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I also still suffer from remorse. I been going thru some depression episodes. Where I tell myself if I did the right think? I'm at 3weeks post op today lost 23 lbs my blood pressure is back to normal. But I can't shake this depression exposed help

At three weeks I was miserable. At six weeks I was feeling better. At ten weeks now and I feel MUCH better. Still miss eating a normal meal. But, my biggest complaint now is hiccups and some Constipation. At three weeks I had MANY complaints including nausea weakness stomach pain etc.

IT DOES GET BETTER. Hang in there :)

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What I notice is the veterans here don't say they have any remorse other than not doing this sooner. All the comments about being depressed or having second thoughts are coming from those of us who are newly sleeved. Just a thought.

Not true at all. I mentioned that at that early in the process, I stressed about what I perceived to be my lack of weight loss (23lbs at my first appt). I also had some buyers remorse and think a lot of us did. However, I got over it as I lost more weight and the bad symptoms dissipated ( severe intestinal distress, gas pains, etc.) .

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I am almost 4 months out and haven't had any 2nd thoughts. Honestly if I don't lose another pound, the mental health benefits of not having constant hunger, getting full really fast, and just generally feeling less stressed/more in control about all aspects of food have made it worth it for me. The weight loss is of course awesome, but I didn't realized how much food stress I was carrying around into all aspects of my life until it was lessened.

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I mean now. Initially some feel like crap and its hard to be positive.

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I am 9 weeks out and have lost nearly 40 pounds. No regrets about the surgery -- best decision I ever made!

I am mourning my beautiful clothes, though. As an overweight, professional consultant, I have always spent way too much on clothes, and always put together beautiful outfits designed to camouflage my bulky parts (yeah, like that's gonna work). Some of my suits cost more than $1,000.

I keep cleaning out my closet, and just took another load of too-big clothes to my off-season closet. I tried on my suit pants this morning and they look like clown pants! I've even blown past the suits that were too tight for me earlier this year, that I thought I would wear in transition. Not worth having taken in as it would be a complete reconstruction.

Not really complaining, just whining. Certainly don't want the weight back that is required to wear those clothes.

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I am 9 weeks out and have lost nearly 40 pounds. No regrets about the surgery -- best decision I ever made!

I am mourning my beautiful clothes' date=' though. As an overweight, professional consultant, I have always spent way too much on clothes, and always put together beautiful outfits designed to camouflage my bulky parts (yeah, like that's gonna work). Some of my suits cost more than 1,000.

Not really complaining, just whining. Certainly don't want the weight back that is required to wear those clothes.[/quote']

I have entire professional wardrobes in at least 4 different sizes. All of which I hope will be too big for me by the time this is all over. While I'm losing, I will have to buy new clothes in whatever sizes, as I visit clients weekly so I can't exactly wear sweats.

Really between what i have and will have to spend on new clothes in new sizes, the surgery should pay for itself pretty quick! :-P

I've always kept my bigger sizes before. Wonder if I will be able to just jettison them this time and have faith that I won't be needing them again?

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You won't need them! Keep positive!

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I am 9 weeks out and have lost nearly 40 pounds. No regrets about the surgery -- best decision I ever made!

I am mourning my beautiful clothes' date=' though. As an overweight, professional consultant, I have always spent way too much on clothes, and always put together beautiful outfits designed to camouflage my bulky parts (yeah, like that's gonna work). Some of my suits cost more than 1,000.

I keep cleaning out my closet, and just took another load of too-big clothes to my off-season closet. I tried on my suit pants this morning and they look like clown pants! I've even blown past the suits that were too tight for me earlier this year, that I thought I would wear in transition. Not worth having taken in as it would be a complete reconstruction.

Not really complaining, just whining. Certainly don't want the weight back that is required to wear those clothes.[/quote']

Find a good tailor...might be cheaper than replacing the suits. The tailor can cut and resize the clothes.

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I am 9 weeks out and have lost nearly 40 pounds. No regrets about the surgery -- best decision I ever made!

I am mourning my beautiful clothes' date=' though. As an overweight, professional consultant, I have always spent way too much on clothes, and always put together beautiful outfits designed to camouflage my bulky parts (yeah, like that's gonna work). Some of my suits cost more than 1,000.

I keep cleaning out my closet, and just took another load of too-big clothes to my off-season closet. I tried on my suit pants this morning and they look like clown pants! I've even blown past the suits that were too tight for me earlier this year, that I thought I would wear in transition. Not worth having taken in as it would be a complete reconstruction.

Not really complaining, just whining. Certainly don't want the weight back that is required to wear those clothes.[/quote']

I feel you pain. My wife bought me an entire wardrobe of high end clothing last year prior to surgery. We're talking $200 shirts, $1500 suits, and $300 dollar slacks. It broke my heart not to be able to wear them. I wore them a few times but at 84lbs lighter, I no longer can. When I tried to get away with some of them, my wife told me I looked like I was wearing clothes that belonged to someone else. She also joked that I should stay away from stiff drafts as I might become airborne. Good luck on your journey. We went out yesterday to buy a few articles of clothes and jeans which fit me better.

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Two months out the word that comes to mind is "stunned". I was stunned that I was able to get approved. I was stunned that I got through the months of testing. I was stunned at I really got sleeved. Not a "what did I do" feeling, more like a "I can't believe I actually did this!" Kind of feeling. Talk about a turning point!

Today - I am very content with my choice. I concentrate on tackling today and tomorrow with longer-range goals of longer life, better mobility as the ultimate prize. I WANT to be thinner and healthy. I can give up over-eating, grazing and bad food choices today. I can plan for tomorrow so I have what I need to make the day successful. Today I have lost 30 pounds - and I'm not done yet. No Regrets. Not One.

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