gain goal regain How was your 5:2 day today?

[Georgia 2,908]

Sounds like her life is upside down too! Break-ups are a *****! He needs to handle this... and I think you should give him some time to do that... If he can't get through this, then you need to know (see him in action). He is not "yours" yet... He needs to agree to that first, and that might take some time. (NOT two years or anything crazy, but really, he just found out you like him "that way"...)

^^^^^sound advice. Unless he can walk away from her without guilt he's always gonna be looking back!!!

[Georgia 2,908]

Here is a mayo clinic study on carbs and dementia.... not as crazy extreem as the former article... http://newsnetwork.mayoclinic.org/discussion/eating-lots-of-carbs-sugar-may-raise-risk-of-cognitive-impairment-mayo-clinic-study-finds High-carb diet is linked to early Alzheimer's Janice Lloyd, USA TODAY1:55 p.m. EDT October 17, 2012 (Photo: Katye Martens, USA TODAY) STORY HIGHLIGHTS Balanced diet of Protein, fat and carbs is best Carbs might be linked to buidup of toxic Proteins in brain Diet might be a way to prevent Alzheimer's from starting SHARE 3765CONNECT

Whew! I feel some better. LOL we have ten years. (Not really)

ROCHESTER, Minn. — People 70 and older who eat food high in carbohydrates have nearly four times the risk of developing mild cognitive impairment, and the danger also rises with a diet heavy in sugar, Mayo Clinic

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

Well, I ordered on the corset on the 16th... just seems like it has been longer...ha. I don't think i got a tracking number though.

[Georgia 2,908]

Denise, I agree with what Kim said. Give him space and time to figure it out. He might really like having 2 women fighting over him. If he's interested in you like that then you deserve respect. Keep us posted. Sheryl, thinking of you. Yes, sometimes it takes everything in you just to get up and get through the day. Wanda, so glad you joined Curves. Did you work out when you joined or just sign up? I'm anxious to hear what you thought of the work out. Fasting today. I want to eat but I won't. Having a hard time today. I finally heard from my friend that is on drugs. She's not doing well. I don't know how to deal with this because this is the first person in my life that I am really close to that has had a drug problem. We actually met in Mexico and had our surgeries on the same day. We instantly clicked and have been close ever since. We think of each other as sisters. Shortly after surgery, she came here and stayed over a month to detox from pot. She's had a rough life and has done other drugs but at that time it was just pot. She had been clean and doing great for over 2 years and then started up again. I found this out because I had not heard from her, we always would txt every day. I knew she had started again, I could just feel it, but I drove to Texas and surprised her after work one day. We talked and it all came out, this time it was pot and speed. This was in November. While we were there she threw away all her drug stuff, said she wanted to stop. I had to come home and we talked every day again until before xmas. When communication stopped I knew she was doing it again. Finally heard from her yesterday and she confirmed what I knew was true. I don't know how to deal with all of this. I know in my mind that the drugs take over, but my heart hurts. I love her and it kills me to see this and not be able to do anything about it. I know I can't change her. I just wish I could help her somehow.

Man, I hate to hear this, Sarah! I live in fear everyday of that "phone call" or as you say, the"silence", when you know! What a friend you are! How long a drive for you to Texas? Friends that STICK. I HIGHLY recommend Teen Challenge. And the Teen is a misnomer. The ONLY rehab that has been successful for my son and it's basically free if she has the ability to so something like this. Corey had to hit rock bottom and then some. We had spent many $$ on expensive rehabs and hospitalization but TeenChallenge approach worked. It is a year long program though.

Edited January 24, 2014 by Georgia

[Georgia 2,908]

I talked to the head of personal training at the gym about my concerns 1. joint - knee/hips and 2. excess sweeling in ab area which is caused by doing too much even though i am 3 months post plastics. my waist measures about 1-2" larger then it did before i started at the gym and I haven't gained weight. The personal trainer "manager" remembered me...haha.... he remembered my looks, isn't that funny? He was there during my last workout and agreed that I was on a pretty high intensity program. It is because the easy stuff is easy for me - i am fit. Doesn't change the fact that they are about to kill me with the current workout approach. anyway, he is going to review my file and help create a safer workout. I need to take another week off - still do other workouts but give a chance for everything to settle down and we go from there. Of course my concern is they will give me something that doesn't build me stronger, but I have to keep the faith that I will find a nice middle ground. Personally, I think they should give me a free session or something as a thank you for being a good client and calmly explaining the situations careful of so, including how much I LIKE my trainer but rather that I fear he lacks the experience and maturity to understand that I need to be treated like someone recoverying. I am not sure, but I think my young trainer sees me as a MILF...LOL... the risk of plastics is you look better then your underlying structure really is. I don't think he sees me as a middle age lady with no cartilidge left and even though i keep telling him that....he just doesn't seem to believe me.

Yep, sometimes the younguns KNOW more than us and kinda condescend to you! Ha! YOU know your body and overall strength right now. It seems really early to me to do this type strenuous regime, doesn't it? I'd be very careful for yourself!

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

Mental health update - a few weeks ago I was really worried I was losing it. I would wake up each day feeling like a caged lion pacing his enclosure. I had so much angst - I couldn't exercise my way out of it, couldn't talk to people out of it, couldn't even drink my way out of it (okay, didn't try that very hard, but you know what I mean - just no relief). I had one apppointment with a therapist who can prescribe meds. She used some words to describe my situation that was like a fresh perspective - you know when you only have an hour to boil down everything it tends to frame the essentials. It was an eye opener. Then she came up a plan that is based around me getting sleep first and using anxiety meds very limited way to get work done. Part of the problem was my anxiety and nervous energy was preventing me from getting any paid work done which was causing me even MORE anxiety. I was genuinely getting worried about the impact on my career and reputation at work.

It really helped that I had kept a log and could spot the patterns.

I cannot begin to say what a difference getting enough sleep has made. I am not "cured" but I am functioning again. I am more optimistic. I am happily singing along on the radio again. I am upset about what is going on with my EX, but I am able to function. I do often have to take half a xanax when I get choked up about something - ie can't focus at work, but then am able to push through. But, it isn't every day and I am getting things done. We agreed to a 6 week trial period and i am only into it just under 2 weeks and see significant progress. The goal is that I no longer use the xanax and return to being productive without the wind up and anxiety.

[UK Cathy 977]

Sheryl- I'm a great believer in 'sleep is a great cure' - without it we really don't function right and when we are so tired it is easy for things to overwhelm us. So glad that you seem to have it under control and that you feel much happier in yourself.

Sarah you are a true friend to your friend and I hope that she finds a path/program that leads her to good health.

Good fast yesterday and I did see 170 this morning but I am not claiming it until I see it again tomorrow. I just had a NSVS - I ran on the elliptical for 3 miles, most I have done previously is 2 miles. That might not be far to some but for me it was like scaling a mountain and I reached the summit!

[feedyoureye 3,087]

Here is a mayo clinic study on carbs and dementia.... not as crazy extreem as the former article... http://newsnetwork.mayoclinic.org/discussion/eating-lots-of-carbs-sugar-may-raise-risk-of-cognitive-impairment-mayo-clinic-study-finds High-carb diet is linked to early Alzheimer's Janice Lloyd, USA TODAY1:55 p.m. EDT October 17, 2012 (Photo: Katye Martens, USA TODAY) STORY HIGHLIGHTS Balanced diet of Protein, fat and carbs is best Carbs might be linked to buidup of toxic Proteins in brain Diet might be a way to prevent Alzheimer's from starting SHARE 3765CONNECT

Whew! I feel some better. LOL we have ten years. (Not really)

ROCHESTER, Minn. — People 70 and older who eat food high in carbohydrates have nearly four times the risk of developing mild cognitive impairment, and the danger also rises with a diet heavy in sugar, Mayo Clinic

I know, not good. But it does say a well rounded diet including carbs is best. Just not carb levels like some of us have done in the past...and added fats are good too...

Well, I ordered on the corset on the 16th... just seems like it has been longer...ha. I don't think i got a tracking number though.

I bet you'll get it soon!

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

Can someone direct me to the host forum? I would like to have a thread moved. the thead is Life at or Near Goal. It needs to be moved to the vets forum.

 

I'll have to go figure out which forum it's in, but it would be better in the vets forum.

[feedyoureye 3,087]

I host the Vets forum, the research forum and the General gastric Sleeve Surgery forum.. if its in one of those, I can move it. If it is in one of your forums, you click on the "Forum Management" menu on the top right side of the page, then select move, then select Vetrans Forum. You can find the hosts pages at the bottom of the "general Weight Loss Surgery" Forums page

[feedyoureye 3,087]

Was it started by a vet? We are trying not to post threads not by vets in the vets forum....

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

The thread is called

How are things going for those are are at (or near) goal?

 

 

It was started by me. It's in the Weight Loss-Specific Gastric Sleeve Surgery Support Groups. I could not see the host on the posts anywhere.

 

Is that one you host?

Edited January 25, 2014 by Oregondaisy

[feedyoureye 3,087]

That may be http://www.bariatricpal.com/user/159547-gmanbat/

you can check who hosts where here: http://www.bariatricpal.com/index.php?app=forums&module=extras&section=stats&do=leaders

Edited January 25, 2014 by feedyoureye

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

Thanks so much!

[Ms skinniness 3,003]

Denise, I agree with what Kim said. Give him space and time to figure it out. He might really like having 2 women fighting over him. If he's interested in you like that then you deserve respect. Keep us posted.

 

Sheryl, thinking of you. Yes, sometimes it takes everything in you just to get up and get through the day.

 

Wanda, so glad you joined Curves. Did you work out when you joined or just sign up? I'm anxious to hear what you thought of the work out.

 

Fasting today. I want to eat but I won't. Having a hard time today. I finally heard from my friend that is on drugs. She's not doing well. I don't know how to deal with this because this is the first person in my life that I am really close to that has had a drug problem.

We actually met in Mexico and had our surgeries on the same day. We instantly clicked and have been close ever since. We think of each other as sisters. Shortly after surgery, she came here and stayed over a month to detox from pot. She's had a rough life and has done other drugs but at that time it was just pot. She had been clean and doing great for over 2 years and then started up again. I found this out because I had not heard from her, we always would txt every day. I knew she had started again, I could just feel it,  but I drove to Texas and surprised her after work one day. We talked and it all came out, this time it was pot and speed. This was in November. While we were there she threw away all her drug stuff, said she wanted to stop. I had to come home and we talked every day again until before xmas. When communication stopped I knew she was doing it again.

Finally heard from her yesterday and she confirmed what I knew was true. I don't know how to deal with all of this. I know in my mind that the drugs take over, but my heart hurts. I love her and it kills me to see this and not be able to do anything about it. I know I can't change her. I just wish I could help her somehow.

This so saddens me all the time.... I met up with someone I truly love and she's been doing meth and pot for over 35 years. I imagine it's even worst now because her mom recently passed away. She doesn't think that anybody knows, but her family knows and I know. It's so painful. She has such a good heart but her thinking is so out of wack and things she has put her family though are horrible. There's really nothing I can do to help her, she has to hit bottom first and want to quick. My friend will probably never quit. She's a really beautiful loving person to and when she uses drugs, she disappears also....

Sarah hang in there and be there when she needs help and asks for it.....My son is also just got out of jail for drugs and it is a really difficult time for me. I haven't been on this site and finding myself hiding. I am also emotional eating also.

Edited January 26, 2014 by Ms skinniness