gain goal regain How was your 5:2 day today?

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

There is a thread called bread and biscuits. Someone 6 weeks out has been cleared to have bread and wants to have biscuits but is worried about pain.

I really do understand her but I want to scream...DON'T DO IT! That honeymoon period..cherish and nurse it! Maybe I

Edited February 8, 2015 by CowgirlJane

[Georgia 2,908]

Glad to hear all is well in the NW and CA at least where Yall are. Sheryl, I agree! Use that honeymoon period for all its worth!!!!! I remember when I couldn't eat bread/biscuits. ????. Those were the good old days. LOL

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

No, my infection is not gone. I am so depressed. I cry all the time. I have had an infection since the beginning of Nov.

tomorrow I go in and see my nurse practitioner. If I had a dr. it would help enormously . She is going to refer me to a infection specialist. My daughter the nurse wants to see if she can refer me for a cat scan , I am not sure if that is in the scope of her capabilities, but the doctor who runs the clinic is. He is the one that called me when I was septic. Either way, I am not going back to my surgeon who does nothing

My weight is the same 142-143. I just can't diet right now. I can make sure I'm not eating too much junk,but I can't limit other stuff. I am just to depressed.

I'm glad we have each other. There is sure a mix of us who gained back our 5:2 weight, but at least all of us are trying. That's all we can do. And best of all, we have each other.

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

Denise, I am so sorry you are still going through this...quite an ordeal. I can only imagine how awful you feel...but don't ever think weighing 143 is bad! I am only 2" taller than you, weigh upper 150s and I swear get more compliments at this weight than thinner. I am sure you look fabulous, focus on healing!!!

And I agree, enough of this crap-time to get the infection solved! Hang in there.

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

I went to the local bariatric pal support meeting. There were 6 ladies..all preop or complete newbies. I liked them all except an elderly bypass patient who was insufferable. You know...8 weeks out,lost 40# so know EVERYTHING. I know I am insufferable at times but this was just too much. I was hoping it was more of a mix of experience, but this group was talking Protein Powder basics. The worst part... we started at 3 and I needed to leave at 3:40.. much of that first 40 minutes was ranting and calling the police on someone who parked in the handicap space.

On my way out, a young lady, must be near 375-400#, with a failed band asked for my number...she wants to talk and learn and that wasn't happening at the meeting for sure. My heart goes out to her...She is articulate,smart, pretty, well groomed and cannot figure out how she got so huge after WLS. I can relate.. damn lapband! She is the kind of person that I feel so much compassion for, like the sky is the limit. You don't have to get skinny..if she could drop 200# she'd still be overweight but I bet a knock out - both looks wise and force of personality!

This is my second ever WLS support group and a reminder why I don't go to them...sigh

[feedyoureye 3,087]

So sorry to hear your infection is still there.... time to get serious for sure.... and please do not worry about your weight.... put it 2nd in line after your health... Im sure you look great! Sheryl, I hear you about the meeting... its like a bunch of babies without a clue about the future..... and that gal with the band.... really, you were there for each other... that connection is the reason that meeting was worth going to. I went to one meeting early on, after I was pretty much at goal... I was the only sleeve.... all rny and bands... no one could relate.

I am on a bird watching field trip right now... so much fun... saw my first bald eagle.... so cool. Take care all!

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

I think I am officially declaring 5:2 dead for me. I am down a few pounds so it is not that but I believe my theory that the low cal days contribute to mood issues and I love being med free and little anxiety. So what has been working is having 3 "light" days a week -certainly more than 500 calories. 3 normal days and one high carb day. I also try to have a true overnight fast...don't eat late and defer Breakfast. I moved almost a ton of hay on Friday, one 65# bale at a time. It was hard, but I did it. Back to kickboxing.

I decided I am happier weighing 157 (my weight this am) while feeling healthy, strong and fairly happy than shooting for 140# at the cost of any of that. I am going to keep whittling down so I have a comfortable buffer but the whole universe is telling me to just get over it because I haven't gone through all this to simply carry angst over some effing number that nobody seems to think I am better with.

I saw my primary care doc last week and she brought up how ill I was last spring (which is how I got to 140) and to be vigilant to prevent that from happening again. It really made me reflect on what's important.

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

I should mention that while I should not care about other people's opinion I really do. Problem is that I don't 100% trust my own view of me. So, my friends have been telling me (even super skinny Shawn who dresses to hide her skinniness) that I look better at this weight.

Well, I decided to pick up dating again; although at times I wonder why i bother. I met someone I really like though - hot guy, my age, we had fun together out one evening. Have no idea if we will keep going out - but he said something to me that kinda stuck. He has no idea my history of obesity - nothing - we just met. He told me what an incredible body I have - his last girlfriend was in her low 30s so this is not a "for your age" comment. Anyway, I realize there was some flattery going on but it added to the ideas I already have going on which is what exactly am I trying to do here?

What I do need to do is whittle down to the low 150s so i have a bounce range... but i can do that slowly and a less stressfully I hope. It was strange to see the scale dropping as i moved away from trying 5:2. I don't know why.

[Chimera 644]

Sorry you had such a miserable time at that support group meeting - I have only attended the meetings that my surgeon's office hold. I had not gone in a long time due to my new schedule, as well as the topics which were geared more towards early pre and post-ops. I had a great time at the last meeting and I felt re-energized at the last one I attended. My docs office seems to be very interested in those of us who are further and further out from surgery - as we know this is where the rubber meets the road We used to have a few folks from here that attended, (Fiddleman and his wife, Steph, and a few others) but I have not seen those folks in quite a while.

The cookie monster seems to still come around and the poo is still green and blue! I must have the world's slowest GI system of my insides are permanently stained from that Seahawks cupcake frosting - maybe the Patriots tainted it so I will have it forever lol. (JK New England fans).

I am so sorry you are going through such an ordeal with your infection Denise - I hope some relief comes soon, hang in there!

Kim hope you have decent weather for your bird watching trip!

Sheryl, I think you have a great attitude about the weight you are at now - I am always thrying to get to a place where I feel okay with my weight - not sure I ever have had that, even when I was under 120 lbs about a thousand years ago

[Globetrotter 1,340]

This is no doubt an unhealthy mindframe, but... I can't shake the suspicion that any female who is normal/average or smaller, and has never had a genuine obesity problem, like to keep "us" "in our place" and they fear us getting "above our station" ie, Getting Thin. They will make all sorts of claims and false pretenses of concern, even false admiration, just to keep us from achieving equal or higher status. I'm aware that this is toxic thinking and an echo of my painful emotions during my lost decade of obesity but, there it is.

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

I lost more than a decade. I have been obese or overweight the vast majority of my life. Rounding to the nearest 5 years - I would say I have been overweight or obese for about 40 years. It is a big adjustment, and it is still part of me but I am way more than that too. When I was younger and lost weight, I was never good enough (according to me) and that triggered/set me up for a regain - I'd be at goal for about 2 weeks and then just couldn't take it anymore and would begin the regain cycle. I don't feel that way at all anymore. I do have some sadness for the life I didnt get to live as a young woman, but you better believe I am doing everything I can to make the most of things now! Part of that is I genuinely LIKE how I look. In the past i would see that as conceited but I have become aware that I have more self love/body acceptance than many women who were never obese. I don't think I can maintain a weight loss like this without genuinely being pleased with my physical self and physical health.

I am lucky that I get alot of validation, support from pals. I love my friends and they love me. I trust each and every one of them to be loving toward me and not have any other motive. I have more issues with one of my sisters who is sure i am aneorexic (yes, a 155-160# aneorexic is possible in her crazy world view...as she believes everyone needs a generous layer of fat to be healthy and look good)

today, i ran to the costco and there was a man probably about my age who was FOLLOWING me. Finally, after the 3rd time I found him staring at my body/chest I gave him a stern look and he bugged out. I think he was there with his wife.. not sure... but I guess that is another validation...haha.

anyway, I think fit is hot and that's my story and I am sticking with it!

Kelly - the support group in Bothell is organized by a couple of ladies here on bariatric pal. My surgeon's office has them too but i am not sure I am too motivated to go make time for that even though I am sure they would be much better. I have wondered what happened to Fiddleman and his wife. I recall he got discouraged by cross fit and then he seemed to fade away. Hopefully they are both still doing great!

Okay, did you consume those Costco superbowl cubcakes? i was going to buy those for the superbowl party I went to but I tried the free sample and they were terrible I thought. It is freaky you are still noticing "remnants".

I need home updating advice. Anybody here good with that crap? I like the results of a nice updated house, but have decided I have about zero interest in researching/figuring it out how to get from point A to something that looks good. i have a flooring guy coming out later this week, but there is more to be done. I had found someone/all around handyman to hire, but he flaked out on me when I didn't want to date him..... so back to the drawing board.

[coops 1,790]

Denise, sorry to hear that you are still suffering... this has been such a long hard time for you;no wonder you are depressed about it all. Sending you cwtches across the pond.

Sheryl, I am also sorting out my home... I wanted to move but unfortunately we can't afford it at the moment, or for a few years to be exact, so I am stuck here... it is a lovely place to live, but too far away from my parents and friends for my liking. Anyway, I have just decorated my daughter's room and it is looking lovely... just gotta gloss the woodwork. We are off school for a week next week, so I will be concentrating on our living room - got a guy coming Sat to give us an idea how much a multi burner will cost and I've ordered a new sofa.

I love painting and decorating.

On the 5:2 front, no movement on the scales for me... but I had a really hard week last week, so let's hope I feel stronger this week. Things are still tough here but I am trying to stay positive.

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

Finally, I have some plans besides take more antibiotics. I am going to have an MRI tomorrow morning. There is this lump in that spot, and I assume it needs to be drained but who knows what could be in there.

 

Sheryl, I am glad you found someone new to date. I get some sort of enjoyment hearing about your dates, since I'm stuck here in Nowheresville. I like Bill just fine.  I am not in the mood to find someone else even though we are not compatible

There is not one thing that both of us feel the same way about. I hate his music most of all. It's the weirdest music I have ever heard. Finding someone new would take a lot of effort which I have no energy for. Maybe the universe will take pitty on me and I'll meet someone IRL . I would love to  have to tell Bill I met someone that who likes the same things I like. He would be happy for me. He knows this is ridiculous to be with someone who likes nothing you like.

 

I am just going to have to go shopping and buy some new tops. My tops are all tight fitting from 10 lbs ago. I would really hate to get rid of my clothes but I need some loose fitting tops.

 

I've been trying to redo my house too. Actually, I've never done anything since I moved in 3 years ago, other than paint. I have no idea how to decorate. I bought a few paintings but the one long wall looks kind of funny cause the wall is so big. I don't know if you're supposed to put other things next to paintings. A painting to fit that wall would be so expensive.

[UK Cathy 977]

Denise I'm pleased that something is in place to try and help you, this has been going on so long for you that it must be getting you down, especially as it is a result of an op that was to help you. We are here for you whether up or down (that includes both mood and weight). Go and buy yourself a couple of nice tops that fit well and if looking at the size increase is upsetting then cut out the labels.

Sheryl, you seem to have got yourself in a good place regarding your size and weight and that is really good, hand on heart I bet that is where we all want to be, not necessarily a chart size (BMI) but a size where we like and appreciate ourselves. You have been on a journey to get there both up and down (scale) and it is nice to hear your contentment.

My official weigh in day is tomorrow but so far this week no move. I have realised though that I'm not consuming as much Water as I was so I need to try and remedy this. Also my Vitamin regime has tailed off and I really do need to rectify this as I feel it is having an effect on my skin.

Sheryl we have decorated as we moved and we have just kept it plain in the bedrooms (feature wall and rest of walls on beige spectrum, feature wall is determined by furniture in room), in the lounge we have used a mixture of wallpaper and paint using the papered wall to bring an elongated room in so as to make it cosy. The bathrooms are luxurious with amazing tiles, kitchen very clean simple lines and the hallway/stairs is bold and different. My husband is really good with colours so he leads the way but I must admit in this house I have stepped out of my comfort zone and offered some opinion. I would never have the confidence though to offer advice to others.

Birdwatching sounds amazing especially to see a bald eagle, must admit I just take for granted the birds around me and I couldn't really name them.

It's nice to see more people dropping in and posting, love to all.

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

Yes, i am in a good space as far as body acceptance goes. I think i should get pictures now even though I don't really look different now I do think it is affirming to see it in photos, don't you?

I am curious what you all think of the big increase in "articles" posted to this website. There are a few members/bloggers who have been added to the magazine staff. I have mixed feelings about this - but so far - none of them have been useful to me. Even the ones that appear to be geared at long term ... I am trying to figure out why they aren't hitting the mark with me. Any of you read them?

My home updating is more along the lines of.... new flooring for main area, updating light fixtures, new kitchen countertops, new gas range/micro, removing a wall and adding a skylight.

where I am stuck are the materials. I am trying to stay on a budget, do something that looks updated and comfortable, that will be an improvement not a detriment when I sell. I live on a farm, but everyone was advising me to avoid practical materials but get what sells (I won't be here more than 5 more years) - you know hardwood floors and granite countertops. Yesterday I talked to a floor installer who told me he is putting laminate floorings in multi million dollar homes as alot of people just want easy. If i go with the product he is suggesting, it will save about six grand over any decent hardwood floor. I had a low cost granite countertop guy figured out, but the guy bailed on me so i don't have a lead on that anymore.

I have a plan for the appliances, wall removal and skylight. I am stuck on the cost for flooring and countertops.

I want to get this DONE before summer which means I need to start soon!

kickboxing last night went great but I hadn't eaten enough carbs and nearly crashed halfway through. Part of it is that when I don't share a punching stand, I go at it continually. when you have a partner, it isn't nearly as intense as you get short rests awaiting your turn. Anyway, I slept good last night and my knee is holding up well! yeah!

Cathy - remind me again - what is the miracle knee product?