Need some advice!

[Jessica89 95]

So I am currently a little over 10 months post op and am down 146 pounds. My starting weight was 333 and I am currently 187. My doctors set my goal weight at 180 to 200 but I set it for myself at 170 so I have 17 pounds to go. I know there's a huge controversy out there about pregnancy after weight loss surgery and how soon is too soon. In 2011 my husband and I tried for a baby for over a year before I decided to have this surgery. My obgyn said it was due to my weight that I could not get pregnant. I was completely devastated. I was pregnant with my first child when I was 18 a senior in highschool, she is now 5 years old. Being a mother is the best feeling in the world and so important to me. My weight management program had told me a year to wait to try and then my surgeon told me 2 years. I am going stir crazy waiting. I know this sounds insane but I even go to babies are us.com to look at baby stuff. I've had baby fever for almost 3 years now and its just getting really hard. I know my weight is healthy enough to try. I currently have an IUD inserted right now which is causing me a lot of pain and a lot of problems. I need to get it taken out but the question is do I want to get one put back in or just start trying now. I mean it could take months to get pregnant....but then again it may not. Im feeling really lost, stressed out, and not sure what the right thing to do is. As a christian I feel like if god wants u to have a baby then ur gunna have a baby and that's the right path for u so if I got pregnant its meant to be. I guess I just need reassurance. And some advice from people that have gotten pregnant within 18 months of surgery. My two big questions are: 1. Is it hard to lose the weight after pregnancy? And 2. I am concerned about how I will feel about my appearance being pregnant. In highschool I struggled with an eating disorder and I don't want that to even come back into my head when I see myself gaining weight. I don't think it would...but im scared. I know I sound like a crazy mess but I just need some advice. Thanks!

[kim.cooper 40]

I haven't been sleeved yet, but I can speak to losing weight after pregnancy when you are already obese. My youngest daughter came as a surprise, and I already weighed 200 lbs at conception. I was terrified that I would gain the large amounts of weight had gained with my first two pregnancies 8 and 11 years earlier. Not only was I concerned from a vanity point of view, but more so for the well being of the baby, my own health and ease of delivery. So I was determined to keep the weight gain in check, but in a healthy way. And I managed to keep it to less than 20 lbs by eating healthfully (no empty calories!) and getting cardio in everyday. It worked! Weight gain was minimal and quite easy to lose afterward. And while I was still overweight, at least it wasn't made worse by the pregnancy.

Have faith that you can do this...you are strong and in control. I mean really, look at what you've accomplished so far!

Good luck and keep us posted!

[Jessica89 95]

Thank u! I really appreciate u sharing that with me. Im just so nervous about going in reverse.

[kim.cooper 40]

Thank u! I really appreciate u sharing that with me. Im just so nervous about going in reverse.

I totally get that! But I think you've proven to yourself that you're in the driver's seat...no self-doubting now chica!

[AtlantaRed 651]

My BF had gastric bypass. She had had irregular periods her whole life and only got pregnant once, 19 years ago, without ever using birth control. However, immediately after having the bypass, she began having regular monthly periods and was pregnant before the end of 1 year! She was 42, was high-risk due to malabsorption issues with gastric bypass, but the baby was healthy and she lost the pregnancy weight within a few weeks without trying!

[Jessica89 95]

Really? Yeah I've heard of some people getting pregnant like shortly after surgery and the baby being fine....I just feel like so many people will judge me if I get pregnant too soon. I've talked about it on fb a little and some responses I have gotten are "why would u put urself and ur baby at risk" or that im taking advantage of the surgery. So it makes me a little nervous about what ppl will say but I feel like in my heart its what I want more than anything.