Has Anyone Managed To Keep Surgery Completely Private?

[bettyboo 18]

I wonder if there is anyone who has ever kept the surgery completely private and told no one (except spouse). Is it ever possible to keep it a secret?

I know people have different opinions on whether or not you should - and I've seen great threads on this here and would rather not debate that right now.

Just wondering if anyone has kept it their business and told no one or very, very few people.

Thanks!

[thinathart 197]

Yes, just my hubby and BFF for 35 yrs know. No family members, other friends, co-workers.

[Sassygirl06 962]

I only told my husband and oldest daughter. My mother n law figured it out...but that's because I came over to eat while I was still in recovery, and figuring everything out...and I had to run to the bathroom to throw up. Nobody else knows, still, two years out. Everyone always asks how I lost my weight...which I tell them a low calorie high Protein diet...lots of exercise. I was a slower loser, so that helped as well. I think people expect that after someone gets wls that they just instantly lose weight overnight. So when you lose slower they are more apt to believe you did it without any help. Good luck!

[newat52 1,613]

My husband and one of our sons know. That's it. It's nobody's business.

[Jeanie S 84]

Great question. My surgery is Aug 8th and only my spouse, parents & children know. I'm hoping to keep it that way.

[bksexymama 15]

Only my husband knows I'm having surgery. I don't want to tell no one else and it's really know ones business what I'm doing.

[Ballermom 803]

I wanted it to be a secret but i told a close family member/ a parent. They texted the rest of my family cousins uncles etc. With my secret. I found out. I was angry to say the least. It wasn't everyones business. So, i found out that some people will share their fears and concern for you with other family members. This was my experience. You have to decide how you want to handle your surgery details. If I have another surgery like TT I would not feel a need to get permission from anyone other than telling my spouse. Lesson Learned.

Good luck

[Georgia 2,908]

Yeah, I managed for about a month! Ha! Only my husband and daughter (well, bestie too) knew. But my other childhood friend flat out asked me after going to lunch one day since I could only eat about a spoonful. When I got a couple months out, I quit worrying about it. When people would ask how I was losing, I'd say "Portion control!" Which IS true. Good luck, All! 3 years out - and 100 pounds lighter. You're gonna love it!

[abranewme 98]

I told my hubby, step son and one of my closest friends. I did not tell my stepdaughter who doesn't live with us. We don't get along and she will be über jealous when I'm thin.

[DonRodolfo 1,416]

I wonder if there is anyone who has ever kept the surgery completely private and told no one (except spouse). Is it ever possible to keep it a secret?

I know people have different opinions on whether or not you should - and I've seen great threads on this here and would rather not debate that right now.

Just wondering if anyone has kept it their business and told no one or very, very few people.

Thanks!

I started out wanting to tell no one - I learned who the bigmouths were in my life very quickly!

Fortunately, everyone that has found out has been really supportive.

[UK Cathy 977]

Husband, sons and prayer group know no one else. I made a big deal of being on a new diet pre-op and work colleagues were ok with this. I'm not a real fast loser (82lb in 1 yr) so no one has really questioned it. People see I eat differently, small plate with mainly Protein and that I now exercise.

[marfar7 1,533]

I wonder if there is anyone who has ever kept the surgery completely private and told no one (except spouse). Is it ever possible to keep it a secret?

I know people have different opinions on whether or not you should - and I've seen great threads on this here and would rather not debate that right now.

Just wondering if anyone has kept it their business and told no one or very, very few people.

Thanks!

No answer here from me. I just wanted to ask you if y've ever been told you look alot like Melissa McCarthy? In your profile pic I thought it was her for a minute.

If you've never heard it, you have now!

[Georgia 2,908]

Husband' date=' sons and prayer group know no one else. I made a big deal of being on a new diet pre-op and work colleagues were ok with this. I'm not a real fast loser (82lb in 1 yr) so no one has really questioned it. People see I eat differently, small plate with mainly Protein and that I now exercise.[/quote']

You're NOT a fast loser? 82 lbs in a year is pretty good, I think!!

[PGee 318]

I am still pre-op.....but I've told my hubby & one sibling who were both threatened with death if they uttered even a single word about it LOL......

[dfeickert25 35]

Yes I haven't told my dad since he would just try and talk me out of it