When does it get better

[Ashlee K 46]

I'm wondering when this gets better I know it's going to but i don know if I'm strong enough all I wanna do is cry I'm miserable I hate this I love that I have lost weight but I want to be able to sit down with my family and eat a meal. Laugh and have fun like we used to. I feel like i have lost my best friend Maybe it's just my hormones out of wack because I am losing weight maybe buyers remorse idk. I know it gets better. Maybe it's time to go to a support group. Yesterday was the first day I hit my liquid goal 64 but today I have barely passed 20 ozs. I'm scared wondering what have I done

[Ashlee K 46]

I'm sorry to complain I know everyone else is so happy about getting sleeved and I am happy I'm just a Debbie downer today.

[DonRodolfo 1,416]

I'm sorry to complain I know everyone else is so happy about getting sleeved and I am happy I'm just a Debbie downer today.

Don't apologize, it's okay. Many people go through what you're dealing with right now and things will be back to normal soon. Different people heal differently so don't go comparing yourself to anyone else.

All those things you said above, you'll be able to do them again soon enough. And yes, absolutely get to a support group asap - as many as you need to. A buddy of mine here on VST goes to 4 different ones and she's 3+ years out.

Cry, vent, scream, whatever you need to do. You're in good company here at VST.

[daadelishopeful 64]

I'm wondering when this gets better I know it's going to but i don know if I'm strong enough all I wanna do is cry I'm miserable I hate this I love that I have lost weight but I want to be able to sit down with my family and eat a meal. Laugh and have fun like we used to. I feel like i have lost my best friend Maybe it's just my hormones out of wack because I am losing weight maybe buyers remorse idk. I know it gets better. Maybe it's time to go to a support group. Yesterday was the first day I hit my liquid goal 64 but today I have barely passed 20 ozs. I'm scared wondering what have I done

Thank you for being so candid and honest. I am almost 4 weeks out and although I appreciate that I have lost 33 lbs, I wonder what I have done to myself some days too. I can't eat most mushy food and some days after vomiting I am so tired that I am just afraid of eating anything. I remind myself that it will get better, but some days are just tough!

[1SlimSistah2 61]

Anyone here doing a food log? I'm curious to see what & how you are eating post...thanks.

[Ashlee K 46]

Thank u guys for letting me vent I really do feel like I found a whole new family on here. you guys truly do understand. Is it sad I'm excited for purée food lol

[roundy 14]

Hello Ashlee,

I am going through the exact same thing right now. I am one week post op an for the first time i feel like i made a huge mistake. I am sick of Protein shakes and drinking Water still hurts and i struggle to get the 64oz of Water a day. I made dinner for my Wife and Son tonight for the first time since the surgery and i cant believe that I can't eat with the. This is such a huge change in our lives and i hope soon i can look back and say wow that was the best decision i ever made. You are not alone in feeling what you feel. I hope it does get better soon for you and hope you find good things to puree.

[stamour1 22]

I'm wondering when this gets better I know it's going to but i don know if I'm strong enough all I wanna do is cry I'm miserable I hate this I love that I have lost weight but I want to be able to sit down with my family and eat a meal. Laugh and have fun like we used to. I feel like i have lost my best friend Maybe it's just my hormones out of wack because I am losing weight maybe buyers remorse idk. I know it gets better. Maybe it's time to go to a support group. Yesterday was the first day I hit my liquid goal 64 but today I have barely passed 20 ozs. I'm scared wondering what have I done

I think thats alot of peoples problems we find comfort in food i know for sure i do u can do this!!!!it will pass and u will be glad u did this and it will make u a stronger person good luck.

[stamour1 22]

I'm sorry to complain I know everyone else is so happy about getting sleeved and I am happy I'm just a Debbie downer today.

thats what this is here for dont feel bad there so many emotions ....

[JustSayMoe 163]

Support groups as Don mentioned are an absolute must. Outside of that, just take each day at a time. Things will get better! Your body is still healing. It will be healing for quite some time. I was told after 6 weeks to eat anything I could tolerate (within reason of course). To this day, there are lots of things I stay away from. Not because I can't eat them, but because I don't need the crap I used to eat.

Focus on hitting the goals of Water, Protein, and activity that your doctor has. It will help you heal. It will make you stronger.

I don't regret my choice to have surgery for a second. That scale keeps me happy :-)

[Taradawn15 148]

For me, the first 6 weeks where very hard. After that it seemed like every week got easier and easier. However I didn't feel really normal and begin enjoying my kitchen and meals again until about 6 months out. Now at 9 months out I am in love with my kitchen again as I love to cook and play around in the kitchen. I still have bad days but they are few and far between. Just keep moving forward and it will get better. Good luck in your journey!

[need2bthin! 235]

I completely understand where you are coming from! I am there at just 2 weeks out. Sometimes I get so hungry but I'm afraid to damage my stomach and I can't handle most puréed. Granted I lost 17lbs in 5 days ( I didn't start losing till one week post-op) and I'm super happy about it but I'm like you I mourn food. But I also know like anything else in life it will get better and I will learn to adapt to my situation. I hope things get easier for you

[Jamie Greatone Jamison 19]

I am five days post-op and so ready to move on from liquids only. I am watching my girlfriend and my daughter eat regular food and its very hard. I know its just head hunger, but I still want to eat even normal healthy food like grilled chicken and vegetables. I CANNOT wait until I get to pureed/soft foods. Just to have different textures and tastes. So tired of broth and sweet Protein shakes.....

[Ashlee K 46]

So first of all thank u guys for the up lifting words there were cherished. You guys really know what I'm going through and how to make it better. I think I figured out why I was so emotional the other. I ended up in the ER yesterday for severe dehydration. It was starting to mess with my head a little. They gave me fluids and I feel so much better. I feel like a whole new person. I think the dehydration was messing with my emotions. Thank you all so much. Drink drink drink

[Jen35 283]

I think it's normal to go through this phase. I hated the first week or two, but each week got better. I'm at 9 weeks now and feel pretty normal. I can eat just about anything (but only a little bit). I go out to eat and I enjoy food. Give it time - it will get better. And YES make sure you stay hydrated. Right now focus on Water even if you have to choose that over food.