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My husband is a chubby chaser.



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I have tried to assure him I will always be built like this no matter what the results of surgery -- I've always had T&A (a little more A than T to be honest), and no surgery will change my basic build, you know? To be clear, he is being nothing but supportive since I made the final decision. But he gave me his opinion when asked, and his opinion is that I am perfect just as I am and he prefers bigger gals. I just hope he doesn't miss the old body, and hoping the new attitude and feeling of accomplishment and self-esteem makes up for it. Anyone married to a chubby chaser? Did he do OK after you lost some of your curves?

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He will live you no matter what size you are. :)

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:D i am! I assured my husband too that i will never, could never, be a stick figure like the run way models. We agreed that the sexiest thing is for me to feel good and feel healthy. I have asked him that as i get closer to goal please tell me if he thinks i am getting too thin. I have a ways to go before that could even possibly be an issue! But if/when the time comes, I believe we have control over fine tuning our weight loss and can go into maintenance when we choose to by adding back some higher calorie foods if needed.

Your husband loves you for more than just your body. He will love your new healthier body too. ;) especially when you are able to stand on your head & swing from the chandeliere to please him, if you know what i mean! Lol

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My surgery is scheduled for 8/29. I have the same exact worries. My husband looooves my body how it is now. He says I'm perfect. He has also been very supportive of my decision to be a healthier mom and wife. I also so not think I will ever be a stick figure. I have thick legs and thighs that I've always had even when I weighed 140 lbs 13 years ago. I understand you because I also worry about him not liking what he sees. :(

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im 8 months out ...sleeved 12/08/12 ...and my fiance is a chubby chaser too. he wasnt particularly fond of me having surgery and kinda worried that i would be unhappy with excess saggy skin .......well guess what ???... he is very happy with my results !!! i am 5'4 and starting weight was 258 ....today i am 171 and am rockin my curves . where i had 4 4inch rolls on my back i am down to one and if i stand tall and stretch, i have none !!! Sex is sooooooooooo much easier on the both of us now , no huffin and puffin anymore . i would never "ride " him , but since i have lost all this weight thats my preference and we are both lovin it !!!.... i dont think yall will worry about your men ...he will be happy with the new you !!!!!! it is the best decision i have ever made !!!!!

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I have an ass and a man that loves it :) I am still losing slowly but surely. He tells me to do whatever makes me happy and that I can't hide my beauty......and it is true. Over 90lbs gone and my shape is the same....I am a PAWG with juicy thighs and I let him worship at my alter. LOL

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I have to agree with CherylDiane. He loves YOU... and it will be the same when you are smaller.

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I have an ass and a man that loves it :) I am still losing slowly but surely. He tells me to do whatever makes me happy and that I can't hide my beauty......and it is true. Over 90lbs gone and my shape is the same....I am a PAWG with juicy thighs and I let him worship at my alter. LOL

Deakay you made me choke on my Protein shake!! I keep hoping that my general shape will remain the same as I lose weight (minus some lumps and bumps of course) and you're giving me hope. Obvi Im not a PAWG, but in an interracial relationship. While my boyfriend is supportive, he has some concerns that I will magically transform a waif. Ive told him I essentially had the same shape my entire life, there's just more or less of it. At the end of the day, I'm doing this for ME-so adjust accordingly or spare me the drama. I have enough going on.

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Oh my man loves a thick woman too! Now that I've lost weight, he's all over me! He loves me and I think my new found confidence and happiness is what has him even more attracted to me. Plus, sex is a lot better now!

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I also have this fear. My husband is really supportive but he has never been shy about the fact that he likes my curves and prefers them. I honestly don't know how I will look when I lose the weight. I have always been overweight even as a child. He assures me that he will love me no matter the number on the scale, but I worry! I'm glad I'm not the only one who has this fear.

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I'm embarrassed to ask, but what is a PAWG?!!!!!! Why am I so unhip?!:).

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I'm embarrassed to ask' date=' but what is a PAWG?!!!!!! Why am I so unhip?!:).[/quote']

I googled it and it mean Phat A** White Girl. I don't know either. Lol

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