I hope this forum is helpful when I have my surgery

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Cliques? Hmmmm...

Any who.

When you've been around awhile, you start to recognize names/avatars and you will bond with some people and choose to ignore others because your personalities just don't mesh. I personally try to avoid questions by those, who for the most part, seem to want to stir the pot for no discernible reason.

Good luck to you!

[deedadumble 1,033]

I no right I didn't won't no pic for privacy reason cause only me and my husband no about the procedure So thts why I choose not to put a picture but I wish it was a little more supportive tho

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[mwrarr 244]

It's like anything... You get out what you put in. If you're active on the boards, supportive of others, fair in how you treat people, etc, that's what you can expect back.

I'm post-op & haven't been very active sine my 1st week home after surgery. I was very active in the 6 months before my surgery but came here to whine one day, & god forbid... So I just stayed away for a while. Overall, there's a ton of info & nice people here. But the vets definitely can be a bit touchy.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

It's like anything... You get out what you put in. If you're active on the boards, supportive of others, fair in how you treat people, etc, that's what you can expect back.

I'm post-op & haven't been very active sine my 1st week home after surgery. I was very active in the 6 months before my surgery but came here to whine one day, & god forbid... So I just stayed away for a while. Overall, there's a ton of info & nice people here. But the vets definitely can be a bit touchy.

Yup. To add to it, if you talk to people the way you want to be talked to, you are more likely to get a variety of responses.

If someone gets upset about the feedback they get because it isn't what they want to hear, if they begin a thread in an accusatory or argumentative way, if they demand answers or argue back with everyone, it's human nature to avoid them.

I am not a "vet" by any stretch of the imagination and I find it offensive that they are repeatedly insulted in this topic. Without the experience of those who had this surgery before me, I wouldn't be where I am now. I, for one, appreciate those who offer their advice and opinions when they are under no obligation to do so. To me, they are "paying it forward" and I am grateful for their time and knowledge.

I hope that when I am far out enough to be considered a "vet", I am as giving as they are despite the abuse they seem to take. Just sayin!

[Dee White 140]

Yup. To add to it' date=' if you talk to people the way you want to be talked to, you are more likely to get a variety of responses.

If someone gets upset about the feedback they get because it isn't what they want to hear, if they begin a thread in an accusatory or argumentative way, if they demand answers or argue back with everyone, it's human nature to avoid them.

I am not a "vet" by any stretch of the imagination and I find it offensive that they are repeatedly insulted in this topic. Without the experience of those who had this surgery before me, I wouldn't be where I am now. I, for one, appreciate those who offer their advice and opinions when they are under no obligation to do so. To me, they are "paying it forward" and I am grateful for their time and knowledge.

I hope that when I am far out enough to be considered a "vet", I am as giving as they are despite the abuse they seem to take. Just sayin!

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I'm not the type to argue I just ask simple question and get no responce thts all LIFE too short with all the unnecessary things and negative energy

[LipstickLady 25,682]

I'm not the type to argue I just ask simple question and get no responce thts all LIFE too short with all the unnecessary things and negative energy

Didn't say you were.

I do think this thread invoked a bit of that negative energy, though. It's not exactly exuding happy thoughts.

[Aline728 301]

it seem to me tht a few clicks have been forum and other people get answers and some don't I hope I get a Lil bit more support than wht I do now since this will be new too me thanks I advance

I believe everyone into different issues at a moment and don't ser sometimes, I felt this way at first, but I kept reading and postings...sometimes I get a answer sometimes I don't, I post it again if I got to know..:-)

[Aline728 301]

@ Dee...if I dont see a post cause I missed it inbox me a msg, I'm sure to see it...good luck

[deedadumble 1,033]

I'm not the type to argue I just ask simple question and get no responce thts all LIFE too short with all the unnecessary things and negative energy

I looked back at some of your topics and most seem to be just statements, not questions. You'll get a lot more responses with clearly worded questions. Also, personally I tend to skip over topics that are not posted in complete sentences with periods.

[Dee White 140]

I looked back at some of your topics and most seem to be just statements' date=' not questions. You'll get a lot more responses with clearly worded questions. Also, personally I tend to skip over topics that are not posted in complete sentences with periods.[/quote']

ONCE again here it is ur talking bout punctuation mark to each there own Wow see wht I mean but thanks for ur input anyway as long as u understand wht I'm saying or asking thts all tht matter I'm not here to get grades just the understanding of the sleeves thts all

[No game 14,437]

ONCE again here it is ur talking bout punctuation mark to each there own Wow see wht I mean but thanks for ur input anyway as long as u understand wht I'm saying or asking thts all tht matter I'm not here to get grades just the understanding of the sleeves thts all

Curiosity though... Is that shorthand you are writing in? Because I don't quite get some of it.

[No game 14,437]

I no right I didn't won't no pic for privacy reason cause only me and my husband no about the procedure So thts why I choose not to put a picture but I wish it was a little more supportive tho

[Dee White 140]

Curiosity though... Is that shorthand you are writing in? Because I don't quite get some of it.

well if u can't understand it I'm sorry every word spelt correctly So Whts the problem really instead being funny like she said if she don't understand bypass smh

[anniemay 150]

I also find this site to have very strong cliques. I understand people form bonds but in many threads its the "bonded" ones that come across very strongly and tend to drown others out. Now that I am post op I tend to read occasionally but don't post often.

[Wags 549]

well if u can't understand it I'm sorry every word spelt correctly So Whts the problem really instead being funny like she said if she don't understand bypass smh

Hi Dee. I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I don't understand all that you are writing either because of your word abbreviations. What does smh mean? I have seen that many times, not just on your post.