Feeling lots of emotions

[Dawners 0]

I'm scheduled for my sleeve on 8/5 and just went to my pre-op class this morning. I've been waking up every day feeling nausious because of the upcoming event. I'm relieved to have found out that I will not have a catheter or drain so 2 less worries lol. But I'm also worried about recovery because I have 2 small kids one being ADHD and my husband finds it hard to handle him...I hope it works out....

[msreaina 133]

It will all workout for you. You do not need to stress with you surgery coming near. Since this is a minimum invasive procedure you will not be down long. Ask your husband to step up and take charge until you get better. He has to be there for you in this time of need. Good luck with your procedure.

[TwinsMama 483]

Don't stress, the last thing you want to do is raise your blood pressure and get sent home without surgery. I can tell you, even with complications, I was still able to do basic things (slowly and carefully) after 1.5 weeks. Of course everyone is different.

Since your hubby stresses handling your child, can you line up another support system? If you have friends or family that can come and give him a break for a few hours each day the first week or 2 that would be great. Also, you and hubby prepare meals and freeze them ahead of time.

The more you can do to be prepared the better off you'll be when the day gets here.

[Ballermom 803]

Relax. Don't let your fears get out of control. Your husband may step up to the plate and come through for you in ways you have not planned, yet. I would too line up a second support person so he can be free the First week for you. Prepare meals ahead for the family. He has to step up this time. Don't feel guilty and fearful about improving your health. It will work out just fine.

Good luck

[My3lovies 25]

Don't worry I also have 2 small children ages 7 & 2 and my husband is self employed so when he misses work he doesn't get paid so I thought I would be down and out for a while but it wasn't so I had my surgery on a Wednesday came home Friday evening and my husband was back to work Monday and I was home with my 2 kids alone and doing ok....you know cooking dishes some bare minimal stuff first few days but fine with them and husband helped with bath and extra chores in evening. I would have never thought this esp first 2 days in the hospital and how I felt I thought I would be down and out for weeks but you get better quick! I am currently 1 week post-op and doing good! Best of luck to you and your family!

[dustin551 84]

My surgery date is the same day (8/5). Take it one day at a time. You need to expect that there are going to be struggles you'll face between now and early September (when you've recovered a little), but just remember that you, your husband, and kids will still be there when it is all over. Just hang in there, and don't talk yourself out of it

[Dawners 0]

Thanks guys! While there seems to be many challenges I know this is the right decision as I want to be healthy for my family and be around for my kids for a long time. On another note, I do need to point out that my hubby is a wonderful daddy but our son has many challenges and its difficult parenting him sometimes. I just worry that my hubby will go crazy lol!

[TwinsMama 483]

Thanks guys! While there seems to be many challenges I know this is the right decision as I want to be healthy for my family and be around for my kids for a long time. On another note, I do need to point out that my hubby is a wonderful daddy but our son has many challenges and its difficult parenting him sometimes. I just worry that my hubby will go crazy lol!

Oh we don't doubt he's a good hubby/Dad. All we're saying is that just as Moms go crazy and need extra help sometimes, Dads do too. He may go crazy and that's fine for a bit. Right now you can only worry about your health and well being. Better to do that now so that you'll recover faster/better.

Once you're over the initial hump, you'll both be able to look back and breathe a sigh of relief.

[Writergirl 230]

Maybe there's a little something he's been putting off getting for himself, or something special he'd like to do? Perhaps you could wrap it up (or write it as a promise in a card) and give it to him the night before your surgery. Tell him you know the next week is going to be rough for both of you, his support means the world to you, and you just wanted to make sure he knows it's not all about you,even if it feels that way for a bit. Maybe that will give him the little bit extra he needs to get through it.