losing friends

[lmh011 0]

It seems I have lost a bunch of friends since having surgery.... do you think it is related to it? I have not changed in personality just in appearance... and all the friends that I have lost or am losing are pretty and skinnier than me? Do you guys think it relates? and has this happened to you since the band?

[piercedqt78 658]

I don't want to sound rude, but maybe they were using your size to feel better about themselves? I had a friend that only hung around with fat girls, she always had to be the thinnest, prettiest, best dressed. When I started losing weight she drifted away. I bumped into her recently and she commented that I was much thinner than her. I invited her to lunch and she declined, saying she wasn't "fixed-up" enough. (we were at the post office) In reality I was well dressed and thinner than her. I didn't make her feel like she was the prettiest, or getting the most attention so she didn't want to go. It's sad that she needs to feel that way, but it's true, I'm not the only one to see it with her either. ~Mandy

[TracyV 0]

My sister, who has always been considered prettier and thinner than me has been acting strangely around me...complaining about being fat, not wanting to go out...I have always been bigger than her, but she has always been more insecure...and I think she is afraid I will look better than her, and she wont get all the attention anymore//(I have always been outgoing, but the "chubby" one)..whatever...its about me now...:clap2:

[lmh011 0]

yeah well i was thinking this too! They have always told me how pretty I was in the face... and they would halfheartedly support weight loss attempts and they were very suporting of the band suprisinglybut after i lost like 30 pounds they ran off

[Chickie 15]

I have has this happen. When I was at my highest weight I had a group of friends I was tight with. They were all far thinner than me, but not skinny.

They were thrilled for me when I started losing, sort of ho-hum when I got to their weight, and now that I am much thinner than they are, they only talk to me if they have to (although they were happy to pick through the clothes that no longer fit me)

I was their token "fat friend" and when I no longer fit that role, there was no place for me in that circle. I have since made a lot of new friends, and renewed old friendships. I believe some things are for the best.

[TracyV 0]

yeah, the token fat friend..always hated that label..I never HEARD anyone say it, but I am sure it WAS said..