marriage ending

[norabez 2]

Ever since I've started this journey in April, I've become someone else. I've never been so self conscious or moody in my life. This in turn had caused so many tears, fights, and the talk of divorce. We have two young children and I don't want the growing up in a broken home. I've suggested counseling but he doesn't believe in it. Sex is emotionless let alone me not wanting him to touch me because I feel that I'm so disgusting in my weight.

Help.

[kimbernada 190]

Would counseling for YOU help? It might help to figure out why you've been so moody, etc., and help you to work on body image issues. It could be that if seeing a counselor works for you, then perhaps your husband will see the value as well.

I know I sure didn't feel like being romantic at my highest weight.

[hopingtolose2013 81]

Zoloft! Get on it!

[antinette 19]

I do not agree with you being medicated. Sometimes it is not really not you at all. Sometimes its that now you are taking time out for YOU and you may be with a selfish spouse who makes you feel moody cause in all he is scared that once you loose the weight you will see what he really is and that your marriage has been in the craps all along and we just don't want to see it cause our self esteem is so low!

[kbierbaum 22]

I came across your post and wanted to offer my thoughts. I am a therapist and getting the sleeve done as well, so I feel like I might be able to speak to your issue. The journey that we take is life changing, no doubt. While on this journey, issues may surface that feel like they are coming out of nowhere. I strongly recommend that you seek professional assistance to address new attitudes, new relationships, and the process of "grieving" our old relationships with others and our old selves. Whatever plan of care your therapist offers you, including talk therapy and medication, I urge you to consider if it's right for you. Please keep in mind that these forums can be so helpful and supportive, however, the best feedback usually comes from a professional who has taken the time to get to know you!

[jensjoy28 351]

I agree with what others have said, and I just wanted to add two things: many people experience hormonal fluctuations tied with rapid weight loss...and, sometimes the emotions you are feeling are because you are no longer "anesthetizing" with food...counseling for you (at a minimum) and hopefully couples counseling as well would be great!

Good luck :-)