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[Care1175 58]

Hi my name is Carrie. I am new to the sight but have been working on getting a gastric sleeve since April. I was approved last week! I almost threw up when they told me. Lol! I was not a heavy child but as I went through college and got married it seemed like all I did was put on weight. I tried weight watchers and Atkins and nutritionists and it seemed like I would lose a little bit of weight and then I would stall and then I would go back to eating the same way again. I have been through a lot in my life and stress is a big factor. My father died when I was nineteen and my mother died the day after my twin boys were born. I have a twin brother and half brothers and a half sister. My family is small. My husband is not supportive of this surgery. I feel all alone because of that. I was diagnosed with gastritis and that has put off my surgery because they thought I had h.pylori but I don't. My surgery date is suppose to be August 5. My husband wants to leave for vacation on Aug 9th. Idk if that is possible but I am going to try. We are going to NC and we live in NJ. We are driving. God help me! I am glad I have found this sight.

[JoiaRox 430]

Congratulations, and welcome! Although a road trip is doable on Day 4, PLEASE know that you will be tired, low energy, etc. - and you'll need to prepare and plan for how to meet your liquid and nutrition needs while you are away! As long as you aren't planning an skydiving, or tons of walking, you'll be fine. Be sure to get out of the car periodically, though, to walk around - that's quite a drive!!

[mokee 588]

Not a good idea at all. Can't you vacation before the surgery so all can enjoy it? You are supposed to walk every hour after surgery to prevent blood clots. If he won't budge on his vacation plans then you need to postpone surgery for after you get back. The first week after is the worse, pain wise, getting used to sipping liquids, getting your Protein needs met. Will not be a vacation for you but just a nightmare.

[chrisncarl 11]

Hi my name is Carrie. I am new to the sight but have been working on getting a gastric sleeve since April. I was approved last week! I almost threw up when they told me. Lol! I was not a heavy child but as I went through college and got married it seemed like all I did was put on weight. I tried weight watchers and Atkins and nutritionists and it seemed like I would lose a little bit of weight and then I would stall and then I would go back to eating the same way again. I have been through a lot in my life and stress is a big factor. My father died when I was nineteen and my mother died the day after my twin boys were born. I have a twin brother and half brothers and a half sister. My family is small. My husband is not supportive of this surgery. I feel all alone because of that. I was diagnosed with gastritis and that has put off my surgery because they thought I had h.pylori but I don't. My surgery date is suppose to be August 5. My husband wants to leave for vacation on Aug 9th. Idk if that is possible but I am going to try. We are going to NC and we live in NJ. We are driving. God help me! I am glad I have found this sight.

Hi there Carrie. I am fairly new as well. I am in nj as well. Me & my husband just went to an informative seminar. We are just starting the process. My story is very similar to yours. I was a small child until I hit puberty. In the last 10 years I have gained 100 lbs. I have a son that I can't keep up with and have started having physical complications from the weight. Where in NJ are you located? I am in Union Beach which is in monmouth county. If you want to talk to someone local chat with me anytime.

Christina

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As long as he knows he will be the one driving I dont see an issue. Nj to nc is far but easily a day trip so walking shouldnt be an issue as you can easily walk before you leave and when you arrive in NC. I was back to work at day 5 but could have easily gone back at day 3 or 4. That being said everyone is different. If your going to relax at the beach on your vaca I see no problem but if you are thrill seekers id wait

[chrisncarl 11]

How did your surgery go?

[artymama 170]

In my opinion traveling that soon is a really bad idea. My surgeon wants no travel for 3-4 weeks in case you need him. You will have many opportunities to travel when it is safer and more enjoyable. Just my 2 cents

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How did your surgery go?

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[DeezJeanz 1,065]

Imo as well, I agree w the poster who Said, if u can't postpone the vaca, then postpone the surgery. Uve come to far to let a travel plan get in the way of ur healing nd ur life (clots or unforeseen circumstances). If ur hubby is not on board w u having it, then its going to be a mess when u guys travel, esp w twins. Idk their ages but I traveled from va to al driving, nd my girls are 16 nd 8 and it was a mess, bc its a long drive and in a car, everyones restless. We made stops only when necessary and in ur case, as they've stated, ur not gonna feel like twin drama, driving drama, trying to eat drink nd be merry on ur trip, bc ull need support for when u have to stop or stretch or whatever, it just seems like if he don't want u doing it, he'd get po'd having to tend to ur needs on the trip nd the kids. Idk, its ultimately ur choice Nd I pray for u all the way, but really think about the entire problems a trip causes when ur healthy. Can't imagine riding that long a trip right after major surgery! I've not had that surgery yet, still hoop jumpn but I've read so much from my fellow posters who have had it. Pray about it sweetheart nd make sure that a vaca so soon after is a good idea, esp since u nd ur hubby are at odds about it. God bless whatever choice u make:))) Dee Dee

[Care1175 58]

Thanks everyone. I will talk to him tonight (hubby). I may have to stay home and let him take the twins to NC. I think his mom is going. I don't want to wait because I am a teacher and have to go back to work in September. I will pray I choose the right thing.

[misslucy 3]

I agree that travel so soon wouldn't be in your best interest! The risk of clots (DVT) will be higher with travel. I know it can be hard to focus on you. It has been very hard for me to focus on myself! This is your time, do what you need to do to become the healthiest mom/wife/teacher that you can be!! It doesn't last forever, when you are healed and feeling wonderful it will be worth the sacrifice. I wish you well :-)

[Kami63 215]

On day 4 I would have probably cried if I had kids to tend to. Then going on a trip with them? Nope I am 9 days post op and still have trouble bending over to tie my shoes. But again everyone is different. Good luck in your journey and I sure hope you can convince him to be on board with you. If not now, maybe after he sees tat you are getting healthier.

[Care1175 58]

I told him my surgery date and he said we won't be able to go to NC in an annoyed tone. I think we are going to just stay in NJ but idk yet.

[JoiaRox 430]

Can I just say? I'm totally not thrilled with your husband's lack of support. What happened to wedding vows? Support? Love?

[jensjoy28 351]

Unfortunately, unsupportive spouses are not uncommon...you can do a search on here and likely find some good advice posted from others who have been in your shoes.

it sounds like it is time for a sit-down with your hubby to see if you can unearth some of the underlying issues/concerns...this surgery can bring forth a lot of difficult topics and feelings for the patient as well as loved ones...