I know its a compliment but still

[Indigo1991 1,612]

Cheri, love ur rant and ur posts on this - couldn't agree more!

I am exactly the same person I was before. Just because some people now actually see me doesn't mean I will do cartwheels of joy amd gratitude in response to any crumb of "praise". (I mean in response to backhanded compliments rather than the genuine comments from friends)

Instead, I am more likely to stand back and reappraise the person who says the dumb thing...

Couple of particular favourites in last two weeks friend's partner said to her: "I never noticed before but Jacqui's an attractive girl - was she always like that???" and my friend passed this on! Then another " friend" who said to me: "you have such a pretty face, maybe you shouldn't lose any more weight in case it gets too thin". And ur point caller is????? Too thin for what????

So which is it? I was ugly and invisible when fat or am I going to be ugly and thin? Lol, you couldn't make it up! But you know what, whilst I am the same person I always was, I now exercise my right to say feck 'em., their opinions are of no value or consequence to me any more. Might be I have changed a bit after all ha ha ha!!!!

[neneh_vsg 44]

Heyher, RBF is now my favorite phrase ever.