I need to get this out of my system.....

[green 6]

My husband dreams of buying a Harley but he is too blonde to be on a motorcycle!

[Tired_Old_Man 1]

Is it just me or do there seem to be more and more rebels coming out of the woodwork these days? Many middle aged and older men are buying Harleys and scooting out to Sturgis and Daytona every year. Sometimes I think it's actually the pressure from work that makes them want to be rebels on their off time! Maybe they were the ones who weren't rebels when they were teens and they just want a chance to be wild boys before they die.

It might be that the geeks now have the money to be "Rebels", while the rebels are fighting to survive because they blew their money (and education way back when) being rebels.

[green 6]

It might be that the geeks now have the money to be "Rebels", while the rebels are fighting to survive because they blew their money (and education way back when) being rebels.

You might have that right. My husband was picked on all the way through school. He is dyslexic and so didn't do too well in many of his classes. And his mother is German; this did not go down well with the neighbours when he was a kid. The memories of the Second World War were too fresh. He still has a lot of scar tissue from those humiliating times. And thus the desire for a hawg!

[BJean 16]

TOM: AMEN. My DH (and perhaps Green's) was too busy being a responsible smart boy and he was definitely a geek! Still is in fact, but I see that wanderlust in his bespectacled eyes.

[BJean 16]

Green-tell that boy that hair is made to be dyed - preferably black! (omg, shades of Elvis) Or he can always put enough slickem on it to make it dark. But he's gotta be ready for the de rigeur tats.

[BJean 16]

I gotta tell ya, Green, it seems that he has redeemed himself for those painful awkward years by marrying a really cool and naturally high chick.

[j_war06 0]

Im giving in and going to the counseling center on campus, I found it....however its more stress management from what I can see...I dont see it being very helpful for my mental health issues....my friend came into my room the other day and talked to me about how she sees me and the way I act and she just doesnt get my extreme highs and lows and how they are so sudden....and a few other symptoms of what you guys have been preaching....I hope they can help me there, however Im almost positive they are going to make me see an outside Psychiatrist, which Im not sure I can afford.

I kind of see the light, Ive been doing some self-reflecting and although Im happy, Im happy for the wrong reasons I suppose....I dont feel motivated to do my school work or even hold a job...yet Im motivated to just be in social settings and around people..

[anonemouse 1]

Jodie, have you been evaluated for bipolar disorder (I haven't read the rest of the thread)? That is what immediately came to mind when you said that you were having unpredictable highs and lows. If you haven't, I would ask your university counsellor to do an evaluation or have one ordered.

[green 6]

Your latest post is an interesting one, Jodie. I am glad that you are going to see what the campus counselling centre has to say. You may have a Borderline Disorder, as was earlier suggested here, or you may be bi-polar, a simple depressive or none of the above - just young and frustrated! By the way, at various times in my life I have been diagnosed with all three.

Although my life has been interesting it has been punctuated with more drama than it should have been and this has interfered with my productivity in the two areas that I prize the most, the intellectual and the artistic. If you can begin to sort your issues out now you will be in a better position than I was to enjoy your gifts and your life.

Keep on keeping us in the loop.

[DrewsLou 3]

Jodie, have you been evaluated for bipolar disorder (I haven't read the rest of the thread)? That is what immediately came to mind when you said that you were having unpredictable highs and lows. If you haven't, I would ask your university counsellor to do an evaluation or have one ordered.

I was thinking this EXACT same thing.

[green 6]

I gotta tell ya, Green, it seems that he has redeemed himself for those painful awkward years by marrying a really cool and naturally high chick.

Thanx, BJean, for those kind words. Actually we both got very lucky. He's the beauty (he is always getting hit on by baby bunnies) and I am the brains - except when it comes to most mechanical and computer stuff. He is also a warm, generous and maternal kinda guy. It turns out that I need this; my mum was not good with tiny children and she preferred my brothers.

As for the painful childhoods, we both have that in common. I was huge for my age and I was a geek. Then my parents warehoused me in a boarding school but kept both my brothers at home.

[Leecelove70 0]

Im giving in and going to the counseling center on campus, I found it....however its more stress management from what I can see...I dont see it being very helpful for my mental health issues....my friend came into my room the other day and talked to me about how she sees me and the way I act and she just doesnt get my extreme highs and lows and how they are so sudden....and a few other symptoms of what you guys have been preaching....I hope they can help me there, however Im almost positive they are going to make me see an outside Psychiatrist, which Im not sure I can afford.

I kind of see the light, Ive been doing some self-reflecting and although Im happy, Im happy for the wrong reasons I suppose....I dont feel motivated to do my school work or even hold a job...yet Im motivated to just be in social settings and around people..

Jodie: Iam so glad that you are going to the school counselor. Iam Biploar and you possess alot of the symptoms that they found in me.

Good Luck and best wishes-- Your taking the first steps to helping yourself get better!

[BJean 16]

Jodie: I think that it's great that you are going to talk to someone. I hope it is someone you can relate to. Just remember what I told you and listen, listen really hard.

It might be that what Green said is true, you're just a girl who's young and frustrated. But what she also seemed to be saying is that if it is more than that, getting some insight now might save you a lot of grief and help you become a much better functioning person and happier in the long run.

We're all pulling for you. It seems that many of us have gone through similar feelings and I think that's why you've had so much input and encouragement here.

[j_war06 0]

I mean Ive seen a therapist before and I was just diagnosed with clinical depression, but after reading up on boderline personality disorder, it sounds very likely.

[Tired_Old_Man 1]

Im giving in and going to the counseling center on campus, I found it....however its more stress management from what I can see...I dont see it being very helpful for my mental health issues....my friend came into my room the other day and talked to me about how she sees me and the way I act and she just doesnt get my extreme highs and lows and how they are so sudden....and a few other symptoms of what you guys have been preaching....I hope they can help me there, however Im almost positive they are going to make me see an outside Psychiatrist, which Im not sure I can afford.

I kind of see the light, Ive been doing some self-reflecting and although Im happy, Im happy for the wrong reasons I suppose....I dont feel motivated to do my school work or even hold a job...yet Im motivated to just be in social settings and around people..

20 years from now, you will realize what a great move you are making.