'. My thoughts were that I didn't want to be plagued by weight for my entire life. I saw where my weight has been and was going. I saw where my family members are ( morbidly obese). I've struggled with my weight since I was a kid and I didn't want it to keep going.

That being said- it's a bit tougher than I imagined. I've gathered from others that I am in the hardest part and ill feel better soon. I want soon to be here. Sometimes I wish I hadn't done it. I think I miss normalcy and not being scared (I'm constantly scanning my body for signs of leaks etc). I'm having a hard time with how things taste. Drinking feels like a chore, etc.

I try to imagine all the years of the future that I won't feel this way and it'll just be a blur of my memory. I don't want to scare you off, but I was a bit surprised by my misery and not prepared for how tough it'd be. But this too shall pass, then I get a new life. I've conceptualized this as a rebirth and with the inevitability of future weight problems, I'm sure I will come to be 100% with my decision.

I wish you well in your decisions and health!

So sorry you're going through this. Even with all the knowlege and planning, actually going through it is so much different. I hope things get better for you.

Over time they will, but right now is the hard part. Remember nothing worth having comes too easy. Keep going forward and don't look back.

[ktgrace 6]

I'm 28 and 6 days post op. I struggled a lot with thinking 'do I wait on this'. My thoughts were that I didn't want to be plagued by weight for my entire life. I saw where my weight has been and was going. I saw where my family members are ( morbidly obese). I've struggled with my weight since I was a kid and I didn't want it to keep going.

That being said- it's a bit tougher than I imagined. I've gathered from others that I am in the hardest part and ill feel better soon. I want soon to be here. Sometimes I wish I hadn't done it. I think I miss normalcy and not being scared (I'm constantly scanning my body for signs of leaks etc). I'm having a hard time with how things taste. Drinking feels like a chore, etc.

I try to imagine all the years of the future that I won't feel this way and it'll just be a blur of my memory. I don't want to scare you off, but I was a bit surprised by my misery and not prepared for how tough it'd be. But this too shall pass, then I get a new life. I've conceptualized this as a rebirth and with the inevitability of future weight problems, I'm sure I will come to be 100% with my decision.

I wish you well in your decisions and health!

Jersey, I am so sorry you are having such a hard time with this. I worry that I may feel the same way. I feel super excited, but anxious too. Please keep me updated on your progress. And good luck.

[Sweeteyes27 31]

I am 27 and have been looking into getting the sleeve for a few months now. I keep going back and forth on whether I should get the sleeve or the plication. I just feel like I am so young still to lose part of my stomach for the rest of my life. I know that sounds stupid' date=' but I don't know how else to describe it. Why am I so scared about this when I know it will help me and my family in the future? I guess I just need some reassurance.

Thanks for anything you can tell me.[/quote']

Im 22 n ive wanted this for over a year n finally made my choice ... Taken a few steps 2 make my future better... Keep ur head held high n do what u think will benefit you

[Jerseyslved 10]

So I wanted to give you an update- I'm 12 days out and feeling much better mentally and physically! I'm not to 100% with either, but I'm feeling more confident that everything is ok and I'm going to be better than okay not too long from now! I came back to work today- only 2 people know why I was really out so it's been good to just get back to life. So I hope that if you go through with the sleeve your initial pain, discomfort, mental anguish is short lived!

[ktgrace 6]

So I wanted to give you an update- I'm 12 days out and feeling much better mentally and physically! I'm not to 100% with either, but I'm feeling more confident that everything is ok and I'm going to be better than okay not too long from now! I came back to work today- only 2 people know why I was really out so it's been good to just get back to life. So I hope that if you go through with the sleeve your initial pain, discomfort, mental anguish is short lived!

I am so glad you are doing better! I really appreciate your input. Keep updating me as your healing progresses. I am scheduled for October 4th.

[Sydney Susan 333]

I think you are very wise to look at all your options. You are young and have time on your side.

I'm really happy I had the sleeve - no regrets at all, but it's not a magic bullet/cure all so if there are more flexible options (ie: reversible) you ought to consider them. Non reversible options ought to be a last resort, not the first thing you do. I get a bit antsy about young people tossing away otherwise healthy bits of their body. VSG will be there for you later, if needed.

The plication doesn't appear to be available near me, but it looks interesting. If I was in my 20s I'd definitely be finding out all I could about that.

Having said I prefer reversible for the young, no way would I go near a lapband.

Good luck with it all.