julietinpa 18 Posted August 1, 2013 So I am one month out and have lost 29 lbs so far which I'm really happy about! I went to panera yesterday and ordered a Soup. When sake what side I wanted I said no side. So I went over to pick up my food and the guy says are you sure you don't want a side. I said yes I'd just throw it out anyway and that would be a waste. He said why? I said bc I had weight loss surgery. I'm not ashamed of it at all. Then he says to me I'm sorry to hear that. Wait, what????? I just left but I should've said it's the best thing I have ever done for myself!!! I'm so mad that I'm letting this bother me and the fact that I should've said I wasn't sorry at all!!!!! Sorry just venting! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Roo101769 742 Posted August 1, 2013 People who have either not had a weight problem, or have yet to come to terms with it if the do, cannot understand. Weight loss surgery is not a failure, it is someone taking real control over an issue they have not controlled before. But it is still very much socially viewed as a failure or taking the easy way out. ( VERY far from that actually) Don't let his ignorance get you down. He would be the same type to judge you for being overweight probably. Damned if you do and damned if you don't!!!! Just Celebrate YOUR victory and let him go back to peddling his starchy shame....LOL 1 TwinsMama reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MIJourney 490 Posted August 1, 2013 He may have just heard "surgery" and not understood what you were saying. 3 TwinsMama, Flup and Getting Wispy reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ms.AntiBand 2,984 Posted August 1, 2013 I also think he was only semi cordially listening ans just heard surgery and not what type. Typical counter help 2 No game and BKLYNgal87 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BKLYNgal87 503 Posted August 1, 2013 Agree with MIJourney & AntiBand. I am not yet used to the strange looks and second guesses I get from waitstaff when I order an appetizer. But I shrug it off because the prevaling mentality in the food service industry is get what you pay for. I wouldn't take it personally. Be psyched about your success so far!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NoneYa 380 Posted August 1, 2013 I'm open about my surgery with people that matter but I would never have explained my "no sides" order with the staff. "Yes, I'm sure" would have been my only response. Of course, I don't think I need to be questioned about my order. I think I'm smart enough to know what I want and expect the waiters to just follow my instruction. I don't think he meant anything bad by it though. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Robyn Cabrera 23 Posted August 1, 2013 He probably meant sorry about pushing the side on you. 1 TwinsMama reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites