I know its a compliment but still

[Heyher 581]

So twice today I have heard "wow! You have lost a ton of weight! You look great!"

Now I should be thankful for the you look great part. But I have not lost a ton. There may have been days where I felt like I weighed as much as a blue whale. But I have not lost 2,000lbs.

Why can't they just say a lot of weight? Why must the amount of weight lost be similar to that of an elephant?

[PdxMan 4,292]

First off, congrats on losing weight. That is awesome!

Second, you know that they are just using an expression. Just like when we said, "I'm so hungry, I could eat a horse", we really didn't mean we could eat a horse. It is merely our way of being dramatic to emphasize a point. Unfortunately, we sleevers find ourselves a bit sensitive to these weight-related expressions, especially in the immediate weeks to months post-op. It's a hormone-stored-in-fat-release thing.

Just remember that the person making the statement is really trying to pay you a compliment and does not have deep seated meanings behind using a general expression.

[Momonanomo 534]

smh....people just don't think about what they're saying.....I hear what you're saying, and I understand.

Try to just take it at face-value, you've been wonderfully successful. So successful in fact, that it has caused people to say incredibly stupid things

ps: congrats on your success!

[thinathart 197]

I agree, you deserve a simple "wow, you look great". I always get bummed after the "los a ton of weight" follow up too. Congrats on your success!

[gmanbat 5,889]

Interesting topic. People use cliche sayings as an energy conserver. It is an effort for the mind to be creative, articulate and Fluid in language. Why make the effort to look up the proper tool when what's on hand will do? Sometimes the cliche does not exactly fit the job, like pliers are not quite appropriate for turning nuts and cause more problems.

Most people don't talk, they blurt.

[No game 14,437]

How about when you see someone you haven't seen since you lost the weight and they don't say a word!

Just happened to me today, not a peep!

I would of loved the "ton" comment....

[Molly3 495]

How about when you see someone you haven't seen since you lost the weight and they don't say a word!

Just happened to me today' date=' not a peep!

I would of loved the "ton" comment....[/quote']

That just happened to me... They said, something's different about you!?

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[No game 14,437]

That just happened to me... They said' date=' something's different about you!?

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Well Molly let me be the first to tell you,

You've lost a ton of weight!

[Nicolanz 1,484]

That just happened to me... They said' date=' something's different about you!?

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I just got this the other day. My reply? I lost a ton of weight!!!!!

[avanti 92]

How about when you see someone you haven't seen since you lost the weight and they don't say a word!

Just happened to me today, not a peep!

I would of loved the "ton" comment....

I've not wanted anyone to talk about my weight for so long.. and now.. no one who has known me for a long time says a word about my weight.. how much i'd love to hear them say... "looks like you've lost a ton of weight finally!.".

[Heyher 581]

Just hearing it twice made me think "My god I looked like whale to them!!!"

Doesn't help that I got the roid rage going from prednisone withdraws.

People better watch out. I might just hulk out on them.

Though one person did say if I lose any more I will disappear soon. That was nice.

[Mrs_Ashley 35]

How about when you see someone you haven't seen since you lost the weight and they don't say a word!

Just happened to me today, not a peep!

I would of loved the "ton" comment....

I was just about to say the same... I have lost 50 pounds today, my mother in law comes into town... NOT A WORD! I'm like wow!

[No game 14,437]

I was just about to say the same... I have lost 50 pounds today' date=' my mother in law comes into town... NOT A WORD! I'm like wow![/quote']

Mother in laws! Gotta love em!

[*susan* 1,709]

Mother in laws! Gotta love em!

No we don't!

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[stacechase 251]

The other day my THERAPIST (of all people) fed me the most hated non-compliment a fat woman could ever hear:

"You have such a pretty face."

Coupled with the gem, "You'll be so attractive when you lose weight," I let her know right then and there to NEVER say that to an overweight person again. Good Lord.

Anyway, I feel you, Heyher! Some people just don't know how to say things tactfully although they mean well. Funny how weight loss also brings with it some frustrating social scenarios!