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I am 2 weeks and change post op. I am on vaca at the beach with the fam. Came here on day 10. I have a hubby a 5yo and a 2yo. To say I am exhausted is the under statement of the year. I have participated in going to the beach and or pool every day plus the boardwalk almost every night. My husband says I am miserable and unhappy and nothing he does can please me. I have been more quiet than usual and probably cranky at times but I just had major surgery!!!!! I'm so pi$$ed at him right now! Sorry just needs to vent!

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Girl, we hear you. This was major surgery and you deserve some rest. Can you take any time for yourself? Does the hotel have babysitters or a kids' club? Good luck!

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Two weeks out. Wow that was incredibly brave of you. I am to take my daughter to a concert 4 weeks after surgery and am worrying about that. So proud of you that you took that on. Sometimes husbands can be such asses. I have one for 25 years and i am preparing myself for his annoying comments as well. hang in there - be proud and try to rest a bit

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Wow brave (or crazy) is right lol I think I would have changed one of the events to a later date..but your there now. Dont run yourself down to much or your not going to heal properly or worse end up back in hospital. Sorry your not getting the support or rest you should be getting

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I'm a nurse at a very large hospital so our vacations are picked a year in advanced. I was planning on having sx in June but scheduling conflicts and hurricane Sandy ruined that (long story). I would have had to wait until September to have sx if I didn't have it July 3 due to once again, scheduling and doctors vacations. We are staying at a beach house so it's low key and relaxing for the most part. I'm ok with going to the beach and boardwalk. I stayed home one day due to be being too tired. My hubby is just being a jackass bc I'm not my usual self. Gee I wonder why. So brave maybe, crazy definitely, but now pissed yes!

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Dont blame you for being pissed...just think next vacation he wont be able to keep up with the new you!: )

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I'm a nurse at a very large hospital so our vacations are picked a year in advanced. I was planning on having sx in June but scheduling conflicts and hurricane Sandy ruined that (long story). I would have had to wait until September to have sx if I didn't have it July 3 due to once again, scheduling and doctors vacations. We are staying at a beach house so it's low key and relaxing for the most part. I'm ok with going to the beach and boardwalk. I stayed home one day due to be being too tired. My hubby is just being a jackass bc I'm not my usual self. Gee I wonder why. So brave maybe, crazy definitely, but now pissed yes!

I don't blame you at all for being upset! I think sometimes our partners just don't understand, especially since we *look pretty normal by the time we are a couple of weeks post-op.

The important thing here is to continue to ask for what you need. If it's rest or more help with the little ones (OMG, just having a 2 year old is exhausting...or least mine was!), it's ok to ask for it. And don't let him put something on you that doesn't actually belong to you. Just because you are quiet or tired doesn't mean you're miserable or unhappy.

I would just remind him, when you are both calm, that you are still recovering and are trying to keep up but need some help and understanding. Also, feel free to vent here! :)

I hope you are able to get some rest and that your hubby can be a little more understanding for the rest of vacation.

~Kat

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